AIBU for expecting to 'sleep in' every day?

Write down every night duty - every feed, every nappy, every muslin change, every minute spent burping. Add up how many hours you actually had lying down and how many likely asleep. Write it up on a piece of paper in the shape of the giant raised middle finger and present it to him.

Absolutely this^^

and when he says it in company tag on how grateful you are he has taken over getting up with 2 year old at 6.45 as that has always exclusively been your job and that extra hour following a broken night with baby is so needed. That hour you get in bed more than cancels out the fact you exclusively do night shift so you can get up at 7.45. Particularly as your body endured giveing birth not so long ago and is still recovering. Dead pan face, let the facts speak for themselves.

what a twunt

This tit for tat race to the bottom competitive tiredness bollocks is terrible for relationships.

OP, a conversation and a reminder that you have a broken nights sleep every single night of your life is required.

Not trashing each other in front of people. One of you has to be the grown up here and unfortunately it ain’t him.

He is just so unrealistic !!! He hasn’t realised that having children affects your life.
I think you need to have a conversation with him about expectations. And maybe don’t expect him to do household chores in the morning? Or just a bit less for peace keeping? Toddler stage is indeed tricky.
forgot to add that it’s definitely not a lay in, it’s just a partial catch up.

I wouldn’t say 07.45 is a lay in as you have no doubt been up many times in the night…

in my opinion you are deffo not being unreasonable here

So to be clear, he thinks you should be up through the night with the baby AND get up at the same time as him on the morning to deal with both children while he.... does what?

Honey I've thought about it and decided we should swap schedules for a week, you absolutely shouldn't have to get no lie ons so Tues, Thurs. Saturday I'm going to get up with the toddler. It'll be a learning curve to get baby taking a bottle for you but I'm sure you'll manage in return for those low ina. No no, do not worry about me, I'll cope losing those lie ina because I love you so much and like you I value fairness.

Yanbu he is taking the piss. Pump and get him to do the night and see how long he thinks that ‘lie in’ is a treat for.
the absolute tosser you’re 4 weeks pp

Tell him he’s right, he should get to “lie in” until 7:45 some mornings, so you’ll take it in turns.

Now all he has to do is learn how to lactate so he can breastfeed during the night multiple times, probably with cracked and sore nipples, and also function on a broken night’s sleep, and learn how to carry on as normal after you’ve kicked him in the nuts every morning to remind him that your nether-regions are still recovering from pushing a human out and you can swap.

I’m sure he’ll be up for that 🙄

It’s hard, but this time is short and the waking through the night passes quickly enough. You need your quick retort to remind him, and others, of how your nights are, but keep it lighthearted as you need to work as a team. DH and I found the move from one to two the most difficult, coinciding for him with a new job and long commute. Hormones released during breastfeeding do help with disturbed sleep, but your DH doesn’t need to know that if you need maximum sympathy.

"Yes dear, you let me sleep until 7.45. and I let you sleep through the night while I'm up with the baby at 12, 3 and 530" (sigh) sorry he's being a bit of a dick!

This! With a comment to say that while he gets up and ready with toddler you are catching up sleep from being up when baby being up in the night

No he should appreciate the fact that you are letting him sleep all night and not expecting him to help care for the baby at night so he has 1 child for 1 hour and wants a gold star? They are his children at home he should be helping care for them.

Often the harsh reality of parenting is a more brutal smack in the face for men when the second child comes along. Their life may have changed quite little after the first was born (especially if you breastfed and coslept and he went back to work after 2 weeks). When there are 2 kids, suddenly it all catches up with them. Yes it’s hard getting ready with a toddler - you already knew that but he didn’t. Yes it’s tough when they’re cranky at bedtime / won’t eat dinner / cry about bathing…. he has lost the buffer of you. He needs to realise that he’s just catching up with you, not overtaking your contribution!

I would start saying "I let you sleep all night through. Every day while I am up several times a night"

congratulations on your new baby.

Your DH is being a bit of a dick. Either do the whiteboard thing, or text/whatsapp him every time you wake with the baby at night, or just... wake him every time too.

And yes, whenever he spouts that rubbish, tell whoever you are with that he is a whining manchild and you are doing all the night feeds for a new baby.

Well then "Once a week, tops" is your response; especially if he is saying this in front of other people.

Wow, maybe say in front of onlookers. “it’s almost worth changing to formula, we can swop & you can do interrupted nights, & I’ll get up an hour before you.
—Tosser—

Do you not reply "yeah and I wake up with the baby multiple times a night so you can get a full night's sleep. It's called parenting." Every fucking time?

Get yourself a white board and pen, every time you get up in the night write down the time and then the time you go back to bed.

You could say you’re tracking baby’s food intake or something.

Once he visually sees the amount of sleep you are not getting in the night, he’ll likely stop thinking he’s a martyr by giving you a meezly 60 mins lie-in in the morning.

I would be pointing out that I am up all night but if he wants to do it he’s welcome to for that “extra” hour. Life is exhausting with small children

No. She is breastfeeding around the clock and he is getting a full nights sleep albeit with an early rise. But he can sleep for a solid 6-8 hours, she can’t. So he doesn’t need any bloody “long lie each” crap until he is doing the nights or she is getting to sleep through. Like in 8-10months time.