AIBU for expecting to 'sleep in' every day?

With WHAT BREASTS!!! op has chosen to exclusively breeastfeed that means volunteering for nights !

What, even though he's the breadwinner and holding down a full time job? That'll go well when he loses his job because he's permanently knackered, won't it?

Tell him you're happy to swap and he can do all the overnight stuff with the baby and have his lie-ins in the morning.

I dont really understand the point of OP "letting him sleep through the night" the baby is exclusively breastfed which wouldve been OPs decision... he cant exactly do that in the middle of night can he 😂😂 - bottle feeding hasnt even been brought up in ops posts...

My DP used to say the same, then at about 9pm I started saying “when would you like to sleep in the next 24hours and when would you like me to sleep? You can sleep at night or have a lay in your choice”. I would then text him good morning when I woke for every night feed, and then good night when I settled baby again. It took 3 nights before he went to bed at 8 and then got up in the morning with toddler and scooped baby out of my bed and let me sleep. Hasn’t mentioned a lay in since.

Is that even true? I breastfed mine for 2 and 4 years respectively, but the shock of being woken 5 times some nights was almost physically painful

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Playing devil's advocate here... But he may be mentioning it at family get togethers because it helps him feel like he's being of some use? I exclusively breastfed our children and my husband was so aware of how little he could do to help with the nights. With our second, he was so pleased when my eldest finally let him put her to bed and would talk about it a lot, along with other things he'd do with her. It may be coming from a place of pride that he's actually able to do something to help with the kids, and also maybe a bit of self consciousness that he can't help much, especially overnight

When our DC were a similar age and we operated a similar routine, my DH bought me a Fitbit to prove I was getting more sleep than him. I wasn’t, my lay ins were bringing me up to the same amount as him, but obviously was still broken sleep. He soon shut up!

Who does he say it in front of because if my DS said it in front of me, I’d laugh at him and tell him to get a grip.

He’s being absolutely ridiculous. I agree with writing down every time you wake up for a week, then give it to him. Hopefully it’ll shut him up.

He needs fo get up at least once during the night to feed and change baby; get children up and fed in the morning; or just let all of you sleep while he gets ready.

7.45am isn't even a lie in! Suggest he does half the night instead!

This irritates me, correct him openly and say it’s not a lie in it’s a catch up sleep of which you don’t get enough of!!

Okey doke, let him swap for a night then. At this point in DS2's life, DH packed me off to the spare room and did the night shift with the newborn and the bottle of expressed milk.

DS2 refused the bottle, and sleep, but DH stuck with it until 6am because he's also a fucking parent.

Might do your twat of a DH good to try the other side of the job?

Now he’s having to do more than 10% of the parenting, he’s showing he’s a shit parent.

It’s sadly common.

Yes, this.

He has a new baby and is sleeping all through the night, uninterrupted, as you're doing 100% of the care.

He is lucky to have you. You are a supermum and superwife.

Ugh. Another dick head :(

Tell him you will swap, he can do the baby all night and you will get the toddler ready. Bit you absolutely have to let him sort the baby and not come to his rescue.

Give him a couple of bottles and tell him he's doing the night shift.

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7.45 is not a lie in. that’s a normal getting up time for most people who have kids. Does your 2 year old need to get up a full hour earlier than you and the baby? I would be leaving them to sleep longer as well.

I don’t agree with op’s dh but 7.45 is a lie in for everyone I know with toddlers, babies and older, must people I know are up 7 or well before. In fact for many of us when we had toddlers we were struggling to convince toddlers not to be up around the 5 mark!! With school and work now we all have to be up at 7. Saying that op’s dh isn’t up over the night with a baby but I do think it is good that he’s up and getting the older child up, a lot of women have to deal with the baby and older child (not saying it’s ok that they do but op’s dh isn’t doing nothing).

My DP was a little like this at one point. Now our toddlers wake him up between 5-6:30 and I sometimes stay in bed as I do the night shif. We had words.make him realise how much you are doing.

6.45 isn't even that early. My DC are at primary school and I'm up at 6.15 every morning to get ready and sorted for the day, apart from Tuesday's when I get up at 5.40am to go to reformer. If he's tired he should go to bed earlier.

I didn't find the jump from 1-2 difficult but my DH did - I've never seen him so tired. What a shame, poor lamb 🙄

Yes even if she doesn’t want to pump he can change and burp, she can even sleep with her boob out and he can hold the baby while she sleeps.

j would be so angry and petty. There would be no way he wasn’t feeling the other side

I'd be waking him up every single time to tell him in the moment 😂

7.45 is not a lie in. that’s a normal getting up time for most people who have kids. Does your 2 year old need to get up a full hour earlier than you and the baby? I would be leaving them to sleep longer as well.