Ex disputing CMS and making rival Child Benefit claim in 50/50 care

No we don't, but we also have a system in the court for a clean break and the finances to be dealt with as part of that, and the OP was clear she got what she was rightfully expecting to get. And sorry but if you think 60k and a greater split of the house is on the breadline then I think you're very out of touch.

£60,000 is object poverty in some situations.
If he’s the Crown Prince of Brunei, then the kids are literally living in the equivalent of poverty, probably worse than that.
As for should’ve stayed married to him - that may not have been her choice.
And we certainly don’t want people staying married for the wrong reasons now do we?

Mumsnet really needs a facepalm reaction

Theres only an argument for dad paying towards OPs holidays if the disparity were so much that the children would feel unhappy, eg if they were in luxury at dads and abject poverty at mums. But she's on 60k, and was set up with a greater amount from the divorce. She is in a position to take them on holiday, it might not be as fancy as dad's but if she can afford holidays and a few treats the courts won't be interested.
If she wanted a truly even experience she would have had to stay married to him.

The legal rights in this instance are with the father.

If a NR parent isn't caring and financially supporting their kids the Law supports the RP as it should.

In this case the law will be on the father's side because the situation is very very different

And now we have it, enforcing our legal rights makes us leeches.
How far we have come

many men already think women see them as walking cash machines who owe them a certain lifestyle. There are things you can do as a woman to protect yourself before having children, it’s best to educate women on those rather than advocating to become a leech after the event.

In this case the kids were still getting go to on holiday but mum was jealous she wasnt getting the same luxury trip. The kids still went. No kids missed out. She missed out because she can’t get her hands on more of his money.

So the previous poster who went through this exact same situation is wrong?
Okay then

Well.i feel sorry for the ex and the children

I won’t find myself in the position of asking for a paid holiday if I get divorced.

I earn more than my partner and would have absolutely no need for him to fund my lifestyle.

That option remains available to women.

The significan income disparity was dealt with in their divorce though. And that's what will crucify her... in the meantime she'll waste time and legal costs and ryin the xo-parenting relationship all because she's greedy

But the fact that it's going to tribunal (and as far as I am aware most tribunals rule in favour of no CMS for 50/50) just shows that it isn't the law.

CMS is a software application and they don't have the authority to overrule it without court orders. I'm surprised the OPs ex didn't just submit the divorce decree that states no maintenance payable.

You are incorrect. Go on Google it
From the CSM website;
However, child maintenance may still be payable if there is a significant income disparity
all this woman has asked for is for the law to be implemented and as is often the case it hasn’t been.
Which is not something any of us should be condoning
That’s my final word on the matter
I feel very sorry for the OP

Because legally in the case of 50/50 no maintenance is due

The law is not in agreement with the OP which is why she is worse off for kicking the hornets nest

Oh sorry, I thought you were just suggesting that anyone with more money and absolutely zero ties to me anymore should be paying for my holidays... just because they can and because I'm a greedy entitled bitch I should ask for it.

However, legally that is not true so that’s that
But do knock the neighbours door and see if they’ll take you to Disney. It’s worth a try especially if you’re shagging them.

She had children with her ex

The divorced -

Dad and mum share care 50/50, they shared extra costs 50/50
Mum had a bigger split of the divorce financial split
Both pay for everything kids need when with them
Until recently mum also had CB ontop

In far as money goes they no longer are tied at all. So there is no need for him to financially support her any more than my neighbour needs to financially support me

Are you sleeping with and producing children withyour neighbours as well ? This is far more prevalent than I thought.

But the point is they are equal parents and have been for the last 4.5yrs. Who benefits if the dad just stopped paying like you suggested and why would he do that? It's no different what your anatomy is.

Oh, I’m perfectly aware of the concept
However, the child maintenance is to even up the lifestyle which part of that concept are you struggling with?
It’s why many people with 50-50 doing in fact still find themselves liable via the child maintenance service
You really shouldn’t be resisting this. You never know when you might find yourself in the situation. Smug marrieds around the world get their smile wiped off their face every day.

The obvious course of action is to pop in to the neighbours and ask them to also pay for your holiday....because y'know apparently that's normal 🙄😂

And who benefits from that and what mother would do it ?

He pays for the holidays he takes them in. She pays for the holidays she takes them on. What can't you understand about that simple concept

No reason why he can't pay... sure
But absolutely no reason why he SHOULD HAVE TO pay. They are divorced years, she doesn't get to continue to reap the benefits of having a husband.

He takes the kids on holidays during his access time. The kids aren't going without.

Unless you had a child with your neighbour and that they are the biological parent in which case we have more questions
Then actually, yes, you can ask for that