AIBU to expect some dinner in the house?

Why can't she be annoyed at him?

He's been running the home, working from home.

Why wouldnt you expect that home to be run?

Sorry …have I got this right? you’ve been on holiday and you’re annoyed he hasn’t done shopping and chores whilst he was working? You’re moaning about a three hour drive with a child (presumably to a location you chose.?)

really?

Is this a reverse?

Si now you have another child that needs parenting,op

How attractive

Agree with you, staycation means staying at home but acting like you are on holiday, this sounds like a holiday

Order a takeaway or make sure you have some things in for situations like this

• frozen pizzas
• pasta and jars of sauce
• frozen fish, frozen veg and chips

I would have thought a working adult is IN their routine.

Why do we infantilise men so much?

Do any of you women on this site like men or have a good marriage? He forgot milk, leave the marriage. Such man haters.

A week of solo parenting a 3 year old doesn’t sound like much of a holiday…

Poor show, especially if ge was in Tesco today. Guess he's barely gives thought to yoi and your son. Out of sight...

Because OP is ill and has been looking after THEIR child solo all week

I've given up and expect my husband to finish the bread, the milk and everything he needs for a packed lunch and never consider where it comes from, let alone What's for dinner. However he will go to the shop.... I just need to write him a list! He has many positives though. This is the mental load. I have sons and have tried to make them think and they are much better. In fact this has made me think I need to take the younger one shopping and make some meals over Easter!
You need a chat about this, and say that in this situation your husband needs to take responsibility.

Do you really believe this @Jopo12 ? Interesting how men can be perfectly competent at absolutely anything when it suits them.

They must laugh their socks off at women who fall for the “oh they’re generally a bit crap” line. No. It’s pure selfishness and at the root of it, misogynistic ideas that domestic labour and ‘thinking about others’ is women’s work.

Wake up.

YANBU if I'd been solo parenting while DP had the house to himself he'd have had dinner and a cuppa ready for me getting home.

He didn't think for a second that you'd need food for dinner while he was literally at the supermarket buying food for himself.

Same thing, you wouldnt see anything different. The person at home would be expected to make sure the house was running as normal.

Didn't it come up in conversation.

Me or dh always check in with other if one of us is away to see if person at home needs to get food or going to eat on way home.

I would LOVE to see that too. Because of all the married and/or cohabiting men who post on MN, I don’t think I’ve ever seen one of them post that they’d taken their young child away for a week to parent by themselves.

Well theres obviously bread in the house because she mentioned it too, afterwards.

No cheese, no bits of ham?

I work with people who have literally nothing and thats very very very unusual.

My issue is with the concept that a few scraps of food in the house is 'nothing'.

Its about people not really knowing or understanding how to put some food together out of what they do have, a few tins of this or that.

He could have done that but if this is someone who nips out for a meal deal for lunch rather than using the bread in the house, he cant have that skill either.

She’s just told us that someone helped her pay for her trip. What about that makes you think she’s got spare cash?

I would LOVE to see the responses if the thread was from a man not getting a meal on the table when he comes in through the door and finding a fridge empty even of milk after a week of his wife being at home sans child.

She’s just told you there isn’t. Do you think she’s lying? Or are you lucky enough to not understand just how many people buy only what they need for the week and don’t have a cupboard full of the basics?

No, that’s really not what the problem is.

She said the child was ill in the OP. And unless you think she was on holiday in the next town along, it's surely pretty obvious there would have been a car journey of some length.
YANU OP. You may have been 'on holiday', but id take 4 days WFH over going solo with a toddler all day long. He had by far the easy end of this week and should at the least have sorted food so you could rest this evening.

She’s already said that she has some chips and maybe some peas, but nothing to go with it. Do you think she’s forgotten about the selection of pies, lasagnas and fish fingers she stashed behind the frozen peas for such an emergency?

I wouldnt expect people to have cupboards 'full' or freezers of batch cooking, but I dont believe there isnt a tin of beans, tin of toms, potatoes languishing at the bottom of the fridge, tins of tuna or a couple of bits of chicken in the freezer

Stuff like that

Most people turn their noses up at simple food these days, thats the problem.

But you can afford to go away for a week?