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AIBU to ask my neighbour to stop his new dog barking so much?

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Doggodoggo · 20/03/2026 15:18

My next-door neighbour got a young dog recently. I don't know the breed or how old it is but it is already massive and very very loud! He lets it out in the garden multiple times a day where it barks its head off constantly. He is a single man who works full time from home so I suspect that every time he has a work meeting/call he just lets it out in the garden where it barks non stop. He doesn't seem to take it out very much, maybe once a day in the evening. He also doesn't seem to have much control over it as it often lies in the road and won't move!

I had some sympathy at first as thought perhaps he would be training it not to bark all the time or the excitement of being outside would wear off. But it's now really stressing me out. He's recently started putting it out in the garden at 6.30am and it is barking non stop and waking me up which is so frustrating as I work US hours due to my job so end up working late in the evening, go to bed fairly late and don't need to be up until late. I'm losing so much sleep and it's stressing me out.

Now every time I hear the dog it makes me tense and anxious. Its a horrible noise, so loud and intrusive. And this is from inside the house so it will be even worse in the summer with windows open or being in the garden.

I don't know him very well but he seems fairly friendly and nods hello if we pass each other.

I don't know anything about dog training but I'm worried it's just going to continue like this as he doesn't seem to be doing anything to stop it barking. I'm so stressed out I've even been thinking of moving house if it doesn't improve.

AIBU to speak to him and ask him if he could somehow reduce the amount of barking? Especially at 6.30am! Or do I just need to suck it up and accept it as part of having neighbours?

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Willowskyblue · 20/03/2026 21:53

We have this with our neighbour’s two dogs. They have no interest in training their dogs and have no problem with disturbing the neighbours. I now just yell shut the barking up when the dogs are outside or barking at me as I try to unlock my front door and it seems to have made them a little embarrassed and they bring the dogs in. However, they’ve now bought some high pitched squealing device which goes off when the dogs bark, which I guess is supposed to signal to them to be quiet. It doesn’t work and is an extra layer of annoyance.

BlueMum16 · 20/03/2026 21:50

I think I'd find some local dog trainers and pass on the numbers. Say something like 'i know you are busy and keen to sort the barking so you have some peace and I've found you these'

Then every time you see him ask how it's going.

You need to train him!

Edit to add - he's an arse but easier to try than have to move.

Doggodoggo · 20/03/2026 21:42

Morepositivemum · 20/03/2026 21:36

SpiritAdder
RSPCA? The barking is distress. He isn’t taking care of the dog properly.

Some breeds are just barky- our dog never barks, neighbours dog barks a lot but even when they’re out in the garden playing with him/ when we’re chatting over the fence etc. and it’s a very happy dog!

Does it wake you up barking at 6.30am and then disturb you all day long?

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Doggodoggo · 20/03/2026 21:41

The problem is that I'm fast asleep and then it wakes me up at 6 30am. Im not going to sleep with headphones on and white noise all night long. Honestly, why should I? It's so antisocial to chuck your dog outside to bark rather than take it for a walk.

I feel like ive been really understanding and was really nice to him but he has made clear he doesn't care if I get six hours sleep a night because he cant be bothered to walk his dog in the morning.

He moved next door a couple of years ago and ive had no problems with him before but now I feel like I need to move before this dog drives me insane. Its not fair. Ive lived here peacefully for so long and thought I would retire here. Just find it hard to comprehend how someone could care so little about the effect they are having on their neighbours.

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Morepositivemum · 20/03/2026 21:36

SpiritAdder
RSPCA? The barking is distress. He isn’t taking care of the dog properly.

Some breeds are just barky- our dog never barks, neighbours dog barks a lot but even when they’re out in the garden playing with him/ when we’re chatting over the fence etc. and it’s a very happy dog!

Angelic999 · 20/03/2026 21:33

I don't know maybe suggest he gets the dog a chew toy with treats inside it or something that its distracted with. It also sounds like it needs a decent bit of exercise first thing to burn off energy before he starts work. If he hasn't got time to walk it when he's working he could get a dog walker.

For you, get decent headphones and play white noise when the dog is outside.

Plmnki · 20/03/2026 21:32

He’s a selfish fuckwit and a poor dog owner. You need to keep a log of the barking and take videos of it. Build a case and take it up with the council. You’ve got 15 yrs of hell in front you alas. Huge sympathy. Be tough, the law is on your side.

Doggodoggo · 20/03/2026 21:29

Vodka1 · 20/03/2026 21:25

My dog barks at the neighbours behind me dog, they bark at each other constantly. It's really fucking annoying and that's my own!

She does have an insanely loud bark, and the other dog has a chirpy little bark. Never seen it, sounds small.

My dog is very well loved and does need some training on not barking in the garden, she barks at everything, cats, birds, worms. It's really hard though because it's easy to train a dog by praise/treats for NOT doing something, but it's obviously it's also quite natural for them to talk. It takes time.

My dog is no way abused or neglected, she just has bad manners sometimes. I do call her back in alot purely because it annoys me so I know it'll annoy others.

Plus side OP, a small one - you now know it's annoying him too, so hopefully it's something he is working on, or will when he's calmed down.

Well he shoves it out in the garden because it's annoying him in the house! That seems to be his solution rather than actually training it. His reaction this evening does not give me any hope that he cares how much it is affecting me. He was just moaning about how hard it is making HIS life. There was no sympathy or understanding for me at all. He was pretty rude actually.

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Doggodoggo · 20/03/2026 21:26

I've now had a couple of glasses of wine due to the stress and am googling how to buy a cockerel to give him a taste of his own medicine! 🤣 Or maybe I should start playing heavy metal at 6.30amto drown out the barking.

Seriously though, are people just expected to put up with their neighbours dogs barking so loudly? Is it so hard to train them?

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Vodka1 · 20/03/2026 21:25

My dog barks at the neighbours behind me dog, they bark at each other constantly. It's really fucking annoying and that's my own!

She does have an insanely loud bark, and the other dog has a chirpy little bark. Never seen it, sounds small.

My dog is very well loved and does need some training on not barking in the garden, she barks at everything, cats, birds, worms. It's really hard though because it's easy to train a dog by praise/treats for NOT doing something, but it's obviously it's also quite natural for them to talk. It takes time.

My dog is no way abused or neglected, she just has bad manners sometimes. I do call her back in alot purely because it annoys me so I know it'll annoy others.

Plus side OP, a small one - you now know it's annoying him too, so hopefully it's something he is working on, or will when he's calmed down.

Angelic999 · 20/03/2026 21:22

Honestly I think a good third of posters live in cloud cuckoo land. As if the RSPCA are going to investigate a person and take action because a dog is barking! 😂If it's being fed and watered and has vets appointments when needed, a barking dog isn't a matter for the RSPCA!

TheSillyPinkFatball · 20/03/2026 21:16

I really feel for the OP .Why should they have to think about moving because of an inconsiderate dog owner who wont accept any responsibility.

Doggodoggo · 20/03/2026 21:12

I don't think it's a cruelty issue at all. It's laziness and lack of training, and he doesn't care that it's stressing me out and stopping me sleeping. Just really shocked that someone could happily let their dog wake up their neighbours at 6.30am and then complain about how hard their life is with no hint of an apology. I suspect he regrets getting it and didnt realise how much work a dog is but that's not my problem. Im seriously thinking I will have to move house after 20 happy years here as it is creating so much stress and anxiety. Is there any hope it will get better as it gets older?

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21ZIGGY · 20/03/2026 20:52

SpiritAdder · 20/03/2026 15:20

RSPCA? The barking is distress. He isn’t taking care of the dog properly.

Dont be ridiculous. My dog barks when i let him in the garden. He has loads of walks and enrichment!

Waxlyrically · 20/03/2026 20:28

Wow with the RSPCA comments. My dog is walked every day 2 or 3 times, played with and not left alone very often but she does sometimes bark in the garden because she’s excited and wants me to play. I call her in if she’s really barky because she’s a big dog and loud. She also lies down in the road ( a quiet lane) because she’s doesn’t want to go the way we are walking - it’s a retriever thing! She’s 100% loved and cared for though.

Onefortheroad25 · 20/03/2026 19:31

Dogs barking is really awkward with neighbours. We asked ours nicely to please do something about his 2 alsations and it’s caused a lot of tension. He barely says hello now and the wife blanks us.

Tableforjoan · 20/03/2026 19:25

Now report to the council noise team as you’ve asked and his well stupid.

Doggodoggo · 20/03/2026 19:23

BackIn20 · 20/03/2026 17:20

Ignore the 'go and live somewhere remote with no other ppl around' snark.

It's anti social behaviour, and your LA Environmental Health department are your friend. They can take action if it's depriving you enjoyment of your home.

Sadly, my advice is don't approach him directly as people can be defensive, entitled dickheads.

EH will probably send a letter to your neighbour saying there have been complaints & ask you to keep a diary . If it is ongoing, they may install some monitoring equipment.

I worked in EH for years and it generally did the trick. Most people don't want to upset their neighbours. The constant jolt of dogs barking is horrible if you WFH.

Well you hit the nose on the head with the defensive entitled dickhead bit. I went round and was really friendly and said I had been struggling to sleep because of the barking. He instantly got massively defensive. Said there's nothing you can do to stop a dog barking. It disturbs him when he has work calls so he has to put it outside. He's not interested in doing anything different. Went on about how stressful and important his job is and he cant have a dog barking on his calls. He said you cant train a dog not to bark.

No apology or sympathy for me. Just played the victim like he was having a worse time than me because the dog was making his life hard.

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BackIn20 · 20/03/2026 17:20

Ignore the 'go and live somewhere remote with no other ppl around' snark.

It's anti social behaviour, and your LA Environmental Health department are your friend. They can take action if it's depriving you enjoyment of your home.

Sadly, my advice is don't approach him directly as people can be defensive, entitled dickheads.

EH will probably send a letter to your neighbour saying there have been complaints & ask you to keep a diary . If it is ongoing, they may install some monitoring equipment.

I worked in EH for years and it generally did the trick. Most people don't want to upset their neighbours. The constant jolt of dogs barking is horrible if you WFH.

TheeNotoriousPIG · 20/03/2026 17:12

Good luck with this, OP.

My NDN has two dogs. They bark CONSTANTLY when outdoors, often for an hour at a time. I understand that NDN can't take them out regularly, because one dog is too big and strong for them while they are recovering from surgery, but the barking is infuriating, and all of the neighbours complain about it.

I tried anti-barking devices attached to the fence, but even they didn't work. Occasionally, I shout, "Shut up!" after long and unbearable periods of barking. Sometimes I send a message and ask for them to be taken in because I am not well and need to rest, which usually shuts them up most of the time when they're indoors.

Tableforjoan · 20/03/2026 17:10

The rspca will not care not one tiny bit.

As long as the dog has food, water and shelter they will not give one tiny fuck.

You can try talking to him op otherwise it’s a official noise complaint.

PituitaryPippa · 20/03/2026 16:38

I’ve recently had to complain about the same issue but it was to environmental health at the council. They took it seriously and told me it is classed as anti-social behaviour. It helps to keep a record of the times and periods for which the dog is barking and if your complaint is supported by other neighbours. Don’t know what happened but the barking stopped!

SpiritAdder · 20/03/2026 16:12

thks for the extra info OP. I guess depends if you are up to talking to him. Note that if the dog does end up neglected, and you do call animal welfare your neighbor will know it was you that called them if you’ve already complained to him. You will lose future anonyminity.

Villanousvillans · 20/03/2026 16:11

Doggodoggo · 20/03/2026 16:03

I'm really glad to hear that you can train the dog not to bark and it's hopefully not too difficult. I guess it will just depend on the neighbour's attitude and how he reacts when i speak to him. He always seems quite stressed but I think he has a stressful job. I don't know how he can bear the noise either!

It’s never the dog’s fault, always the owner. It’s very easy to bring your dog inside if it barks. Good luck with chatting with your neighbour.

Doggodoggo · 20/03/2026 16:03

SpiritAdder · 20/03/2026 15:57

She said maybe once a day in the evening.
Maybe indicates it is not daily.

There is plenty to indicate because she has said the dog barks nonstop. If it were only the usual amount of barking, I don’t think OP would have started a thread and be feeling so stressed and anxious.

I assumed a dog left lying in the road was unsupervised because who in their right mind would allow their dog to do that?! Unless they want their dog to be run over?

Sorry i said maybe once a day just because he might take it out more but I don't see him.

It is a quiet rural lane. He just cant seem to direct the dog where to go. It lies down at the side of the road and won't move.

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