AIBU to be livid at kitchen fitter for pissing all over my bathroom like a bloody tomcat?

We've had awful and excellent tradesmen working for us over the years. I think it comes down to their upbringing and the personal standards they've been allowed to develop.

But even so, even if they have come from a chaotic home, their training should have emphasised to them that their workplace will usually be someone else's home, and that, whatever their own backgound, they need to show respect for it.

I often wonder just what is involved in training some tradesmen - they do need to pass actual qualifications, don't they?? Surely there will have been a bit about professional conduct? Or am I the world's most naive homeowner???

I won't let strange men use my bathroom precisely because I cannot stop them standing up to urinate and can't force them to put the lid down before flushing.

I think realistically this is the best way forward, moreso than a sign or telling them they must pee sitting down. I think it’s understandable women are funny about talking to strange men about whether they stand or sit peeing and even more so about policing it!

Sorry but growing up I seen some tradesmen be very aggressive to my (single) mother who was not afraid to confront them. And it’s not that I can’t speak up for myself, but it’s that I would rather than not have the unpleasant confrontations my mum had with them.

Unfortunately the type to be disrespectful in your bathroom are also often the type to be aggressive and unreasonable.

Yeah, I wish women would learn how to speak directly and deal with confrontation. It's her home, her rules. I would ask him to use a public toilet going forward due to hygiene / cleanliness concerns. I won't let strange men use my bathroom precisely because I cannot stop them standing up to urinate and can't force them to put the lid down before flushing.

Yuk ,I expect he lives alone!

Is it weird that I’m thinking about what the end of his penis must look like in order for the pee to come out in all directions? Probably.

Sensible point actually. Hypospadias is a fairly common congenital abnormality where the hole in the head of the penis isn't in the normal position. It can be formed on the underside of the head, or sometimes it's further down the shaft. Nowadays surgery would usually be offered when a baby, but if this hasn't happened, it really could make aiming harder.

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Seriously if every man that uses your toilet cant aim I would say your toilet may be the issue… I get the odd sprinkle but not at the extreme you are saying by every man!!

Show him this video

I would have to say something how come you have not said anything?

OMG women are even responsible for how men pee! Someone needs to read that book ‘Why Women are Blamed for Everything.

I think in future I'll just give them a fiver to go to the cafe down the street. They can buy a cuppa and use their toilets. This thread has inspired me to take back the power 😁

"His hose obviously isn't long enough for him to aim properly" <-- I was told by a angry relative who had a workman in who pissed all over her toilet seat/ floor 😂

Well you learn summat new every day! Thanks Spiderx :)

I've been married three times, had live in boyfriends brothers etc and can honestly say this has never happened. Who are these men?

Can you leave a polite but firm message in the bathroom?

What a dirty, disgusting get. I would take a picture of his piss pools and post them to his boss or company.

I would ask for another workmen to finish the job. And fie a discount.

I would not have him in my house.

That is a quite a privileged mindset to think everyone can risk letting them use it and just see how it goes.

What woman really wants th hassle of confronting a tradesman in her home and tell him to clean up his mess? Would you even trust him to do it properly since he’s clearly unhygienic if he’s left the bathroom in a state?

And if he doesn’t do it then you’re left with a mess to clear up.

There’s plenty of posters who have said they’re disabled and did you not consider they may struggle to clean up the mess afterwards which some have said they can’t do?

I don’t let tradesmen use my bathroom either. Thankfully there’s a communal one in the apartment building they can use, but if not they’d have to make their own arrangements like so many do anyway.

Not all tradesmen insist on asking to use their customers toilets.

Be angry at the many who behave poorly in people’s bathrooms thus making it to much of a risk for some of us to let them have access.

It's not a legal requirement. Is it also 'basic human decency' to be expected to clean up after them too as most of them probably wouldn't clean up if they behave like that?
A lot of them don't behave like humans judging by some mentioned by other PPs, so...they can go elsewhere.
Well, don't moan next time you're cleaning up after them.
There's a very big difference between guests and workmen btw.

You should do what I did, I messaged DH moaning about the filthy builders leaving skiddies in the toilet but accidentally sent it to the head builder. It did the trick

Dirty bastard. Yes you must say something, even just that you don't have time to keep cleaning the floor after he's been, etc. How on earth can a grown man carry on like this (if it's not deliberate)?

Lock your bathroom, tell him to save it or use the garden. He's disgusting.

I would cover the area in thick plastic. He will get the message when he sees this on the floor. No need for any words. But I’m afraid I’ve had disgusting tradesmen use my toilet they have a shit and don’t even wash their hands yuk.

Just say something!
It happened to me once, I was 25 at most, moving to my first flat in the UK, so foreign country for me. One of the movers left a mess in the bathroom (and then left!), I went to see the guy who looked like the team leader, asked him to come see for himself and asked him to clean up! In my mind there was no way I was cleaning that myself! And I also queried why this guy came apparently just to use my bathroom.