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"Not all men” replies are ridiculous

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GarlicFound · 19/03/2026 21:07

Generalisations exist for a reason. There's no need to point out that there are exceptions. When you want to highlight that your comment's universal, you say "All children", for instance. Generalising to "Children" implies "Children in general, for the most part, usually".

Everybody knows this. So there's no need to specify "NOT ALL MEN" each and every time anyone makes a general observation about men, goddamit!

You don't say "Not all dogs [have four legs]" or "Not all ice-cream [is cold]".

Having a penis doesn't make you especially vulnerable to generalisations. So grow up, please, and accept that YOU or your DH are not "all men" - general comments aren't intended to single you out. And if you feel like they are, you're a bit thick, not to mention narcissistic.

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CatherinedeBourgh · 19/03/2026 21:20

Jumpingthruhoops · 19/03/2026 21:17

I think you've got it a bit wrong OP. People say 'not all men', not to highlight the 'exception' but the 'rule', which is that the vast, vast majority of men are decent.
You obviously disagree and that's fine.

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This. The problem with the 'men are...' statements is that it suggests that it applies to the majority, when in fact it is absolutely a minority.

confusedbydating · 19/03/2026 21:19

Jumpingthruhoops · 19/03/2026 21:17

I think you've got it a bit wrong OP. People say 'not all men', not to highlight the 'exception' but the 'rule', which is that the vast, vast majority of men are decent.
You obviously disagree and that's fine.

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The vast majority and yet

90+ % of violent crimes are men
90+% of sexual crimes are men
most women in the world do not have equal rights

so we don’t need to hear about your experiences of the good ones. We know it’s not ALL of them but it’s usually one of them. Dave from Knightsbridge and his mates isn’t a worldwide example

mumofoneAloneandwell · 19/03/2026 21:18

Hard agree

MasterBeth · 19/03/2026 21:17

Not all not all men replies are ridiculous.

confusedbydating · 19/03/2026 21:17

Womaninhouse17 · 19/03/2026 21:12

But the comment ISN'T universal, which is why it's reasonable to say 'not all...'

Lol are you newly married?

Jumpingthruhoops · 19/03/2026 21:17

GarlicFound · 19/03/2026 21:07

Generalisations exist for a reason. There's no need to point out that there are exceptions. When you want to highlight that your comment's universal, you say "All children", for instance. Generalising to "Children" implies "Children in general, for the most part, usually".

Everybody knows this. So there's no need to specify "NOT ALL MEN" each and every time anyone makes a general observation about men, goddamit!

You don't say "Not all dogs [have four legs]" or "Not all ice-cream [is cold]".

Having a penis doesn't make you especially vulnerable to generalisations. So grow up, please, and accept that YOU or your DH are not "all men" - general comments aren't intended to single you out. And if you feel like they are, you're a bit thick, not to mention narcissistic.

I think you've got it a bit wrong OP. People say 'not all men', not to highlight the 'exception' but the 'rule', which is that the vast, vast majority of men are decent.
You obviously disagree and that's fine.

murasaki · 19/03/2026 21:13

The 'not my Nigel' comments are a bit unnecessary. Obviously it's not all men. But it's nearly always men.

Womaninhouse17 · 19/03/2026 21:12

But the comment ISN'T universal, which is why it's reasonable to say 'not all...'

flagpolesitta · 19/03/2026 21:09

Not all men but if I gave you a box of 10 malteasers and told you one was actually made out of poo, you’d be wary of them all 😆