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"Not all men” replies are ridiculous

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GarlicFound · 19/03/2026 21:07

Generalisations exist for a reason. There's no need to point out that there are exceptions. When you want to highlight that your comment's universal, you say "All children", for instance. Generalising to "Children" implies "Children in general, for the most part, usually".

Everybody knows this. So there's no need to specify "NOT ALL MEN" each and every time anyone makes a general observation about men, goddamit!

You don't say "Not all dogs [have four legs]" or "Not all ice-cream [is cold]".

Having a penis doesn't make you especially vulnerable to generalisations. So grow up, please, and accept that YOU or your DH are not "all men" - general comments aren't intended to single you out. And if you feel like they are, you're a bit thick, not to mention narcissistic.

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auserna · 19/03/2026 23:09

Jumpingthruhoops · 19/03/2026 21:17

I think you've got it a bit wrong OP. People say 'not all men', not to highlight the 'exception' but the 'rule', which is that the vast, vast majority of men are decent.
You obviously disagree and that's fine.

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Not in my experience, unfortunately.

confusedbydating · 19/03/2026 23:07

FrivolousKitchenRollUse · 19/03/2026 23:03

Well it's always been the former as my original post said.

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So why are you comparing race to gender in a discussion about who causes harm to women when the facts speak for themselves?

because it’s not gypies or black people. It’s men.
and if you look at all the wars right now, it’s a specific type of man - old rich ones (Putin, trump, etc). Women are not starting these wars! And we don’t need protecting from ourselves and children

FrivolousKitchenRollUse · 19/03/2026 23:03

confusedbydating · 19/03/2026 22:58

Why? Because you magically understand how to accurately extrapolate information from statistics now and how to accurately use them to enhance an argument?
or are you now doing the Narcs second favourite move - rewriting history?

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Well it's always been the former as my original post said.

Womaninhouse17 · 19/03/2026 22:59

GarlicFound · 19/03/2026 21:30

POINT MISSED rather spectacularly.

Your quote says "All women" which is demonstrably untrue. I loathe spa days, but am happy to agree that "Women love spa days".

See the difference? If not, I refer you to my a bit thick remark ...

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I wouldn't agree that women love spa days. I would perhaps say 'many women' or 'some women' love them, but to say 'women love spa days' is a generalisation and obviously untrue.

StarDolphins · 19/03/2026 22:59

Jumpingthruhoops · 19/03/2026 21:17

I think you've got it a bit wrong OP. People say 'not all men', not to highlight the 'exception' but the 'rule', which is that the vast, vast majority of men are decent.
You obviously disagree and that's fine.

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I don’t agree that the majority of men are decent. Fair enough, most aren’t rapists and murderers but there’s definitely far, far more dickheads and perverts about than there used to be. I look at the guys my friends are with and out of 11, there’s only 2 I could call properly decent.

confusedbydating · 19/03/2026 22:58

FrivolousKitchenRollUse · 19/03/2026 22:55

Phew, luckily none of that applies here then

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Why? Because you magically understand how to accurately extrapolate information from statistics now and how to accurately use them to enhance an argument?
or are you now doing the Narcs second favourite move - rewriting history?

FrivolousKitchenRollUse · 19/03/2026 22:55

confusedbydating · 19/03/2026 22:52

Yes you’re definitely a man. narcissist’s playbook:

  1. pretend not to understand until target gets frustrated.
  2. call target rude and take the moral high ground.
  3. say crazy feminist and carry on with your misogynistic beliefs

Predators playbook. Go post on an incel websites

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Phew, luckily none of that applies here then

Caitl995 · 19/03/2026 22:55

flagpolesitta · 19/03/2026 21:09

Not all men but if I gave you a box of 10 malteasers and told you one was actually made out of poo, you’d be wary of them all 😆

Hahaha, tbh it would be more like 8/10 are made of poo but you know #notallmen 🤮

Womaninhouse17 · 19/03/2026 22:54

GarlicFound · 19/03/2026 21:40

Bloody hell, it's an uphill battle.

How many times have you pulled someone up for saying "our four-legged friends" when referring to cats & dogs?

Have you ever replied "Not all trees" when someone comments that trees make an environment pleasant?

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Hardly the same. Animals or trees aren't hurt or affected by comments made about them. People might be. Stereotypes (i.e. generalisations) can be harmful.

Ladamesansmerci · 19/03/2026 22:52

It drives me bonkers. Especially when it's on a thread where the topic is about domestic violence against women, or sexual crimes against children. Fuck off, we know it's not all men. But statistically, these crimes are largely gendered, and no one needs to hear 'not all men, my husband, 2 brothers, a close family friend are wonderful'. It is a space for women to talk about harms from men. It shouldn't turn into a space to pander to or defend men.

Also, misogyny is systemic within our society. All men uphold patriarchy (in the same way that I as a white woman will hold unconscious internalised racial biases) and have a responsibility to reflect upon that and how they can support women's liberation.

confusedbydating · 19/03/2026 22:52

FrivolousKitchenRollUse · 19/03/2026 22:48

I just walk slow, what was that proof?

Yes you’re definitely a man. narcissist’s playbook:

  1. pretend not to understand until target gets frustrated.
  2. call target rude and take the moral high ground.
  3. say crazy feminist and carry on with your misogynistic beliefs

Predators playbook. Go post on an incel websites

FrivolousKitchenRollUse · 19/03/2026 22:48

I just walk slow, what was that proof?

confusedbydating · 19/03/2026 22:45

FrivolousKitchenRollUse · 19/03/2026 22:45

Please show me where I speculated anything of the sort. My point was solely to contradict a wild and incorrect OP.

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She’s not incorrect. You are. And I’ve just proven why.

are you by any chance… a man?

FrivolousKitchenRollUse · 19/03/2026 22:45

confusedbydating · 19/03/2026 22:43

Please show me serious crimes that are female dominated besides prostitution?

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Please show me where I speculated anything of the sort. My point was solely to contradict a wild and incorrect OP.

confusedbydating · 19/03/2026 22:44

confusedbydating · 19/03/2026 22:43

Please show me serious crimes that are female dominated besides prostitution?

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And even then… apart from the lucky high end ones… who makes the money off that?

confusedbydating · 19/03/2026 22:43

FrivolousKitchenRollUse · 19/03/2026 22:41

Still no

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Please show me serious crimes that are female dominated besides prostitution?

FrivolousKitchenRollUse · 19/03/2026 22:41

confusedbydating · 19/03/2026 22:40

It’s not always a gypsy. It’s not always a black man.

but it’s probably always a man

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Still no

confusedbydating · 19/03/2026 22:40

FrivolousKitchenRollUse · 19/03/2026 22:35

Weird post but as someone that deals in a lot of these stats please post your opinions on gypsies for most crime in areas of high deprivation and a good chunk of the black community for knife crime.

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It’s not always a gypsy. It’s not always a black man.

but it’s probably always a man

FrivolousKitchenRollUse · 19/03/2026 22:35

GarlicFound · 19/03/2026 21:07

Generalisations exist for a reason. There's no need to point out that there are exceptions. When you want to highlight that your comment's universal, you say "All children", for instance. Generalising to "Children" implies "Children in general, for the most part, usually".

Everybody knows this. So there's no need to specify "NOT ALL MEN" each and every time anyone makes a general observation about men, goddamit!

You don't say "Not all dogs [have four legs]" or "Not all ice-cream [is cold]".

Having a penis doesn't make you especially vulnerable to generalisations. So grow up, please, and accept that YOU or your DH are not "all men" - general comments aren't intended to single you out. And if you feel like they are, you're a bit thick, not to mention narcissistic.

Weird post but as someone that deals in a lot of these stats please post your opinions on gypsies for most crime in areas of high deprivation and a good chunk of the black community for knife crime.

whatcanthematterbe81 · 19/03/2026 22:28

confusedbydating · 19/03/2026 21:22

Mic drop. No notes.

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Yeah, that’s a new one

Castieldeansam · 19/03/2026 22:20

CatherinedeBourgh · 19/03/2026 21:20

This. The problem with the 'men are...' statements is that it suggests that it applies to the majority, when in fact it is absolutely a minority.

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But it’s not only the minority causing the problem, it’s the majority staying silent. If more men spoke up and challenged the issues at hand, rather than hiding behind “not all men,” you’d hear far fewer women saying “all men.”

pollytparrot · 19/03/2026 21:55

CatherinedeBourgh · 19/03/2026 21:20

This. The problem with the 'men are...' statements is that it suggests that it applies to the majority, when in fact it is absolutely a minority.

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Which is the mindset of the minority of women where ignorance is bliss. The majority live in the real world, sorry to burst your bubble.

Castieldeansam · 19/03/2026 21:52

WooWooWinnie · 19/03/2026 21:21

Not all men, no…but nearly always men.

I like this.

firstofallimadelight · 19/03/2026 21:47

Womaninhouse17 · 19/03/2026 21:12

But the comment ISN'T universal, which is why it's reasonable to say 'not all...'

No it’s a cop out intended to trivialise the matter.

Everlil · 19/03/2026 21:42

GarlicFound · 19/03/2026 21:30

POINT MISSED rather spectacularly.

Your quote says "All women" which is demonstrably untrue. I loathe spa days, but am happy to agree that "Women love spa days".

See the difference? If not, I refer you to my a bit thick remark ...

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But you can do that with anything. I don’t like formula one, but I know women who do, so I am happy to agree women like formula one.

Reading some of your posts I would also agree that women are a bit thick and bitchy.