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Dss girlfriend staying over

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Blankscreen · 17/03/2026 23:51

Dss (22) has recently got a girlfriend (19) she seems nice enough.

Last week dss asked DH if she could stay on Friday. DH said yes.. she was then here all day Saturday until about 5 pm. They did eventually go to her house and stay there Saturday night.

He saw her again Sunday and they went to his mum's for mothers day.

Last night she stayed again and then tonight she appeared again after they'd been to the gym together.

He cooked her dinner (I had already done his) and they sat on the sofa giggling whilst DD and I were watching TV.

I've just been in the bathroom and she has left her gunky tooth brush on the sink 😤. She's just gone home.

I'm not gonna lie I'm finding it irritating her being here all the time. I just want to chill out at home and not have to make small talk or have the dogs going nuts.

Not sure if I am being a grumpy cow saying it's too much.

OP posts:
budgiegirl · 17/03/2026 23:57

He's 22, and it's his home too. As long as they are respectful, clean up after themselves (one gunky toothbrush isn't a big deal) and she doesn't stay every single night, then I don't think it should be much of a problem. If they are disturbing you when watching tv, then tell them to be quiet, or ask that they go to his room.

Blankscreen · 17/03/2026 23:56

I don't think she is a partner! They've been dating for about 2 weeks.

Probably similarly irritated.

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nomas · 17/03/2026 23:56

You need to set boundaries.

She can only stay one night every other weekend.

And they clean up their mess every time. Skanks.

Who cleaned up after DSS cooked dinner?

Netcurtainnelly · 17/03/2026 23:55

Blankscreen · 17/03/2026 23:51

Dss (22) has recently got a girlfriend (19) she seems nice enough.

Last week dss asked DH if she could stay on Friday. DH said yes.. she was then here all day Saturday until about 5 pm. They did eventually go to her house and stay there Saturday night.

He saw her again Sunday and they went to his mum's for mothers day.

Last night she stayed again and then tonight she appeared again after they'd been to the gym together.

He cooked her dinner (I had already done his) and they sat on the sofa giggling whilst DD and I were watching TV.

I've just been in the bathroom and she has left her gunky tooth brush on the sink 😤. She's just gone home.

I'm not gonna lie I'm finding it irritating her being here all the time. I just want to chill out at home and not have to make small talk or have the dogs going nuts.

Not sure if I am being a grumpy cow saying it's too much.

If that's the worst she's done is leave a toothbrush out then you are ok.

BBKP · 17/03/2026 23:52

How would you feel if it was the partner of your own child?