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AIBU to be upset about partner leaving dried bloody bogies on carpet?

63 replies

satsumafrog · 17/03/2026 18:50

This is so gross, well I think it is. The carpet on OH's side of the bed is covered in bogies and dried blood from picking his nose and dropping it on the floor. Every time I go to his side to open the curtains I'm nearly sick. I've hoovered it up and told him to stop but it's there again piling up every few days. He has bought some tissues and now they're lying there with blood and bogies on too. It makes him so repulsive to me and I've told him. It's there again now and I'm really angry, he says I'm overreacting. Am I??

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frecklejuice · 17/03/2026 19:10

My son did this to the back of the sofa when he was 4.. Luckily the sofa was leather so we cleaned it up and told him not to be so disgusting, he listened and never did it again. He was 4 years old and understood that it was fucking disgusting. I couldn’t deal with it from an adult, he’d have to go.

stickydough · 17/03/2026 19:10

WearyAuldWumman · 17/03/2026 19:07

Seriously, does he have dementia? Is this new behaviour?

Dementia is the only excusable reason that I can think of.

Why on every thread about a man behaving in a disgusting or disrespectful way, do we have someone wondering if it is dementia?!! I’m hoping/thinking you are joking as this really seems to be a strange MN phenomenon. Is it really so inexplicable that some many men are completely inconsiderate of others?

WearyAuldWumman · 17/03/2026 19:07

Seriously, does he have dementia? Is this new behaviour?

Dementia is the only excusable reason that I can think of.

Glitchymn1 · 17/03/2026 19:07

I hope this a joke. If it’s not I’d pick them up and put them in his cup, on his plate, in his car. I’d then get a divorce because I couldn’t be intimate with such a rotten dirty arsehole. People go on about sharing a bed with a cat or dog- I’d rather share a bed with an animal any day. He’s touching the duvet and pillow and moving about the house touching things with his filthy hands. Jesus.

NovemberMorn · 17/03/2026 19:07

Do you seriously have to ask?

MrsLizzieDarcy · 17/03/2026 19:06

That is utterly grim, OP. How can you be intimate with someone who does this Shock

catface24 · 17/03/2026 19:05

Gross, can’t believe he thinks it’s ok to do this.

PurpleCoo · 17/03/2026 19:03

I couldn't be with someone who does that!

It literally makes me gag thinking about it

Specialneedsnightmare · 17/03/2026 18:58

That's just horrible and revolting. I would get the ick and couldn't have sex with someone who did that.

Left · 17/03/2026 18:56

That is vile wtf

shellyleppard · 17/03/2026 18:56

🤢🤢🤢 eww the dirty bugger 🤢🤢🤢🤢

BellesAndGraces · 17/03/2026 18:56

Totally overreacting. Cant see what your problem is …

PropitiousJump · 17/03/2026 18:54

FFS that's absolutely revolting. I wouldn't share a room, let alone a bed, with someone who did that.