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Someone hit my car nearly 2 weeks ago.

231 replies

NewPlumCat · 17/03/2026 18:02

Hi,
Someone ran their car into the back of me when I was stationary at the traffic which were red. The person said he got distracted by the passengers in the back and said, its just an accident. I was really upset and was trembling with shock and said, well you nearly killed me. He called the emergency service for me and I called the police. My car was totally smashed up from behind. The emergency services came and examined me and took me to A&E where I had scans done and the doctors said I've suffered muscular injury. The man admitted liability to his insurance and I have been given a courtesy car which I haven't drove for nearly 2 weeks. I am going through extreme shock and distress imagining all sorts of worst case scenarios as I've never been hit like this in the 25 years of driving and now can't ever imagine ever getting into a car again and driving because I keep thinking it will happen again and this time it will kill me.
My car has been deemed as a total loss. I need some advice?

OP posts:
Tillow4ever · 17/03/2026 19:26

Any idea how fast he was going? Your car being totally smashed up isn’t an indication of how bad the accident was - cars are designed to absorb even a tiny impact rather than you. Maybe knowing the facts of the accident will help you feel better?

YourShyLion · 17/03/2026 18:12

It happens, he's admitted liability, you've got a courtesy car, it's your choice not to drive and you've only got achy muscles. It's sounds like a pretty straightforward situation.

I've been rear ended several times and although it's a hassle and not particularly pleasant it's just part and parcel of life.

Oh and he definitely didn't nearly kill you!! Are you prone to overreacting about things?

I'm not sure what advice you want.

KittytheHare · 17/03/2026 18:08

What advice are you looking for? He admitted liability, and you will be compensated for your car. What other advice do you need?

Fatiguedwithlife · 17/03/2026 18:08

Your insurance company will sort out the car side of things. Sounds like everyone did the right thing at the time. Maybe get some counselling if you’re struggling, sooner you get back ‘on the horse’ the better

rubyslippers · 17/03/2026 18:06

What advice do you need?

takealettermsjones · 17/03/2026 18:04

Sorry this happened to you OP. Are you looking for advice on the legal aspect or the trauma aspect? 💐