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To leave good job because I want the summer off

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SunnySuze · 17/03/2026 12:29

Have been employed now for 18 months, on a fixed term. Employer has offered me a new contract for two years but I really want the summer off to have freedom and to not do much frankly. I’ve saved a bit of my salary £5000, and all bills would be covered fine but it does mean we’d loose the extra nice bits like impromptu takeaways and whatnots.
I’ve dreams of getting the kids after school and heading to the park rather than the usual after school club pick ups, rush tea, then bed.
Am I mad? DH is supportive of whatever I choose.

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tartyflette · 17/03/2026 16:23

Just ask if you could delay the start of the new contract. Even a month or so off would be nice, surely?

ACynicalDad · 17/03/2026 16:20

Employees in the UK with at least one year's service can take up to 18 weeks of unpaid parental leave per child (until the child turns 18). Do this rather than give up your job in a poor market.

WhoAteAllTheMincePiez · 17/03/2026 16:15

Could you suggest a sabbatical for the summer, or delay the start date?

if you’re going to leave anyway, surely a chat about options wouldn’t hurt.

Greenwitchart · 17/03/2026 16:15

I would suggest a compromise

Tell your current employer that you would love to extend your contract but that you have a 3 week holiday booked already in July (or August).

Your employer would likely be happy for you to take that chunk of time off and still stay in the job.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 17/03/2026 16:15

SueKeeper · 17/03/2026 12:36

Surely negotiating for part time or a delayed start to the new contract is a better option to try first?

Yep, this - otherwise jettisoning employment because you fancy the summer off is foolish

Sassylovesbooks · 17/03/2026 16:07

No, I definitely wouldn't do this, in the current job market. You might not find it as easy to find another one.

Pistachiocake · 17/03/2026 16:00

You'll never get the time back, so instinctively I'd say yes, BUT really think-how likely are you to get another job in this market-a lot depends on your specific role/your area etc. So research and think hard, still, plenty of parents don't work at all, and you know how they say on your deathbed, you'll regret spending time at the office instead of with the kids. Cats in the cradle (though there was less unemployment then!).

DeftGoldHedgehog · 17/03/2026 15:56

Could you ask for a 3 month sabbatical from your employer?

Hellohelga · 17/03/2026 15:43

Totally mad, jobs market is shocking, 5k is nothing - unless you have other savings?

CeeCee702 · 17/03/2026 15:41

Unless you’re in a country that has good weather, I personally wouldn’t do it. You’ll have time off, but by your own admission your quality of life decreases and treats go out of the window. True you can’t put a price on quality time and a slower paced life, but I don’t think you have enough financial security to take the risk. Instead I’d seek to compromise with your employer. You could ask for part time. If you have any accrued annual leave, perhaps take Mondays & Fridays off so you have long weekends etc, or a couple of half days so you can do the school pick.

LBFseBrom · 17/03/2026 15:37

You say, "Summer", but how long, when would start, June?

If that's what you want and you can afford it, go for it. You'll be spending less if not at work anyway, people always do.

Make sure you are in a good position to pick up another job in September.

LoudTealHare · 17/03/2026 15:28

ArcticBells · 17/03/2026 12:36

If you are covered financially and highly employable, then do what you want

But there are not the jobs currently! I recently advertised a post and had 300 applicants most of who were over qualified! They applied as there are so few jobs currently!

Pickledonion1999 · 17/03/2026 15:27

Like you I am just coming to the end of a fixed term contract which was meant to finish at the end of march but has been extended for a further month. I am so looking forward to having the summer off after 40 years of working solidly. My kids are all grown up ! I have been musing over what i would say to my manager if they suddenly said there was a job for me or said I could stay on. I honestly think I would have to turn it down or tell them I couldn't start until September !

cestlavielife · 17/03/2026 15:25

Unpaid parental leave: Entitlement - GOV.UK https://share.google/wpNBRptSIO6VmoDfn

Parental leave is unpaid. You’re entitled to 18 weeks’ leave for each child and adopted child, up to their 18th birthday.
The limit on how much parental leave each parent can take in a year is 4 weeks for each child (unless the employer agrees otherwise).
You must take parental leave as whole weeks (for example 1 week or 2 weeks) rather than individual days, unless your employer agrees otherwise or if your child is disabled. You do not have to take all the leave at once.

cestlavielife · 17/03/2026 15:24

Negotiate a chunk of unpaid parent leave

Sladuf1 · 17/03/2026 15:22

I don’t think you’re mad. I’d be finding it quite difficult to feel motivated if I’d done an 18 month stint with an employer but they only want to offer another 2 year fixed term contract. For the record I did multiple fixed term jobs between the ages of 21-34. I was strung along by 1 or 2 employers, so am jaded when I hear about situations like that. I think you should try and use the fact they’re only offering a fixed term extension to negotiate. If they want you to commit to the full duration, you want time off over the summer hols.

P.S. @BezMills was spot on. You can’t make more time.

BezMills · 17/03/2026 15:18

Honestly sure why not, it's your life, and we're a long time dead!

If you end up regretting it a little bit financially, so what? You can always make more money - the only thing you can't make more of is time.

ThisSunnyBee · 17/03/2026 15:11

ArcticBells · 17/03/2026 12:36

If you are covered financially and highly employable, then do what you want

This

2026Y · 17/03/2026 15:08

If you can afford it take the summer off - the kids are only getting older and summer is difficult for childcare with the holidays. Enjoy the time with them, if that's what you want to do.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 17/03/2026 15:06

OhDear111 · 17/03/2026 15:06

Depends if they will rehire you or find someone else. Just wanting to go forest show commitment to an employer. Jobs are difficult to get now.

Just what I said!

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 17/03/2026 15:06

The only thing I would say is suppose they get someone in to cover you over the summer and train them up. They may then decide to offer them the job not you. But that’s a risk you’d have to take.

OhDear111 · 17/03/2026 15:06

Depends if they will rehire you or find someone else. Just wanting to go forest show commitment to an employer. Jobs are difficult to get now.

Weeelokthen · 17/03/2026 15:05

Nobody is promised tomorrow darling! If you can afford it, go for it.
No-ones epitaph reads "I shouda worked more"
As long as your little darlings are not going to suffer hardship as a result, do it. X

midlifeattheoasis · 17/03/2026 15:03

SueKeeper · 17/03/2026 12:36

Surely negotiating for part time or a delayed start to the new contract is a better option to try first?

This

SunnyRedSnail · 17/03/2026 15:01

SunnySuze · 17/03/2026 14:07

I’d heard of unpaid parental leave but hadn’t considered it as it’s naturally come to the end of my contract and thought that would be a cleaner break but perhaps I could ask.

We do have joint savings and kids savings but the £5K is my savings I’ve built up from this job.

I don’t consider myself niche at all but the experience I have I suppose is and typically it takes a good year or two to train in this field (benefits advice).

The company I work for do want to expand so perhaps there is scope there for the future.

I just desperately want to get off the hamster wheel I feel I’m on. I’d love not to answer to anyone for a while. I flip between thinking “fuck it what’s the worst that can happen” and “it’s too scary!”

You only live once.

If you can afford it, then do it!

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