What is it with some women and weight?

Weight goes through trends. Being overweight was previously seen as attractive because it showed wealth (you could afford food). Now it is seen as unattractive because you’re unable to take care of yourself. But there are always trends around weight and appearance - women with TB were seen as more attractive because they lost weight and looked willowy and pale.

Weight has been used to control women. It’s also just not women commenting on other women’s bodies. The trend for very slim has been around for a while now. Kate Moss with nothing tastes as good as skinny feels. Body shaming women of the naughties like Britney Spears and Paris Hilton for being obese. The trend moved from skinny to lean but I think it might be going back to skinny.

For a lot of women, their worth is determined by how much they weigh. It’s something that is imposed onto them from a young age. It’s a hard habit to break and many women then project that onto other women.

With weight loss injections, many people see this as fa people cheating, basically they should suffer. The second thread you will be seeing is because the relative believes the person has “cheated” using jabs.

Misogyny and a lot of it internalised and some women don’t realise that’s what it is. It somehow feels worse when other women comment.

Weight has been used to equal value for so many years - it’s totally entrenched in society. It’s an easy indicator that you’ve “got your life together” or supposedly that you care enough about yourself to take care of your body (totally ignoring the myriad of reasons anyone might have a different body shape to the current fashion trend).

It’s just creepy how much people care about / comment on others physical appearances, especially with weight - and I have noticed in my personal experience it’s the older generations with a huge fixation on weight and commenting on it. In my generation people tend to stay away from opening commenting unless the person has invited comments! But my mother and people in the same generation seem to revel in gossiping about it / how people have let themselves go etc.

I’m a 90s baby and I still remember seeing all the magazines in shops with “Posh Spice, Size Zero, Still Has Cellulite” and the like all over the covers.
It was drilled into is that our weight is what we’re worth. It’s awful.
Supersize Vs Superskinny, Secret Eaters etc. all those programmes at prime time slots on the tele.
My DD can eat what she wants, everything is healthy in our house in moderation.
Do men feel this pressure? I don’t know.

Have you read Susie Orbach's Fat is a feminist Issue?
Apparently there is a new edition with an update for the online age.