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AIBU to want to sell my house and daughter wants continue to rent it ?

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Chloe2434 · 15/03/2026 10:18

This is difficult to to decide.

my daughter is 42, working with 2 children ( my lovely grandchildren) One has anxiety problems, young teenager. daughter has rented my house for 6 years. I did want to sell my rental house previously but my daughter wanted lower rent and asked to rent mine for a while. Its now been six year, i charge low obviously.
iv been diagnosed with a slow growing cancer and explained to her i want to sell it and release some capital so i can do a few things while I am still relatively healthy, my daughter has called me selfish, “ I'm throwing my grandchildren children out etc ‘ it’s causing us to argue and the guilt gets to me, as to be honest she is single and rents are hard aren’t they for single parents.

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Motnight · 15/03/2026 10:37

ExtraOnions · 15/03/2026 10:32

I’m struggling to think what things I would want to do, that would Top Trump giving my Child & Grandchildren a safe & secure home.

Maybe getting diagnosed with cancer and also wanting a good life with options for yourself?

damelza · 15/03/2026 10:36

Maybe think about options. Sell it and use some of the cash to subsidise the difference between what daughter is paying now to you and market rent on a different property. Sell and downsize and use the profit to do the things you want to do. Leave daughter in new property.

I know you don't want to turf daughter on the side of the road, but there are alternatives you could figure out with her. She needs to see your circumstances and illness also. It's a two way street. I am sorry you are ill. But I think you're right to try and enjoy things while you are well enough.

Kettless · 15/03/2026 10:36

Yanbu at all.
Your daughter has shown her entitlement by name calling you.
It is not your job to house your grandchildren that SHE chose to have.

Its a very difficult one as she clearly now sees the house as hers.

Owly11 · 15/03/2026 10:36

Urgh she sounds emotionally manipulative - I would never dream of calling my mother selfish. She has had low rent for 6 years and can't expect it to go on forever. Is she a single mother? How low is the rent? Is there any compromise available? Before discussing it with her I would insist on her being a bit more respectful and to think of your needs as well as her own. She's in her 40s not 14.

Squirrelchops1 · 15/03/2026 10:34

There are mortgages for this reason but you take a lower price but save my not paying agents etc. Tell your daughter to look up concessionary mortgages and you too.

ExtraOnions · 15/03/2026 10:32

I’m struggling to think what things I would want to do, that would Top Trump giving my Child & Grandchildren a safe & secure home.

Original poster
Chloe2434 · 15/03/2026 10:30

BeeCucumber · 15/03/2026 10:22

Do you own the house you are currently living in?

Living with “very long term partners house” as his house has a bigger garden and I really love gardening.

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Lomonald · 15/03/2026 10:29

Yanbu to want to sell though could you give her some of the profit towards a deposit,

Lomonald · 15/03/2026 10:26

Could you sell it to her or would she not get a mortgage?

Hankunamatata · 15/03/2026 10:25

I can see both sides.

Im guessing she isnt in a position to get a mortgage?

Pickledonion1999 · 15/03/2026 10:24

Chloe2434 · 15/03/2026 10:23

I live in my partners house of 18 years

Do you not want to keep the house as security in case you ever split with them ? What would happen in that scenario? You would be in a precarious position if you sold the house, spent the money and then split with your partner and had no-where to live.

Looopa · 15/03/2026 10:23

its been 6 years of lower rent, if she didn’t save anything for the inevitable move that’s on her. She is also deeply selfish that she’s only thinking of herself and trying to guilt you with talk of throwing them out. Sell the house, go enjoy yourself, they will manage

Original poster
Chloe2434 · 15/03/2026 10:23

I live in my partners house of 18 years

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Pickledonion1999 · 15/03/2026 10:22

If you've been letting her rent at a lower then market rent then yes it may be very hard for her to find something else affordable although she may be eligible to claim Universal credit depending on her income.
I think if I were you I'd be looking at other options for raising some cash first. Would it be possible to release some money from a private pension for example.

BeeCucumber · 15/03/2026 10:22

Do you own the house you are currently living in?