Should I accept proposal if I've never met his daughters?

That what his wife thought on their wedding day

I am impressed you have the gall to ask on here.

Other woman, affair man installed in your kids lives, daughters were still teens when it all kicked off most likely.
You work it out!! Jesus. 🤷‍♀️

How soon after he first met your kids did he move in OP?

@ZanySheep

Why have you posted this thread? Genuinely?

Because you're adamant he's amazing despite the very clear evidence to the contrary and if that's the case marry him and don't look back. You don't need our support or validation.

But there's clearly a lot bothering you or your wouldn't have started this conversation. You need to be honest at least with yourself if no one else.

This has red flags all over it but I suspect the only way you'll really see them is when you're the one facing the consequences.

For these types of men, the best way to deal with an unhappy marriage is always via another woman’s vagina.

Predictable as night following day

His daughters are adults. Old enough to decide what they want.
They have chosen not to have a relationship with you.
They see you as the Other Woman, who was a large factor in breaking up their family.
you will never have a relationship with them, I would say.
up to you and him whether you want to marry. Just be wary. You likely won’t have an easy time ahead of you

Look after your assets and financial wellbeing that's all I can say to you

Sure. The key is to divorce, work on himself, heal, help his daughters through this upheaval. Then date.
He failed to do any of this. You know what you are signing up for if you sign a marriage contract with him.

But he didn't leave did he, until he met you and had your home to go to, after a short stint with his parents.

Agree with this

Exactly. Remarrying when you pre-existing children is a minefield. Especially if you decide to marry an already proven dishonest man.

And then presumably pass it on to the daughters OP has yet to meet.

With the help of the inheritance act 1975 he could easily walk away with a big chunk of what should have gone to OPs children regardless of a will.

Or ;
'we lead separate lives'
'the marriage has been dead for years'
'it's a marriage in name only'
'I'm planning to leave when - The kids finish school/I get a promotion/when she agrees to a divorce/ when I get an inheritance from my auntie/when my wife has had her hysterectomy.....'

Big yawn...

No you're not I never said that. I said you will be back in a few years whining about him.
You wanted peoples thoughts and they have told you quite bluntly but as you want to carry on regardless of the warnings, crack on.

Yep and this amazing dad left the family home and quickly moved in with another woman and her kids, who call him stepdad - but his own kids have never even met OP and do not even have a bedroom in his new home.
Yet he’s still planning on asking her to marry him.

Apparently, driving your kids places makes you an amazing dad.

I can’t believe OP isn’t embarrassed to write down the things she’s saying.
Her family and friends must think she’s such an idiot.
I bet they can’t stand him.

Let's not forget 'just friends' or 'open marriage' Like tick box options for a philanderer.

He 'may have told a few lies' is classic but won't work in Court. At least the OP knows he has form as she says 'I do'

I know. It is insane that the most basic things that a parent does can ever be listed as why they are amazing.

By parent I mean dad of course.

You never read or hear a mum being described as amazing because she's there for her kids when they need her and she gives them money and if a mum tried to say how fantastic they were because they did those things they would get their arse handed to them with a meat thermometer up the arsehole and a flag on the end that reads Roasted.

No, you can’t marry him. It sounds a bit too soon if he hasn’t even divorced his ex yet

sureky a good dad would want his daughters approval?

Exactly.

I mean if my dad had of ended up with his OW she would never have been invited to my wedding. Hell would freeze over before she would meet my children.

I mean my dad would have been border line for either to he honest but guilt would have probably tipped me into inviting him. Her how ever I would have owed zero to. The same way she owed zero to us and my mam.

Swings and roundabouts and all that and a bonus being Im adult so I get to choose.

Just like other adults get to chose to have affairs, lie and manipulate. Because they are "loves of each other's life".

Funny that how choice and free will is a problem when you arent the beneficiary of the decisions.

So he sees them regularly and helps them - thats the bare fucking minimum, hardly amazing.

I can only hope his children have higher standards than you do.

Thing is @ZanySheep people are you giving you the responses you don’t em to like as you are entirely filing to acknowledge that you got together with a married man who was still with his wife. If they had split up first it would still have been hard but his wife and daughters wouldn’t have had to experience that he cheated and left them, that ales him a bad egg. But no, to answer your specific question getting married without meeting his daughters AND knowing everything is broadly ok would be stupid and put you in lives for a lifetime of complications and drama (or easteneders, as you seem to prefer).