Should I accept proposal if I've never met his daughters?

I think realistically you may have to accept that these young women will never accept you, never want to be around you and never see you as anything other than the cause of pain and disruption in their lives. It doesn’t matter whether you agree with that view or not, they are young adults and they get to choose who they interact with. If not meeting them is a dealbreaker for you, then don’t marry him.

A decent man would respect his daughters’ wishes and not push them on this - but then a decent man would have ended his marriage honourably before he shacked up with a new partner 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yep. Waiting for his nurse with a purse to deliver a roof over his head.

Probably his wife found out he’s a grubby little cheat and kicked his lying arse out.

3.5 years and he’s still not divorced - we all know no one falling lice quicker than a man who needs a roof over his head.

Soon there will be a vacany for another ow

You would be a fool to marry him.

Naviety is incredible - I'll tell you what you want to hear and you're gullible you'll believe any old shit no matter how stupid it sounds in cold light of day.

He left it a year before applying for divorce to let thing settle

Such a bullshit excuse, weighing up his options more like.

I bet it would be an interesting conversation with his wife as to where he was sleeping before he met you. You genuinely believe he slept on the floor for a year?

3 years is nothing. my dad trotted out the grown apart story and expected us to feel sorry for him. It was news to us that’s for sure ,as they was no sign of it before the ow.

I refused to meet the other woman my dad left my mum for for 6 years…. Then he left her too and went on to the next woman… don’t meet her either…

That old chestnut! You were the OW and played a part in destroying their parent’s marriage. The communication may have come from his ex wife but I wouldn’t be surprised at all if the children have no desire to meet you, rather than the wife saying they can’t.

I would not marry this man, I would not even be under the same roof as this man for so many reasons.
Protracted divorce why is it taking so long? Not met the adult dds, being told they will never be part of my life, He seems to have home A and home B [you] I could think of more, why is he even still paying the mortgage ? Sounds like the entire amount.
He's got it made with you roof over his head, sex on tap etc.
Shut the door behind you Joe.

I'm sure his wife thought that too!!! You absolute fool, he'll upgrade from you in time too.

If he were my dad, I wouldn't want to meet you either. I despise cheats.

Just remember- when a man marries his mistress he leaves a vacancy

Every terrible dad insists they are a brilliant parent! You absolutley should be meeting everyone important in his life first, multiple times.

No, the DDs get to make that call and they don't want to meet their dad's mistress. It's hardly surprising.

Given that his daughters are adults it makes zero sense for you to not to meet them. The ex doesn’t make that call, he does.

i wouldn’t accept any proposal until this has happened

Would love to hear his wife’s version of this story. The fact his adult daughters won’t meet you shines light on his lies. They were devastated and hence won’t meet you. Surely you can see that op? If you were 20 I could understand you believing the grew apart story but you are in your 50’s.

he had an affair and broke up his family at a time when his daughters were likely getting ready for GCSEs and A-Levels, probably causing them huge additional stress.

you shouldn’t marry him until you meet them because they will be a huge gap at your wedding and that will be a strong memory for
him. But don’t expect to meet them soon

Remember that when a man marris his mistress, he creates a vacancy. He'll do the same to you as he did to his wife.

Oh hell no, legally tying yourself to this guy would be crazy bananas. He has already proven that he is a liar and a cheat. On top of that he thinks it's OK to have a completely seperate life to his kids, a life and a family that they can never be involved in because their dad is a liar and a cheat. He chose to move in with you before his kids had had the time to get over the betrayal. He's really quite a shitty person and I'm amazed you can't see it. Why do you want to inflict all this drama on your own kids?

I wouldn’t marry a cheat regardless of whether I had met his children.

But then I guess he’s in good company..

So, you are (rightly) cautious about accepting a proposal because you've not met this man's dds and there's obvious bitterness because he cheated. But you readily brought the same man into your dcs's lives, living in their home, creating a 'stepfather relationship without the same caution? I just don't get it.

You may as well marry him. The daughters may never forgive you for helping hurt their mother, so crack on.