Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

What would you think about this email from school? Sudden change of class teacher.

487 replies

Junglemoon · 12/03/2026 17:22

We had an email yesterday evening from our (primary age) child's headteacher saying that his class teacher Mr Smith had left and that as of tomorrow his teacher would be Mrs Jones. No further details as to what on earth was going on, the email was literally three sentences.

Mrs Jones has been teaching them the last couple of days but our son was told and believed that Mr Smith was just off ill. He and most of his class were very upset in school this morning that there would apparently be no chance to say goodbye to Mr Smith, who is much loved by the children. Neither the children nor the parents were given any notice of this or any preparation.

On top of this the headteacher and the deputy head are apparently away at a conference and unable to answer phone calls or answer any questions and none of the other staff appear to know anything about the issue. The student counsellor was in the classroom this morning trying to reassure the children but she had no answers for them or anyone else.

Some of the parents have phoned and emailed (we are in contact with each other) to express concern and unhappiness about how abrupt this has been and how little information we've been given and the head has replied to an email from one father saying that Mr Smith had left suddenly and she couldn't provide any further details.

Obviously my mind is going all over the place. I can think of a few things that could be sudden and confidential, but if it was something that had to do with the children's safety, the school would have to inform us, wouldn't they? If something awful has happened to Mr Smith I suppose we wouldn't be owed that information but it does seem very hard on the children to just be like 'Mr Smith is gone, you won't see him again, Mrs Jones will be your teacher now'. Which is all they got.

OP posts:
JoWilkinsonsno1fan · 12/03/2026 18:24

I don’t think it’s anything to do with parents why a teacher has left unless there is a safeguarding incident that you need to be aware of.

Teachers are just as entitled to confidentiality as you are. I don’t think it’s nice that parents are gossiping about him and making assumptions! I get that its difficult for children especially when he was well liked but have a new teacher in place they will soon get used to a change.

TheCurious0range · 12/03/2026 18:23

This happened when I was in y6 albeit the teacher we were given was the teacher we had the year before so she knew us all, and we her. Find out as an adult the teacher had been sectioned and later took his own life. You don't know what's going on in someone's personal life. The school have found a replacement very quickly.

Buscobel · 12/03/2026 18:23

Generally, teachers resign at the October, February or May half term, to leave at the end of term, so it is less usual for someone to leave abruptly and it would be reasonable to suppose that it’s an unexpected event or emergency that has prompted it.

Speculation doesn’t help though. The school will say what they are able to. That may be very little, simply that the teacher has left and a new one is in place. As long as a qualified teacher is in front of the class and the children are being taught, that’s really all the wider community needs to know, unless and until permission is given for more information.

user1471453601 · 12/03/2026 18:21

I did exactly as that teacher has done. I left work one evening, got home to be told a hospital nurse needed to speak to me and would wait in her office until I rang.

I never went back to work.

stuff happens and not everybody needs to know about it.

saraclara · 12/03/2026 18:21

GardeningMummy · 12/03/2026 18:12

Yes they are! We were notified in December that our SENco was leaving at the end of February. We’ve just been told that another staff member is leaving at the Easter holidays.

They are not generally notified as soon as the teacher gives notice (which is almost always a minimum of two months before they leave). They will almost certainly be told before the end of the term, but only when the school, and the teacher, are ready to tell the parents.

And as a teacher for forty years, and in a fair few schools, I think my experience trumps yours.

SilenceInside · 12/03/2026 18:21

I find it disappointing that there are several sets of parents at this school who feel entitled to private information about this teacher and who seem to be unable to help their children cope with unexpected change and be resilient.

You know that it must be something personal and unexpected for a teacher to leave in this kind of apparently short timescale @Junglemoon. If there was a safeguarding issue regarding your child then you would find out either from the school, the police or similar authorities. Yes it’s abrupt for the children but are you really saying that both you and they are unable to cope with an unexpected event??

Fleur405 · 12/03/2026 18:19

maybe he just decided he no longer wanted to deal with nosey and judgemental parents and so ran away to join the circus.

thisfilmisboring123 · 12/03/2026 18:19

Thereissnowinmywellies · 12/03/2026 17:42

Wtf has it got to do with a bunch of, let's face it, nosy parents who want some gossip?
As for the emailing expressing concern about a change of teacher, how some so called adults cope in the real world never fails to amaze me.Bunch of idiots, a drama over nothing it really is.🙄

💯

cramptramp · 12/03/2026 18:18

They don’t have to tell you why. It’s no one’s business even if your children don’t like it. It’s obviously unavoidable and the school are dealing with it the best way they can.

sittingonabeach · 12/03/2026 18:18

@GardeningMummy therefore do you not think that this might be an emergency situation

It could also be that he did hand his notice in at the usual notice time but decided to leave early with agreement with the school.

Many schools might delay telling parents a member of staff is leaving until they have found a replacement

IPM · 12/03/2026 18:18

GardeningMummy · 12/03/2026 18:15

Any decent school makes sure parents are always told if a teacher is planning to leave, to give the children fair warning of the impending change. Obviously unavoidable emergency scenarios are different but with regards notice periods - decent schools let the kids & parents know asap.

Not if the teacher doesn't want them told before they've left.

Imagine if they're leaving to care for a dying relative or because their mental health is suffering.

So the 'decent' school lets everyone know in advance and the poor teacher is besieged by upset kids and well meaning parents, asking why they're leaving.

Do you think that's acceptable??

8misskitty8 · 12/03/2026 18:17

Frankly its none of your business. Unless its a safeguarding issue involving your son the school are not obliged to tell you anything. Teachers are entitled to a private life the same as you.

stichguru · 12/03/2026 18:17

Teachers have a right to privacy. Unless something has happened that has potential on going risk to your kids, which given said teacher has left, isn't really possible. I think there are things it might be better the kids didn't know like my uncle was poorly, diagnosed with a brain tumour, and dead within 2 months, Would you really want the kids to know that?

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 12/03/2026 18:17

GardeningMummy · 12/03/2026 18:16

Considering we’ve lived all over the place due to the RAF and my child has attended 5 schools since reception, I’d say I have a higher than usual idea of the average, yes!

Oh gosh, you should have given your expert credentials sooner!!

GardeningMummy · 12/03/2026 18:16

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 12/03/2026 18:14

Oh ok, your two examples prove all schools across the UK immediately inform parents when a teacher hands their notice in.

Considering we’ve lived all over the place due to the RAF and my child has attended 5 schools since reception, I’d say I have a higher than usual idea of the average, yes!

GardeningMummy · 12/03/2026 18:15

IPM · 12/03/2026 18:10

How do you know he didn't work his notice??

Again, it doesn't mean the parents would necessarily be privy to that information.

Any decent school makes sure parents are always told if a teacher is planning to leave, to give the children fair warning of the impending change. Obviously unavoidable emergency scenarios are different but with regards notice periods - decent schools let the kids & parents know asap.

2UNDR2 · 12/03/2026 18:14

Supposed he's been suspended pending investigation you'd typically not hear anything about it until a court date and subsequent conviction- Unless of course your DC was affected.

It's unlikely he has resigned with immediate effect (unless due to ill health) as in teaching there are only three points of the year in which you can hand in your notice - Hence why teachers typically move on at the end of a term.

sittingonabeach · 12/03/2026 18:14

Bear in mind if the teacher is seriously ill or has suffered a sudden family bereavement the staff in the school might be terribly upset, or indeed it was some serious safeguarding breach they might be in shock, so bombarding them with emails isn’t going to help them.

The school will tell you what they can or what the teacher is happy to divulge.

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 12/03/2026 18:14

GardeningMummy · 12/03/2026 18:12

Yes they are! We were notified in December that our SENco was leaving at the end of February. We’ve just been told that another staff member is leaving at the Easter holidays.

Oh ok, your two examples prove all schools across the UK immediately inform parents when a teacher hands their notice in.

NotMeNoNo · 12/03/2026 18:14

I think both sides can be right. Teachers are of course entitled to their privacy but some children will be quite affected by an abrupt end to a relationship and the school as a whole need to support them in the transition. Even if it's just to say Mr Smith has had to leave school suddenly for a private reason, he will miss you all lots because you were the best class ever. He hopes you will all get on well with Ms Jones and have lots of fun.

There are times when a bit of an age appropriate "cover story," is called for out of kindness to children.

Hereforthecommentz · 12/03/2026 18:13

Yabu and nosey. Most likely had a gut load of being a teacher and dealing with idiotic parents.

WWLD · 12/03/2026 18:12

GardeningMummy · 12/03/2026 18:08

Key word being “notice” however there was none here???

How do you know he didn't give notice to the school? We are coming up to Easter - one of the three times teachers can leave (without special permission from their head teacher), as long as they give 3 month's (and/or half a term) notice.

He could have given notice, then had to (or chose to) go off sick for the last few weeks. School might have had plans to inform parents in his penultimate/last week, but this has forced their hand...

cardibach · 12/03/2026 18:12

GardeningMummy · 12/03/2026 18:12

Yes they are! We were notified in December that our SENco was leaving at the end of February. We’ve just been told that another staff member is leaving at the Easter holidays.

Sometimes they are. Sometimes they aren’t.

GardeningMummy · 12/03/2026 18:12

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 12/03/2026 18:10

How do you know? Parents aren’t advised as soon as a teacher hands in notice.

Yes they are! We were notified in December that our SENco was leaving at the end of February. We’ve just been told that another staff member is leaving at the Easter holidays.

Cosyblankets · 12/03/2026 18:12

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 12/03/2026 18:10

How do you know? Parents aren’t advised as soon as a teacher hands in notice.

There are only certain times of the year when teachers can leave usually. So even with notice it's highly unlikely to be in the middle of March.
Still none of anyone's business