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Ostracised by neighbours & wanting to move

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theeasterbaker · 08/03/2026 14:48

Basically I feel very ostracised by my neighbours.

It all started when I had installed barriers to prevent my neighbours and their children walking literally next door to my living room on my own driveway.

It was a daily occurrence and I felt violated and as if I had no privacy.

My neighbours obviously took offence to this and don't really talk to me or include me in their chats or events.

I said hello to the kids and they just ignore me.

I have never been rude or nasty.

I was also made aware by another neighbour that they have an issue with that she had heard them slagging me off on her Ringdoor.

Just to point out it's a group of 4 single mothers who have issues with quite a few neighbours round here, one neighbour also called the police on one of the children for anti social behaviour a few weeks ago so it's not just me who has had issues with the children.

A delivery driver knocked my door last week to see if I would accept a delivery for one of them and I refused it (all of which was captured on the said neighbours CCTV).
Again caused more gossip amongst the estate.

I actually really want to move as it's not a nice atmosphere.

The other neighbours I am friendly with live on the next street say give it time and they will fall out amongst themselves as they are not nice woman, but I feel totally ostracised.

AIBU to feel like this and wanting to move?

OP posts:
Nowpause · 08/03/2026 15:22

I didn't meant anything by the single mothers comment I was just giving context to the story.

what context does their marital status add to the story?

Nowpause · 08/03/2026 15:21

theeasterbaker · 08/03/2026 14:58

I didn't meant anything by the single mothers comment I was just giving context to the story.

It's just not a very nice feeling when I am coming back in or going out with the kids to be ignored and they are all chatting.

Do you chat to them ? Do you message them? Do you arrange “events”? Invite them over for coffee?

Mydogisagentleman · 08/03/2026 15:21

My neighbours are strangers to me.
I know a couple, but don't have any thing to do with them.

Easterbunnygettingawrapping · 08/03/2026 15:20

Both my ndn's hate us. Less time I need to use on idle chatter with people imo.

WhatAPavalova · 08/03/2026 15:14

Octavia64 · 08/03/2026 14:53

If you don’t take in deliveries and put up barriers they will assume you do not want to be involved or friendly with them.

they aren’t ostracising you so much, more following your lead.

This, you aren't going to improve things and regain civil interactions if you don't take a delivery.

StormyLandCloud · 08/03/2026 15:07

So are you the house in the middle between two of these women? And what did you put up to stop them?
id get ged up with people walking past my window if i had a garden / driveway too so id also do what I could to stop the trespassing

Mt563 · 08/03/2026 15:03

You don't want anything to do with them. They are leaving you alone as these are the clear signals you've given.

LauraNorda · 08/03/2026 15:02

What if you did move and it happened again in your new place? How long would you keep running.

It sounds like they are giving you the space you wanted.

Suedoh · 08/03/2026 15:02

Try to ignore them and don't encourage others to talk to you about them. This will help you 'ignore their bad behaviour' and therefore not rewarding their bad behaviour. If they say hello, don't ignore and say hello back

Endofyear · 08/03/2026 15:01

They're your neighbours, not your friends. Just ignore them and get on with your life. We had next door neighbours who never spoke to us, or other neighbours, we just ignored them too. Some people are odd, or unfriendly, or just keep to themselves. You don't have to let it affect you.

ExBert80 · 08/03/2026 14:58

I wouldn’t move. Why would you care what they think of you? As long as they aren’t abusive or violent, who cares. Rise above it.

theeasterbaker · 08/03/2026 14:58

I didn't meant anything by the single mothers comment I was just giving context to the story.

It's just not a very nice feeling when I am coming back in or going out with the kids to be ignored and they are all chatting.

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ExtraOnions · 08/03/2026 14:58

Those Single Mothers and thier Feral Children eh.

You all sound gossipy, and most probably deserve each other.

theeasterbaker · 08/03/2026 14:56

The planters and low fencing was to stop them walking past my window, they would at times be having full blokes convos next to my window.

I previously did accept delivery of their parcels but stopped when they just ignored me.

OP posts:
Nowpause · 08/03/2026 14:56

What does them being single mothers have anything to do with… anything?

Nowpause · 08/03/2026 14:55

Is it that important to you? That you would move?

Surely how your neighbour feels about you occupied a teeny tiny part of your life and thinking? Work, family, friends… life?

Octavia64 · 08/03/2026 14:53

If you don’t take in deliveries and put up barriers they will assume you do not want to be involved or friendly with them.

they aren’t ostracising you so much, more following your lead.