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When I'm distressed I talk about my feelings alot

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Hippychickbbbb · 08/03/2026 12:22

I've been told I'm a pain in the ass when I'm upset I talk about my feelings alot

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AmandaBrotzman · 08/03/2026 13:12

You're going to need to give more detail if you want people to help.

Sweetcorn100 · 08/03/2026 13:12

It depends really. Who is telling you this, if it’s a partner it could be a sign of narcissism…

If you mean in general and more than one person has commented on it then I think perhaps might be a good idea to get a therapist? I know that’s cliche but when your friend / someone you know is constantly down and negative and talks about it a lot it can be a bit overwhelming and draining. I’m not talking about reaching out once every so often for some support but if it’s daily or weekly you need to step back a bit and get some professional help x

BauhausOfEliott · 08/03/2026 13:12

Hippychickbbbb · 08/03/2026 13:06

I'm traumatised i didnt mean to talk about my feelings alot it's a sigh I'm struggling with my feelings I try not to over load people I was told on a helpline its good to talk your feelings

The other people in your life are not therapists or a helpline. You need to get some notion of when it’s appropriate and when it isn’t. You also need to understand that your feelings aren’t necessarily important or interesting to everyone else. If you monopolise the conversation with your feelings / trauma you’re just using other people as unpaid therapists and that isn’t fair.

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Hippychickbbbb · 08/03/2026 13:10

I don't mean to be annoying

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AlcoholicAntibiotic · 08/03/2026 13:08

I think this is one of those posts where details really matter.

Are you talking to random people or too much?

BillieWiper · 08/03/2026 13:07

I know what you mean. I often feel like I can't really express my anxiety easily in front of many people without them finding it unpalatable.

In two ways usually. One, they are too mentally unwell and anxious themselves to be able the handle it. Or two, they have no experience or understanding of anxiety and genuinely don't know what to do or say.

Have you thought about a counsellor/ therapist?

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Hippychickbbbb · 08/03/2026 13:06

I'm traumatised i didnt mean to talk about my feelings alot it's a sigh I'm struggling with my feelings I try not to over load people I was told on a helpline its good to talk your feelings

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AmandaBrotzman · 08/03/2026 13:04

Who told you this? Who do you talk to? Do you repeat yourself a lot and ruminate on the same issues? Do you ask other people about their life and feelings?

PullTheBricksDown · 08/03/2026 12:51

Find a good counsellor. It's well worth if you have things you are struggling with.

Parsleyforme · 08/03/2026 12:40

How much is a lot?
What do you get distressed/upset about?
What do you do to make yourself feel better?

Some people process feelings by talking about them, but there can be a risk of being a bit of an emotional vampire

WildMintPanda · 08/03/2026 12:32

I think more details are needed.

smallglassbottle · 08/03/2026 12:27

That does sound annoying to be honest. Can you have two way conversations or do you just bombard people with how you feel?

ProfessorInkling · 08/03/2026 12:27

Who has told you that?

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