When I'm distressed I talk about my feelings alot

But you're giving no consideration to the people the term is used by.

And that's very often the problem with trauma dumpers.

They sometimes don't consider all the things the other person might have going on in their life, or the effect the dumping has on their mental health.

By all means talk about your feelings as that can be very good for you but you MUST pick the right person at the right time.

I recognise this poster, and looking back over her posting history it’s plain there are many issues which won’t - can’t - be addressed on Mumsnet, and also plain that the op doesn’t accept or engage with any advice. I don’t want to be unkind to someone who evidently has genuine issues, but it’s worth bearing in mind before you invest too much time and energy in a lengthy reply.

But it’s a very factual term, the person being dumped on really feels that, a whole ton of issues dumped on them with no care for their wellbeing

With kindness OP, friends and family are not trained therapists.

Trauma dumping (as they termed it) can be very uncomfortable and difficult to deal with for the listener. They haven't been trained in how to help you or how to protect themselves from the distressing information affecting them.

I would suggest you look at what you are talking about. If it's the same problems every time, then talking to them isn't beneficial. If it was, you'd improve. The temporary respite you feel after the exchange is simply that. Temporary. Then you need to do it again when it wears off ❤

If you say so. I’m actually trying to help you but, by all means, get hung up on a commonly used term which I’m using with no malicious intent and ignore anything else. It’s starting to make sense that you have issues with communication, frankly, if all you’ll do is focus on that which offends you, or casts you as a victim.

Have you tried journaling to get your feelings out?
Don't be offended by the term trauma dumping, it's valid. Even Yungblud had to ask his fans to stop doing it because it was affecting his own mental health.
You don't know what other people are going through.

Context would help. You could be a massive bore, chuntering on about yourself with no consideration for others. Or not. You need to explain if you’d like advice.

BTW, there is no such word as alot.

Calling it cruel is a bit of an overreaction imo, it’s an accurate term. Unfortunately you haven’t really answered any pertinent questions about the issue at hand so I don’t think there’s much help to be had.

Its an accurate term though.
Friends, family and work colleagues really aren't there for people to offload all their trauma on and it can be traumatic to have to listen to it especially if its on repeat.
If you can't go a single day without discussing your trauma with someone else then you need to seek professional mental health support not offload on those around you

You have clearly experienced trauma and of course it is better to talk, however it matters who you talk to and how deeply you go into it, as most people won’t be able to offer more than empathy.

As PPs have suggested, therapy is the best idea as they are people who know what to do and how to help

If your posts are typical of the way you communicate then I can see why it might be a problem.

Do you ask others about their feelings too or is it just about you?
Are your problems the main topic of conversation?
If I was your friend/acquaintence and hadn’t seen you for a while and asked you how you were - what would you say?
Are you talking to strangers about personal stuff/
If people give you advice do you appreciate it and act on it or do you keep telling them about the same problems without actually doing anything about it?

Are you using people as unpaid therapists? It takes a lot to support someone with their mental health and if you’re really struggling and talking to the same people you may need to find a therapist instead

This is true, if you’re struggling it’s good to talk. However, friends and family are also people and overloading them with your emotions can cause them stress, pain and overwhelm too. As such, it’s best to speak to people who are trained to support you like a therapist or counsellor. Talking therapy is what those people are for!

Is it multiple people saying it?
How long do these conversations last
What do you want them to do?

This. Are you actually having a conversation or are you just waiting for them to finish talking and it’s back to you?

If people can’t address this issue without you getting upset and calling them cruel, that’s a problem.

It needs to be a bit of give and take. Mention your feelings and chat and offload for a few minutes, but then ask them about how they're doing and then chat about other things in life. I have a family member who monopolises conversations with her feelings and whilst I have sympathy, it can be really testing after hours and hours of listening to it on a loop.
For more in depth conversations about your feelings invest in a therapist or counsellor, or start journelling.

It’s good to talk about your feelings, but there’s a wider context to that around making sure that the people you’re talking to are in a position to cope with hearing about your feelings and feel able to tell you when they’re not, and that they know what’s expected of them - whether they’re just to listen, or to offer advice.

If multiple people in your life are telling you that they’re not able to provide you with the level of listening and support that you’re asking them to provide, then you need to look for professional avenues of support, with people who are trained and qualified to work with distress.

Somebody else’s trauma is very difficult for those who aren’t professionals to counsel on. It’s very different to helping with and sympathising about ordinary experiences we’ve all had, such as listening to a friend vent for a bit about their bad day at work, or providing a bit of a shoulder to cry on after a relationship breakup.

Yes it is.

But obviously it depends on who you're talking to and whether you're imposing on them.

Choosing your audience will be far more helpful for you.

Exactly this... we need more information OP

Honestly op, it’s impossible to have any real insight into your behaviour with so little to go on, there’s just no context.
Who has said this to you? Is it two way conversations or is it you just trauma-dumping? Is it to friends, family, strangers..? Is it repetitive? Are the details distressing for others to hear? Etc etc etc.

Nobody said you meant to be annoying.