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Hippychickbbbb · 2026-03-08T12:22:30+00:00

I've been told I'm a pain in the ass when I'm upset I talk about my feelings alot

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Hippychickbbbb · 10/03/2026 20:44

I said repeated word s talked rubbish to the mirror had involuntary body movement s like shaking I accidentally broke a door trying to open it dh took me to ane for it the ticks came on when stressed they took me away in a van it was horrible, I wasn't harming anyone this was in 20022 my marriage failed as I told a friend he was being abusive she told someone else he said he didn't love me anymore this was very upsetting he rolls his eyes at me he called me a worthless cunt and punched a huge whole threw the door he said I made his skin crewl when I tried to hold his hand I'm devastated by the break down of my marriage, I'm still in shock about it we used to be close, I'm getting coucling we had lots of discussions to make the marriage work but it wasn't working he said I was a pain in the ass as I said I was distressed several times to him I don't talk to him anymore about things i talked to my friend Debbie but i dont discuss things with her as shes depressed i just to helplines

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 10/03/2026 20:30

OP do you have alcohol issues? I’m only asking as your comments come across as quite odd and actually a little aggressive.

You have been given good advice but you won’t take it and so this will continue. You have been posting about your issues for six years. Do you want to sort things out or do you define yourself by your trauma (as many people do)?

FreshInks · 10/03/2026 20:07

Okay, what was your diagnosis when you were sectioned?

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Hippychickbbbb · 10/03/2026 20:03

I threw things only a couple of times when no-one was around noone got hurt I threw my phone during extreme stress I didnt mean to I haven't done it since I had some bears when dd was with her dad I was only tipsy not falling over drunk I slurred my words a bit that was all again it wasn't around dd I didnt hurt anyone her dad took it too far and said I was drunk

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FreshInks · 10/03/2026 19:55

I mean this with kindness, have you ever experienced mania or psychosis?

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Hippychickbbbb · 10/03/2026 19:49

I've Google Ed this people can over share as a result of stress I don't have to agree with the term trauma dumping

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AllSlippersareBanned · 10/03/2026 19:44

What is your AIBU, OP? What are you wanting from this thread? I don’t think it’s helping you. You need to concentrate on rl therapy.

FreshInks · 10/03/2026 19:44

You can’t change the past but at the same time you have to take steps to try and move forward.

I know you say you are not unwell but you have been sectioned twice. What diagnoses did you receive at the time?

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Hippychickbbbb · 10/03/2026 19:35

I'm not unwell I've tried to reach out for support I have a a therapist who I talk to I phone the samaritans for support as I'm going through a hard time I'm not suicidal I lean on my mum for support and my friend Sharon I go to the gym and local social club I'm trying to talk about my feelings alot less that's all I can do I can't change the past

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BauhausOfEliott · 10/03/2026 17:41

Hippychickbbbb · 10/03/2026 16:41

I'm aware of how people get drained bored I already explained I didnt mean to talk 2 much I already have a councilor I speak to the samartans

It's very obvious from this and your many previous threads that you are very unwell and need professional psychological and psychiatric support. Your friends and family can't provide that and they can't absorb your distress for you; neither can Mumsnet. Your mood and behaviour clearly isn't very stable at the moment and that isn't something unqualified people can take on the responsibility of coping with.

FreshInks · 10/03/2026 16:56

You’re missing out so much information

You don’t just talk about your feelings a lot. You get drunk and throw things.

Why have school said you can’t be alone with your daughter?

FreshInks · 10/03/2026 16:47

Hippychickbbbb · 10/03/2026 16:41

I'm aware of how people get drained bored I already explained I didnt mean to talk 2 much I already have a councilor I speak to the samartans

The Samaritans aren’t counsellors. They are a listening service. You are far better speaking to a grain councillor

Hoardasurass · 10/03/2026 16:47

Hippychickbbbb · 10/03/2026 16:10

Ii don't care its a recognised term I don't like it it

People aren't going to stop using an accurate and recognised term just because you dont like it, so you need to get used to the term or stop trauma dumping on everyone around yo

NotMeAtAll · 10/03/2026 16:44

Hippychickbbbb · 08/03/2026 13:21

I think the term trauma dumping is cruel I do have 2 way conversations

No it's not. It's extremely difficult to be on the end of trauma dumping.

Edit: BTW I don't think you're necessarily trauma dumping, just that it's horrible.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 10/03/2026 16:42

Hippychickbbbb · 10/03/2026 16:10

Ii don't care its a recognised term I don't like it it

Was that to me? It is irrelevant whether you like it or not tbh. It is the recognised term for what is happening.

It’s up to you, OP. You can either accept the situation you have been posting about for 6 years or you can be proactive about trying to turn it round. All you have done is have a go at people for giving you advice.

You have at least one child stuck in the middle of this.

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Hippychickbbbb · 10/03/2026 16:41

I'm aware of how people get drained bored I already explained I didnt mean to talk 2 much I already have a councilor I speak to the samartans

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Boomer55 · 10/03/2026 16:33

Hippychickbbbb · 10/03/2026 13:47

I'm not meaning to trauma dump as others have said I already feel bad that's why I posted for support! I do care about others feelings otherwise I wouldn't feel bad I really didn't realise I was talking so much I'm trying to talk less about my feelings, just telling me I'm trauma dumping without offering

advice on how to stop talking about it isn't helpful. I really don't like the term as I've said, the other person, I was talking to made no effort to end the conversation and just let me talk about about it without me realising ,how much I was talking about stuff if I'd realied I would have stopped talking I found it hard to stop talking as I was very distressed I naturally have alot to say as a person but I have helplines telling me its good to talk about my feelings, I explained I talked too much they don't listen I phone the samaritans to ofload on to them instead I made the mistake of coming off my antidepressants wish gave me extreme feelings that were hard to control I already feel bad

I would sort out your medication, and use professionals to talk to. They are trained and paid to listen.

Whether you like the term ‘trauma dumping’ or not is irrelevant, people still get drained/bored. 🤷‍♀️

BauhausOfEliott · 10/03/2026 16:17

Hippychickbbbb · 10/03/2026 16:10

Ii don't care its a recognised term I don't like it it

It doesn't matter whether you like it. Other people are allowed to use it.

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Hippychickbbbb · 10/03/2026 16:10

Ii don't care its a recognised term I don't like it it

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ComtesseDeSpair · 10/03/2026 15:18

When you want to talk with friends, it helps you both if you begin with clear expectations. If you say “I’m going through some heavy stuff, are you able to listen for a bit? I’d like your view on whether the way I acted was unreasonable / whether what I’m planning to do is a good idea” then you’ve given your friend an indicator of what you’d like from them as well as prior warning of what’s going to be shared and the option to say no.

If you meet up with a friend and they conversationally ask “how has your week been?” and you respond with a stream of consciousness of the same feelings and problems you’ve been sharing for years, with no progress made on addressing them, and no meaningful indication that any advice they’ve previously given you has been taken on board, that’s where people become fatigued and feel as though they’re being dumped on.

If it’s just open-ended listening you want then as others have said, the Samaritans can be a great help. Most people are natural problem-solvers: they haven’t been trained to simply listen and not offer advice or feel frustrated when you don’t take it, whereas the Samaritans have been. Have you considered peer support groups as well? You can often self-refer, or ask your GP to signpost if not.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 10/03/2026 15:00

The Samaritans are a great suggestion. They are trained in situations like yours and may be able to signpost genuine real life support

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 10/03/2026 14:59

Hippychickbbbb · 10/03/2026 13:47

I'm not meaning to trauma dump as others have said I already feel bad that's why I posted for support! I do care about others feelings otherwise I wouldn't feel bad I really didn't realise I was talking so much I'm trying to talk less about my feelings, just telling me I'm trauma dumping without offering

advice on how to stop talking about it isn't helpful. I really don't like the term as I've said, the other person, I was talking to made no effort to end the conversation and just let me talk about about it without me realising ,how much I was talking about stuff if I'd realied I would have stopped talking I found it hard to stop talking as I was very distressed I naturally have alot to say as a person but I have helplines telling me its good to talk about my feelings, I explained I talked too much they don't listen I phone the samaritans to ofload on to them instead I made the mistake of coming off my antidepressants wish gave me extreme feelings that were hard to control I already feel bad

Nobody is going to tell you to stop talking in real life. You don’t like the term trauma dumping but it is a recognised term.

You have been posting for several years about your issues and people are kindly suggesting that you seek professional help from people who may be able to help you in real life.

Helplines tell you to talk and that’s good but it’s about finding the right people to talk to.

But when people have suggested this you have just got offended.

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Hippychickbbbb · 10/03/2026 13:47

I'm not meaning to trauma dump as others have said I already feel bad that's why I posted for support! I do care about others feelings otherwise I wouldn't feel bad I really didn't realise I was talking so much I'm trying to talk less about my feelings, just telling me I'm trauma dumping without offering

advice on how to stop talking about it isn't helpful. I really don't like the term as I've said, the other person, I was talking to made no effort to end the conversation and just let me talk about about it without me realising ,how much I was talking about stuff if I'd realied I would have stopped talking I found it hard to stop talking as I was very distressed I naturally have alot to say as a person but I have helplines telling me its good to talk about my feelings, I explained I talked too much they don't listen I phone the samaritans to ofload on to them instead I made the mistake of coming off my antidepressants wish gave me extreme feelings that were hard to control I already feel bad

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 10/03/2026 13:21

Hippychickbbbb · 10/03/2026 13:18

Thanks for your kind words

Who was that to? It’s easier if you can either quote the post (click on the “” at the bottom of the post) or tag them with @.

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Hippychickbbbb · 10/03/2026 13:18

Thanks for your kind words

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