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Schools ask too much of families - AIBU?

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historyinthemaking · 26/02/2026 19:36

My DS is aged 8 and in Year 4. Every week they upload homework and what’s coming up on Google Classroom. When they uploaded this week, I couldn’t believe the sheer amount of stuff being asked of families.

i know every dynamic is different, but for us, me and my DH work full time Mon-fri (PIL do school pickups) and we collect our DS from his DGP’s between 5 and 6pm. His bedtime is from 8.30-9pm. We get 2.5hrs with our DS in the evening (which needs to incorporate feeding & bathing too) and the homework just seems so excessive for an 8 year old! Nevermind the extra curricular activities he does too, like swimming on a Wednesday and football on a Friday.

And then there’s the sheer amount of money the school looks for, sponsor this and sponsor that, themed days, raffles, charity!

my best friend has 2 children at the same school (Y4 and Y3) and she’s also a full time working single mum (and she’s part time studying) and she said she simply doesn’t do all the homework because she physically can’t - not for 2 children.

Are all schools the same? Or is my son’s school the odd one out? I’ve started thinking I should skip some of the homework too just so I can actually spend quality time with my DS instead.

I think school is asking too much of us. AIBU?

OP posts:
Hohofortherobbers · 26/02/2026 19:42

Can GPS do some regular homework with him? The reading book, spellings and maths are probably good ones to outsource.

tarheelbaby · 26/02/2026 19:41

Can you forward links to DGPs to do some of this? They might be pleased to have some structure to the afternoon?

Tahoe11 · 26/02/2026 19:41

You're not being unreasonable. My children are in y3 and y6 at a school without any homework requirements. DD has sats in may and we do a page of maths and English each night from the cgp book, purely out of choice to prepare her. No one has asked if we're doing anything.
Son has ADHD and would really struggle with homework, in fact he needs total mental divide between school and home. I encourage reading for 15 mins before I turn off the light, that's it. They're on track or exceeding in some areas and our school has an Ofsted rating of outstanding.

It's a choice on the part of the school and they can't make it compulsory. What are the consequences of just not doing it? I can almost guarantee there won't be educational consequences!

Octavia64 · 26/02/2026 19:41

Reading spelling and practising times tables every day are totally standard for year 4 and every school will be asking this.

They do seem to have a lot of events coming up but it is clearly a religious school and it is lent so….

Blondeshavemorefun · 26/02/2026 19:39

Mini blondes yr 4 does ttrs (maths) spelling and reading each night. We do 5 mins on each. Sure anyone can find 15mins

I know some of her friends don’t do it’s say too much / don’t have the time - tho they will then watch tv /ipad for an hour