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To ask DH to get up in the morning if WFH?

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visitacastle · 24/02/2026 21:10

Title doesn’t fully explain so bear with me.

This isn’t a massive big deal or anything but I am wondering.

DH usually works in the office; it’s a long commute so he leaves at 7am. He works from home twice a week and I work on these days.

We have two children. Usually they wake at a reasonably civilised time but every six weeks or so our youngest (2) seems to go through a spate of very early wake ups, around 530. I get up with her but honestly it is a bit exasperating listening to DHs peaceful snores.

Every so often he’ll announce he’s WFH on a day I don’t work and I never know whether it’s reasonable or not to say ‘OK - you can take DD then!’ On the one hand I think well, he’s working but on the other I think so am I and he doesn’t get up on those days! So thought I’d ask here.

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crossedlines · 24/02/2026 21:23

I worked just part time 3 days a week when ours were babies and if there was an early wake up on days I wasn’t working, then I’d deal with the kids. If it was a day we both worked, we’d take turns. That seems reasonable to me.

PurpleThistle7 · 24/02/2026 21:22

What are you doing the other 5 days of the week? If you’re with the kids all day then I think that’s different. But weekends for sure should be split.

visitacastle · 24/02/2026 21:16

Does anyone with a two year old sleep until midday? I hope not …

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Burntt · 24/02/2026 21:15

What do your weekends look like? Are you part time? Absolutely he needs to do some mornings and let you sleep in but if he’s letting you sleep till midday on a weekend I’d have a different response than if you do all weekends too

Bigtreeesss · 24/02/2026 21:15

Heaven forbid he shares childcare…

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