If you had kids young and were judged for it how do you feel seeing the current trendy opinion has switched to praising young motherhood?

Good point OP. Glad things worked out for you. I feel any focus or criticism should be directed at the fathers of the babies carried by these teenage mothers. Where are they? Are they supporting their children and the mothers emotionally and financially? If not, why not? How did they come to act so irresponsibly? It’s easy enough to prevent a pregnancy as a man, (or boy), why not be more proactive here?

It's about controlling women and making white babies aka racism. Many men now feel displaced when women out earn them, dont have to settle for a twat and even decide they dont need a man in any form! Locking women out of education benefits them (obvs you can go to uni with a baby but it's harder)

None of these idiots online are hoping nobody white women listen though.

This is very true!

(Although personally I would like my own DCs to not have kids until well into adulthood & they’ve made the most of being young, free & single!)

I don't see any 'trendy' attitude to young motherhood. I do see right wingers trying to push women towards it whether they want it or not.

NB, I don't think there's anything wrong with young motherhood inherently, but I don't like the way some on the political Right enshrine it as 'the right thing' for all women to do. I think the ulterior motive with that group is to scare women that they will be 'too old' or infertile to have a baby or get a man if they wait too long, in the hope that dodgy, lazy older men can entrap young women with less life experience into being their tradwives. I mean, it won't work, most women know they don't want to be a mother to children and a man who expects her to do everything domestic

the child I had at 16 is 32 now and I was judged very harshly too, but I still think a 16yr old would be judged today. Whilst society thinks late 30’s is too late, they probably still think teens is too early. Biology would support teen motherhood though, optimal time and of all 3 of my kids, I found him the easiest (I was 27 and 31 when I had 2 and 3, 3 is nearly 18 and thank God as i’m exhausted)!

Misogyny ensures women can’t do anything right. We’ll always be too young or too old.

Thanks
I was 19 when I had my child and believe that to be too young.
I didn't have parents (sadly).
With sheer determination and hard graft, I completed my professional training and have always worked full time ( and more) to support myself and my child.
I agree that there is alot of negative prejudice and stereotyping of young single parenthood and I have been on the receiving end of that too.
In reality, there are significant numbers of single parent who fulfil the stereotype.
Parenting is hard, let's not make it any harder, irrespective of age and circumstances

It's not a swing in public opinion. It's a sociopolitical move to get middle aged white men 19 year old wives, knocking out the white babies and cleaning the house wearing pink leggings and a crop top.

It's trying to change young women's - teenaged girls' - sexual behaviour in a way that benefits middleaged men.

I don't think teenage pregnancy has become praised anywhere?

I would say it is more likely that the spiteful whingers online have a fairly narrow view of what parenting should look like and they take potshots anyone who falls outside of that (including outside the min/max age range).

The Daily Mail has been going on about both teen pregnancy and women's ageing eggs for as long as I (40s) can remember.

Also, most people have a view on the age range within which people 'should' reproduce, but most of us just don't feel the need to go on about it on social media.

My parents had their children in their 30s when they had finished paying off their first mortgage of £3k and were homeowners so could afford to live on one wage, mum was a receptionist and dad a factory worker so they were not high earners but we still had a lovely upbringing in a well respected area with nice holidays and a comfortable standard of living.

Dad took early retirement with his savings in his 50s and mum had never gone back to work and got her pension at 60.
They spend their retirement enjoying several cruises a year when they weren’t away in their motor home.
They always had brand new cars and they were very comfortable, eating in nice restaurants, nice clothes and a boat, money was just there after starting with a 3K mortgage on their first home and ending up now with a 4 bed house in the SW worth over half a million with lots of savings all on a factory worker wage with a sahm and 3 children and not a single benefit in sight.

Dad will be 96 this year and if he lives to 100 he will have been retired for half of his life and what a life they had and mum hardly worked at all. Neither went to uni or college, had no qualifications and Dad did very poorly at school.

You just can’t do that now, especially younger generations who work longer and longer hours and still can’t make ends meet without benefits to top up their wage with no retirement in sight.
Where is the enjoyment in life, the living, it’s all just stress, stress, stress.
One thing that strikes me from my parents era is that they were much happier and less stressed, even work wasn’t stressful, it was much more relaxed and friendly without the work politics and pushing each other down to get ahead, Dad worked 8 hours 8-4 then came home and enjoyed barbecues in the garden.

People were just a lot more pleasant and respectful to each other because a good life was achievable.
We are headed for generations of stressed and burnt out people with no homes, no hope, just working to the ground to stay alive with out even the joy of retirement to work towards because they keep moving the goalpost and the government have the cheek to tell us we need an attitude change to hard work, rather than work/life balance.

I certainly do not think people are advocating for teen pregnancy and if people are judging, they’re probably saying to have kids in your 20’s not whilst you’re still in school/college

That being said, you are right that you will get judged either way. I’m sorry you had a lot of stick when you had your baby at 16. And I agree, on the opposite end of the spectrum you get stick for being too old.

Why would you go onto X and search “empty egg carton” in the first place?! Let alone try to use what you found as some sort of basis for your argument.

There are all sorts of gross corners of the internet, I’m not sure how that justifies your initial point.

Has it? I haven’t noticed. Clearly not on mumsnet.

I've seen nothing advocating teen pregnancy

When I was 13 I was outside my block with a friend who was minding her little brother, who was about 2. This old man started muttering as he walked past that she was a slag yadda yadda yadda. We were in shock. So yes, I fully believe there are idiots out there who come out with this sort of shit.
I had my kid at 43. Didn´t leave it on purpose, just met my husband late in life. Have had to learn not to give a shit what anyone thinks, you should do the same.

Elon has 14 children by a slew of mothers. Nobody is looking at him as the playbook on parenthood.

I haven't noticed a shift in any zeitgeist towards mothers of a particular age, be it young or older. Rather it seems mothers of ANY age are liable to be criticised for age/stage in life they chose to have children.

I think it'll be a cold day in hell before people praise women for beginning the parenting journey at age 16.

I don’t think the pendulum has swung so far that having a baby at 16 is seen as a good thing now. I think the same people who judged you then would still judge you now (and even those who don’t judge would still not see it as a good thing for you).

The young motherhood being praised online is usually mid twenties, in my experience. I think that’s very America-focused though where it’s linked to religion and politics, and not really a thing among the British people I know.

I see this at my children’s school, have children young, don’t work and then they get to their mid/late 30s with no pram to push around but no desire to get a job.

Do you understand what NEET refers to?
You’re linking a twitter account which promotes young people having no education or job via a serious of constant and shitty memes. It’s not news, it’s not a serious platform.
An unemployed red pill incel shitting on a 30 year old female manager for not having children? Oh let’s all take notes!