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Can we stop acting like everyone has an equal capability to become well off?

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DeluluTaylor · 22/02/2026 21:46

Based on the pension thread but not about OP. All this ‘why do people spend their whole lives on MW’ is so woefully ignorant. Some people don’t have a choice.
Neurodiversity
confidence
childcare availability
institutional racism
learning disabilities
trauma and it’s impact
Lifelong insecure housing
Being able to speak English but not write it
So many, many reasons why it is difficult to climb up the ladder. I’ve never been able to as I don’t have the right skills for management. But the world needs more worker bees than managers!
Who do they think should do these jobs?

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Ashahante · 25/02/2026 22:36

XenoBitch · 25/02/2026 22:23

I read a book recently called "Hired". A journalist went undercover in 4 different low paid jobs. One of them was in an Amazon warehouse (the others was a call centre, being a carer, and an Uber driver). Was an eye opener and worth a read.

You make a fair point. These jobs are hard and we need people to do them.

XenoBitch · 25/02/2026 22:23

I read a book recently called "Hired". A journalist went undercover in 4 different low paid jobs. One of them was in an Amazon warehouse (the others was a call centre, being a carer, and an Uber driver). Was an eye opener and worth a read.

Ashahante · 25/02/2026 22:20

I think conditions at Amazon warehouses could be better.

But, I think even the warehouse staff get access to employee benefits and decent overtime pay

Delivery driving is outscored and super competitive so the pay is competed down to keep prices low.

XenoBitch · 25/02/2026 22:20

nearlylovemyusername · 25/02/2026 22:15

People at the bottom wouldn't turn the cogs without someone at the top giving them those cogs and ensuring they are turning at the right frequency.

How many years have you been on benefits? they aren't paid by cogs turners, but by people who chose to become successful = net contributors.

No one disputes that "cogs turners" should be able to live good enough lives and have sufficient income to house, feed and cloths themselves. But to say that low achievers are only there because of bad luck is simply stupid. Unless disability involved of course.

So why do people on MN look down on the low paid workers so much? Think they can just "do better". It is literally why OP started this thread. People do not see the various barriers to just "doing better".

XenoBitch · 25/02/2026 22:19

Ashahante · 25/02/2026 22:11

He pays them?

But people on MN seem to think people on the low rungs are failures etc.

nearlylovemyusername · 25/02/2026 22:15

XenoBitch · 25/02/2026 22:04

Yes, but he is only successful because of the hard and unrecognised work of the people at the bottom.
And that is a point many if us have been making in this thread. We need the people at the bottom for the cogs to turn. Yet those very same people are called failures, lazy, should try and do better etc.

And you talk like Jeff Bezos is a charity and pulling people out of hardship and helping them. Bullshit.

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People at the bottom wouldn't turn the cogs without someone at the top giving them those cogs and ensuring they are turning at the right frequency.

How many years have you been on benefits? they aren't paid by cogs turners, but by people who chose to become successful = net contributors.

No one disputes that "cogs turners" should be able to live good enough lives and have sufficient income to house, feed and cloths themselves. But to say that low achievers are only there because of bad luck is simply stupid. Unless disability involved of course.

Ashahante · 25/02/2026 22:11

XenoBitch · 25/02/2026 22:04

Yes, but he is only successful because of the hard and unrecognised work of the people at the bottom.
And that is a point many if us have been making in this thread. We need the people at the bottom for the cogs to turn. Yet those very same people are called failures, lazy, should try and do better etc.

And you talk like Jeff Bezos is a charity and pulling people out of hardship and helping them. Bullshit.

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He pays them?

XenoBitch · 25/02/2026 22:04

Ashahante · 25/02/2026 21:55

Jeff bezos created the infrastructure and system for their labour to actual have meaning, value and have productive outcomes. They don't just work in a complete vacuum.

Yes, but he is only successful because of the hard and unrecognised work of the people at the bottom.
And that is a point many if us have been making in this thread. We need the people at the bottom for the cogs to turn. Yet those very same people are called failures, lazy, should try and do better etc.

And you talk like Jeff Bezos is a charity and pulling people out of hardship and helping them. Bullshit.

Ashahante · 25/02/2026 21:55

XenoBitch · 25/02/2026 21:45

And it is sad that people should go though life thiknking their only value is what £££ they make.
A poor artist could make a wonderful piece of art that brings someone joy for years.
An abused child could have been helped by a low paid social worker, and managed to get their life on track.

In contrast, I am thanking Jeff Bezos for nothing. I am thanking the poorly paid driver from bringing stuff from his warehouses, that have been picked by a poorly paid picker.

Jeff bezos created the infrastructure and system for their labour to actual have meaning, value and have productive outcomes. They don't just work in a complete vacuum.

XenoBitch · 25/02/2026 21:45

Ashahante · 25/02/2026 21:41

Because that's what society wants to pay and how society values it. Pay isn't magically determined by a fairy that decides fairness. Pay is decided by what people are willing to pay for it. By what the employer wants to pay someone.

And it is sad that people should go though life thiknking their only value is what £££ they make.
A poor artist could make a wonderful piece of art that brings someone joy for years.
An abused child could have been helped by a low paid social worker, and managed to get their life on track.

In contrast, I am thanking Jeff Bezos for nothing. I am thanking the poorly paid driver from bringing stuff from his warehouses, that have been picked by a poorly paid picker.

Ashahante · 25/02/2026 21:41

DeluluTaylor · 25/02/2026 17:46

@adlitembut you’re not pretending that we all would be able to succeed in any subject. I can’t draw or paint. I can’t easily complete maths equations. Other people can’t write poetry like me or sing like my friend, or play multiple instruments. Wouldn’t it be great if all skills were celebrated equally? Why should social work pay so much less than being a solicitor?

Because that's what society wants to pay and how society values it. Pay isn't magically determined by a fairy that decides fairness. Pay is decided by what people are willing to pay for it. By what the employer wants to pay someone.

WonkyConk · 25/02/2026 21:38

XenoBitch · 25/02/2026 21:23

I thought there had been studies done about this claim that there are multi-generations of people who have never worked... and it was a myth?

Probably not that many where several generations have never worked at all, but plenty who have flitted in and out of minimum wage work, relied on crime to survive, and essentially used the welfare state as their main income. In sociology this is known as the underclass, which is a bit of a horrible term.

XenoBitch · 25/02/2026 21:23

WonkyConk · 25/02/2026 21:14

Social mobility is so, so rare, and it always has been. We may not have the caste system but it’s true that for the vast majority of people, their job will reflect the social standing of the job of their great, great grandparents. Yes there are outliers but that’s exactly what they are.

Add to that since the welfare state there are multi-generations of those who have never worked, which is a recent-ish development. To be born into that kind of scenario and then become a doctor or lawyer would be virtually impossible, for all kinds of reasons.

I thought there had been studies done about this claim that there are multi-generations of people who have never worked... and it was a myth?

PollyBell · 25/02/2026 21:20

So because some people have chips on their shoulders we should have 2 groups of people in the same profession doing the same tasks/jobs but one group have had all the training and qualifications and the other group just to fill the quotas?

How will this work in reality on a day to day basis?

WonkyConk · 25/02/2026 21:14

Social mobility is so, so rare, and it always has been. We may not have the caste system but it’s true that for the vast majority of people, their job will reflect the social standing of the job of their great, great grandparents. Yes there are outliers but that’s exactly what they are.

Add to that since the welfare state there are multi-generations of those who have never worked, which is a recent-ish development. To be born into that kind of scenario and then become a doctor or lawyer would be virtually impossible, for all kinds of reasons.

XenoBitch · 25/02/2026 21:13

BlueJuniper94 · 25/02/2026 21:10

Do you want a solicitor with the same level of training as a social worker?

I want to see a solicitor who wants to be a solicitor and not be all about the £££££ (although some people might say that is all they want in their job anyway).

BlueJuniper94 · 25/02/2026 21:10

XenoBitch · 25/02/2026 19:19

Because they want to be social workers and not solictors?

Do you want a solicitor with the same level of training as a social worker?

DeluluTaylor · 25/02/2026 19:19

@BlueJuniper94explain to me why not? Plus social work isn’t a hobby. It’s ruddy hard work. Heartbreaking and relentless.

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XenoBitch · 25/02/2026 19:19

BlueJuniper94 · 25/02/2026 18:28

If social workers want higher pay why didn't they train to be a solicitor

Because they want to be social workers and not solictors?

BlueJuniper94 · 25/02/2026 19:09

DeluluTaylor · 25/02/2026 19:05

@BlueJuniper94but we need both!! Who would solicitors work for if everyone was solicitors? Plus what do all these high flying people do in there spare time? Watch plays, listen to music, go to art galleries, read books, listen to podcasts, laugh at comedy… all created by people who have different sorts of brains. How boring would the world be if we were all logical, STEM graduates or if there was no creative people? Is that really what you want?

I am not sure what your point is? That there should be a universal basic income and we all just pursue our hobbies?

DeluluTaylor · 25/02/2026 19:05

@BlueJuniper94but we need both!! Who would solicitors work for if everyone was solicitors? Plus what do all these high flying people do in there spare time? Watch plays, listen to music, go to art galleries, read books, listen to podcasts, laugh at comedy… all created by people who have different sorts of brains. How boring would the world be if we were all logical, STEM graduates or if there was no creative people? Is that really what you want?

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BlueJuniper94 · 25/02/2026 18:28

DeluluTaylor · 25/02/2026 17:46

@adlitembut you’re not pretending that we all would be able to succeed in any subject. I can’t draw or paint. I can’t easily complete maths equations. Other people can’t write poetry like me or sing like my friend, or play multiple instruments. Wouldn’t it be great if all skills were celebrated equally? Why should social work pay so much less than being a solicitor?

If social workers want higher pay why didn't they train to be a solicitor

crossedlines · 25/02/2026 18:23

DeluluTaylor · 25/02/2026 17:46

@adlitembut you’re not pretending that we all would be able to succeed in any subject. I can’t draw or paint. I can’t easily complete maths equations. Other people can’t write poetry like me or sing like my friend, or play multiple instruments. Wouldn’t it be great if all skills were celebrated equally? Why should social work pay so much less than being a solicitor?

You might wish to celebrate all skills equally, but it makes no sense to remunerate them all equally. There are some jobs which are incredibly difficult, involve high stakes responsibility, take years of training for. Some jobs are far easier.
Personally I think there are many jobs where people do deserve a higher wage, but it’s ridiculous to suggest all jobs deserve equal pay. If they were, you can bet your life there’d be hordes of people wanting the easy jobs and hardly anyone wanting the tougher ones!

SunshineMel678 · 25/02/2026 17:53

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 25/02/2026 16:39

Working hard in a cut throat industry isnt for everyone though. It might mean that they burn out faster, or the pressure is too much.

I agree with the PP who said that sometimes someone might choose a lesser paid job with fewer responsibilities, but they feel happy. Nothing wrong with that either if it means better mental health and life work balance.

No, nothing wrong with it. But the point of the thread is about the ability to become well off financially.

I have certainly prioritised money over my physical well-being and momentary happiness at times. A lot of my profesional decisions as a student and as an adult had money / financial stability in mind.

BlueJuniper94 · 25/02/2026 17:49

pocketpairs · 25/02/2026 15:19

Seem to me all the opportunities are going to people from Chinese, Indian, African or Bangladeshi backgrounds. They are naturally smarter than us and work harder, so need a quota system to level up unfair system.

Who is "us"?

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