Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To hate "outdoor clothes" in the bed?

156 replies

Clover96 · 20/02/2026 18:00

Bit of a silly one really but please help settle a domestic disagreement 😅

Am I being unreasonable to not want my partner wearing the clothes he's worn out and about all day, in or even laying on the bed? He showered in the morning, went to work, hasn't changed his clothes since coming home and lay in the bed. He thinks I'm being dramatic / naggy to want him to change his clothes.

We only changed the bedding last night and I never wear the clothes I've worn out in the bed, he doesn't really see the issue.

OP posts:
xyzandabc · 20/02/2026 18:07

You've used both the words in the bed and on the bed

On top of the duvet, fine.
Underneath the duvet/sheets, not fine.

ApolloandDaphne · 20/02/2026 18:05

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Popfan · 20/02/2026 18:04

Depends on his line of work.... in an office ok, a trade or outside not so much.

RandomUsernameHere · 20/02/2026 18:03

I’m in between, for me on is ok, in not so much.

Coffeetimes3 · 20/02/2026 18:02

I get this is a 'thing' for some people but I think it's unfair to insist on it for other people. Unless he is literally going to get the bed visibly dirty or he works in a fishmongers then leave him be. I'd hate to be told what I had to wear to lie on my own bed.

MariaDingbat · 20/02/2026 18:02

100% behind you, my kids even know that it's no outdoor clothes in bed. I grew up in the countryside and my mother was a sticker for this to to stop ticks and mites coming in, plus it's just gross having an the days dirt in your clean bed.

Swipe left for the next trending thread