DH and family left me alone in a restaurant

I had frequency in late pregnancy but I still would have gone to the loo when people started talking about getting the bill or had finished their meal. I didn't need to go every 10 minutes.

I can’t believe the first few replies. OP was 8 months pregnant- I would be expecting the DH to be keeping an eye out for her. If they aren’t in the habit of waiting at the car then it is really inconsiderate to bugger off without telling her.

Absolutely agree with this.

I had a similar scenario with (ex) DP and his parents.
Mind you, i'm going back over 12 years ago, but it crosses my mind occasionally, and still niggles me to this day!!

Hope the DH in question has bucked up his ideas a bit now.🙄

Do you pee normally when you're pregnant like? I certainly didn't.

I think they should have waited for you but last minute toilet faffers are a pain whether you are leaving the house or returning home. Don't leave it until the last minute.

YANBU that ILs were a bit rude to go off and not saying goodbye.

YABU for wandering around bewildered like a lost lamb asking waiters where your family went and talking about wandering about in a car park in the dark. That sounds a bit pathetic to be honest.

I wouldn't have expected everyone to wait for you, but DH should have. But if this is the biggest gripe you have in life at the moment, esp as its not happened recently you really need to let it go.

I'm sorry but i completely agree with you rather than the majority
They should have waited its basic manners. Whether they waited at the table until you returned or in the reception area of the restaurant it was rude to walk off

Actually my DH would probably have brought the car closer to the door. I think he'd do that anyway (though we normally leave together) but think he really might if I were heavily pregnant. We do it for elderly MIL.

It was a bit thoughtless OP but not worth dwelling on.

Are you really suggesting an 8 months pregnant woman shouldn’t be allowed out alone, in case the baby comes early? Or that op might have been actually giving birth in the loo for all her erring husband knew and he’d have missed it, sitting in blissful ignorance in the car park?

Rude. DH should've waited inside or said, We'll go to the car and I'll bring it round or something like that.

Contrary to what others are saying I do not think you’re being unreasonable. This would very much bother me too! I figured it was normal to wait for whoever you are with… why on earth would you just leave the building without first letting them know you would wait in the car beforehand?! Especially with you being 8 months pregnant, that makes it worse. Also your partner couldn’t wait 2 minutes for you to use the loo… be just left without telling you?! How inconsiderate and honestly weird. I would never not wait for a friend/Family member/Partner to use the toilet or do whatever needed doing and then exit the building together, surely even 1 person should wait for you?!? it’s common courtesy! x

I think at a couple of weeks off her due date it would have been nice to wait for his wife while she was in the bathroom. My 3rd child came early.

I understand where you're coming from, but I wouldn't dwell on it any longer. They didn't leave you high and dry, they just decided to wait in the car.

I would have expected DH to tell me if he was going to wait in the car. Generally we would just wait in the restaurant if someone was nipping to the loo, it’s only a few minutes - if they decided to head out to the car without having told you they were going to, I would consider that a bit thoughtless. I don’t see what being pregnant has to do with it though.

In my family the most they might do is get up and wait in the foyer but at 8 months pregnant someone would have waited at the table or even outside the loo. Might be different if I'd been one of those super fit women who was still jogging at 8 months but I was huge and definitely wouldn't have been left wandering alone in the dark. Sorry that happened to you, OP.

I'm always losing my DP. One of us often wanders off while the other goes to the loo. We usually find each other again.

I would expect my husband to be waiting for me for when I come out of the toilet. The rest of the family isn’t an issue, they can wait by the car but being 8 months pregnant, I would be so annoyed if my husband done this! My expectation would be that he would wait for me then walk out to the car with me to say goodbye to everyone else. Sorry you experienced that!

That’s crazy. I wouldn’t never wander off and leave my wife alone by herself. Basic respect. My wife and I are a team. And I don’t leave her by herself. I refuse to. She is my best friend, my soulmate, and we are a team. I point blank refuse to do something like that to her. It is unthinkable.

I think i would have expected my husband to wait tbh.

One of those incidents you cannot forget
It would bug me always

Works great for us, thanks. Plus the converse didn't work for the OP.

I totally agree with you. I can't imagine my family doing this to anyone and my DH would definitely have waited around for me. It's very odd they went off without saying goodbye

It seems likely if you are going out for a meal at 8 months pregnant that you wouldn't choose somewhere where you had to park miles away.

Plus, I suspect had that been the case, the OP would have mentioned it, as walking across a City to get to the car park a 20min walk away would put a lot more people on her side.

So I think it is a reasonable assumption the car was parked outside the pub or restaurant they ate in.

Where else would the restaurant car park be but just outside the restaurant?
It’s unlikely to be a multi-storey on the other side of town.