DH and family left me alone in a restaurant

I don't think this would be an issue ordinarily but maybe you felt extra vulnerable being heavily pregnant, and that's why it's stayed with you.

One day you're going to have a real problem then you can look back on this and laugh.

I’m 99.9% certain that in this situation my husband would wait for me in the entrance or just outside the building, he wouldn’t wait in the car. Thats pretty standard to me.

I would’ve expected my husband to wait for me. I would wait for him too in fairness.

If I was going to the loo and the people I was having dinner with were planning to shoot off, I’d expect them to say “we will say bye now as we are leaving” I would expect my DH to wait for me at the exit and walk to the car together.

Had you already said your goodbyes? If not, then yeah that was rude, I think it's normal to leave the table because usually the waiting staff want you to move so they can start clearing the table but I would have expected them to wait at the front entrance. If you had not said your goodbyes then your in-laws essentially walked off without saying goodbye even if it was unintentional.

If the bill had been settled I'd assume people were going to leave,yes.

Would you? When everyone was still sat at the table, no-one putting coats on or making any other immediate moves to leave? How odd to say goodbye in those circumstances.

Outside the restaurant or outside the loo?

I'm surprised at the responses, I think it's rude. You're sat finishing your drinks , nearly ready to go and someone goes to the loo. You either wait in place or at the very most go to the door and keep an eye out for them before you go. OP went for a wee and they left without saying goodbye.

If you'd gone for lunch with your friend and went to the loo while they were still sat down and you came out the loo and they'd just left and gone home you'd think that perfectly normal? Bonkers.

And no way would dp just leave me either and go sit in the car. If we had two bored rowdy kids, he might SAY as I was going to the loo "I'll get the kids in the car ready while you go, see you outside. "

I went to a restaurant with family this weekend but everyone waited for the loo users outside. Polite thing to do imo.

I think it's off; especially that you were 8 months pregnant. Your husband should have at least waited at the table for you.

Rude! After you said you were popping to the loo, as a matter of common courtesy, I would totally expect someone to say, see you at the car then. I would be annoyed too, especially if it was dark and I was heavily pregnant. Thankfully my husband is a bit more considerate.

Surely you’d walk back to table, see it empty, walk to car park. Non event really.

That’s a rubbish thing for them to do. I’m not surprised you were upset. I’d have let rip!

I do get where your coming from in not waiting and saying bye to you.
Some families are closer than others in that they'll wait chat ... maybe they thought you'd be awhile or maybe they said to partner say bye for us... don't dwell on it though unless other things have happened that you feel bugged by .

I’m pretty sure the op is able to find her way to the car
You’re more certain than op is, in that case.

Me neither x

I’m pretty sure the op is able to find her way to the car , however I do think personally it is impolite / bad manners to leave without saying goodbye , actually possibly quite odd for EVERYONE to leave ( maybe they don’t like u that much 😂 ) sorry , I know it probably upset u but in the grand scheme of things , it’s not the end of the world . So many people will experience appalling behaviour much worse than this from their beloved in-laws !

Totally normal. It’s awkward lurking in the doorway after youve all got up.

batshit responses as usual! Of course it’s rude for everyone to leave without saying goodbye and it is absolutely weird for your dh to go sit in the car alone and wait for you without saying where he is!

If they'd said, 'We'll be in the car' or you had said, 'Don't wait', fine. Otherwise, just plain pig-ignorant.

I can’t believe these replies either. You are not being unreasonable OP that’s a weird thing to do , just leave you in the loo!! My OH would never do that . If I go to the loo he would be waiting for me when I got out , unless he specifically said‘I’ll see you in the car ‘

You were 8 months pregnant. He left you in there. Your hormones/emotions all over the place (and late-pregnant women can’t exactly choose the time to go…you go all the time!). I think he was inconsiderate and it’s awful, no wonder you’re dwelling on it. I went out recently for a big group of us, my mum’s 98th. I knew my sister was still in the loo at the end…her husband had asked me to go to their car with him as they’d bought me a ‘thank you’ gift for organising the do (23 people). I asked my two (grown up) sons to wait by the door for her, as it was dark and I was mindful she may feel left out or disorientated if everyone had just left her there. She isn’t pregnant btw.

Unless op had gone to the toilet with tummy pains etc, I’m not sure being pregnant is really relevant