DH and family left me alone in a restaurant

I can't take your drama seriously.

Well she might have gone into labour in the loo and then what? Her DH would have had to walk back in from the CAR PARK to find her when he realised she'd been gone a while, instead of walking from the restaurant table, saving all of ooh, possibly up to 75 seconds. Crucial in emergencies.

It is very relevant. He shouldn’t have been outside. He should have been inside demonstrating courtesy to his wife and special care and attention to his very pregnant wife. Pregnant women need care and lots of women like to be treated with courtesy. I appreciate that some will say they don’t and can manage all sorts of situations on their own with no help or assistance or special treatment but OP and many others don’t feel like that and a caring partner would respect that.

He was outside the restaurant not disappeared into the wilderness! So no, it's not relevant at all.

Her being pregnant makes what he and the rest of the group did even more unacceptable and just wrong. She is carrying his child and she should be his primary concern particularly at 8 months where at the least she is tired, hormonal and uncomfortable and worse at risk of complications, early delivery etc. It’s little wonder there is a falling birth rate in the west when mentioning one’s pregnancy is seen as dramatic rather than a factor that highlights that better care and concern should have been provided by the father to be and the extended family.

Im wondering what the relevance of her being 8 months pregnant was - except for dramatic effect.

No one is disputing that waiting outside is ok. It's the going off completely without saying goodbye that's really strange. Or telling someone you were going to the car (why bother doing this?) If someone did this to me I would think they were rude and strange.

If there were just two of us then probably not, because why would I stand outside by myself, quite possibly in the dark with no-one to talk to when I could wait inside?

But if I were with a group of people, some of whom might have been in separate cars and they made the decision to start wandering out to the car park, then yes I would quite likely wander out with them. It's possible that someone wanted to smoke or vape so they chose to wait for the OP outside rather than spending longer hanging around inside?

Would you walk out of a restaurant while your friend was in the loo?

Sorry my mistake, she said 'I stood up'. I initially read it as they had all stood up. Even so, I don't think it changes anything. To ask the waiter where they'd gone, given that the bill had been paid is just ridiculous. And I'm guessing the OP knew she should go for a quick wee before they all got back in the car. It was the natural time to leave. To pretend she was abandoned with no idea of where they'd gone is quite pathetic really.

And I can read that just as well without upper case text.

Sorry didn’t know it was considered shouty. I used caps just to emphasise that it wasn’t every poster just some.

Where are you getting ‘everyone had already stood up’ from? I thought everyone was still sitting at the table, but happy to be corrected if I’m wrong. I think that’s quite an important detail.

And some use upper case letters which are deemed shouty, and they think it makes their point more valid.

When it’s just ridiculous really, but of course they’re not rude are they?

SOME not all. No problem with people disagreeing with me. Happens a lot. But SOME comments are unpleasant and verging on being outright misogynistic. Others do believe OP is unreasonable but just stated so and offered a different perspective and even in a few cases advice.

Oh yeah going to the car while she’s in the loo, certainly points to him pissing off down the pub whilst she’s in labour.

It seems this even was some months ago, so the baby has been born, I wonder why she’s fixated on the restaurant and not labouring alone whilst her DH was in the pub?

Because it didn’t happen and the only complaint she had is that he or his family after paying for her meal didn’t hold her hand to cross the car park!!

Yep. Another female here

Why do people bother replying to a thread where the op doesn’t even return

Serious event?😂Having him wander into the car park of a Harvester with his parents while his wife went to the loo? The bill had been paid, everyone had already stood up. Really no need for her act like a helpless lost child asking the waiter where everyone had gone. 🙄

It's not like he drove off and left her in the middle of Cairo or Mogadishu dressed in nothing by a bikini, is it?

I also get very bored with the “you disagree with me”, you must be male!

No luv, I just think you’re wrong on this occasion!

Women have their own minds and thoughts!

I think the normal thing would be either for the group to wait for you to come back before leaving or at least your partner to wait, unless they'd said "see you in the car" or something. However in the absence of other problems, I don't think this is something to be dwelling on months later- just a miscommunication.

I’m female HTH, although I think it’s totally irrelevant, I still stand by my previous comment.

Not worried about anonymity and disclosing I’m female, won’t make me anymore likely to be identified with it?

Women can disagree with women!

Oh and I’m “old”, well 61, so maybe just “older”?

I know there is an expectation of anonymity here which I like but I wonder if anyone agrees that it would be useful to know the sex of the posters. Some responses seem misogynistic to me but then I’m old. As I have made clear I would have been furious with my husband and a bit annoyed with everyone else if this had happened to me even if not pregnant. OPs pregnancy makes everyone’s behaviour even worse.

Christ 😂

I’m glad I’m not the type of person who focuses on this, rather than father-in-law’s kindness at paying the whole bill.