DH and family left me alone in a restaurant

Sorry that happened. Your husband or anyone could have hung around, esp when you're very pregnant, to walk to the car with you. That's just more attentive, thoughtful... Now that it happened, can you find a nice way to say, "if this happens in future, pls could you do xyz, it makes me feel cared for etc"?

I think it was a bit rude of them to not wait to say bye to you op but if they are otherwise kind and caring I don't think it says much.

More than 2 weeks ago OP went to the toilet as the bill was being paid and the rest of the family went out to the car park. In laws went home. Why is there even anything to discuss?

Nah it’s just mad people saying because I’ve a different view in a liar, don’t you find that odd of them?

Also, OP asking and then saying “I don’t care what you say” I’m right, equally odd.

Serious question. I know you disagree with many posters and you did with me much earlier in the thread. However you seem unreasonably angry. Does the fact that many posters take a very different view to you actually impact or harm you? If yes it would be interesting if you could explain. I may be misunderstanding and it may just be that you are putting forward your views robustly which you are obviously entitled to do and as you say OP has asked for opinions.

What that I’m not a liar? Thank you for acknowledging that error.

Does this not make you wonder why OP posted in AIBU?

Yes OP you are, OP stamps feet and will only agree with other drama lamas with damsel in distress syndrome!

Don’t like the answer? Don’t get into the conversation?

Thought not

They were. I would tell your DH that you still think about how mad it was and you would like better from him.

They were all rude and uncaring, especially your DH. It would have taken very little time to just wait for you to come out, especially as you were 8 months pregnant with his child/their grandchild and must have made you feel insignificant.
the fact that you are still holding on to this after all this time suggests there have been other issues.
Does he/his family treat you with disdain in other ways @TemporaryWombat?

Why are you intimating I’m telling lies? Is this normal behaviour for you? Key board warrior?

34% of people think OP is BU, are they all liars?

You don’t agree with me so I’m not normal or telling lies! Do you say this nonsense face to face 🤔.

And it’s hardly something that would even register with me, it’s all drama “wandering” round the car park!

Probably because you've never actually done it.

Maybe you can’t, but for me it’s no big deal!

Yes I’d go with others, to go to cars etc

And for what it’s worth, I’ve never been accused of not “acting normally” 🙄

So if you went for a meal with friends and one went to the loo, you would walk out without saying goodbye and go to your car?

I still can't imagine this would be within the realms of normal behaviour for many people.

It’s a wonder you asked in AIBU then.

And why were you “wandering” round the car park? Very dramatic words!

I’m sorry, but I do think it’s ridiculous behaviour on the part of the OP.

It’s a complete non event, not rude behaviour.

An opinion I will stick too and I’m not saying for dramatic effect.

MN is such an odd place. People defending really weird rude behaviour and pretending the OP is completely unreasonable and pathetic. But I can't imagine a single one of those posters would replicate the rude behaviour themselves.

I think the same way as you OP. When I was pregnant I would, for example, walk home alone in the dark from the station after work. I would still think it uncaring of my DH to let me do the same through a car park when he was there and it wasn’t necessary! Or at least if he hadn’t said so first, and that’s not even about pregnancy really. It’s a bit like not holding open a door for someone who’s just behind you, on the justification that they are capable of doing it themselves.

I’ve also, again while pregnant, popped to the loo while we were leaving a restaurant. Everyone waited chatting just outside so we could all say goodbye and go to our separate cars.

The "
damsel in distress syndrome" refers to a dynamic where a person (often female) consistently presents as helpless to elicit assistance, while another (often male) acts as a "rescuer" to feel empowered. This behavior, rooted in fairy tales and gender stereotypes, can create toxic, co-dependent relationships. It implies a, sometimes mutual, preference for the female to be passive and the male to be dominant.

This is more like it! As it says can create toxic, co-dependent relationships.

So far from “Pregnant women need care and lots of women like to be treated with courtesy. I appreciate that some will say they don’t and can manage all sorts of situations on their own with no help or assistance or special treatment but OP and many others don’t feel like that and a caring partner would respect that.” they actually don’t want toxic or co-dependent relationships.

Pretty straightforward; the men get to feel important, admired and heroic, the women get to feel cared for, protected and have stuff done for them.

Is that true. I know two women who make this their whole personality (and are very popular with men). I'd be interested to learn what's behind it.

Damsel in distress is a genuine syndrome!

Then my work is done !

Well now you put it like that ...😆 🤣