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The driveway drama continues. Neighbours are still driving me insane. What should I do now?

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9champions · 16/02/2026 11:14

I’m not sure if anyone remembers my last thread, but to save me from explaining the background, I’ll link it here - https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5482826-neighbour-using-my-drive-landlord-wont-help-what-can-i-do?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=app_share

I’m not really looking for opinions on that since we’ve already discussed it. However, I’d like to hear your thoughts on what’s happened since then and what I should do next.

After chatting with the neighbour and her outright refusing to stop, I decided to put up my own fence for some privacy and to stop her from using my driveway. I considered putting down planters, boulders, etc. (which I’ll get to in a minute), but I figured a fence would be a better option since it’s sturdier. It’s not ideal because my driveway is pretty narrow, and the extra cost is frustrating, but their fence is right on the boundary line anyway, so hopefully, it won’t make a big difference, and I’ll still have enough space to get in and out of my car.

I’ve been trying to get someone to come over and give me a quote for the last few weeks, but I’ve been let down a couple of times. Finally, someone is coming this week to have a look. Now, about the planters. I’ve been parking my car there as usual, but somehow she’s still managed to squeeze past. I wanted to put something there while I was away this weekend until the fence was up, so I placed 2 long thin planters there (on my land, not hers). I got home yesterday, and there was a knock on the door. It was her saying she ran over the planters and broke them, offering to pay for a new one, etc. I said no (they were £2.50, so I’m not going to bother asking for that), but isn’t this just ridiculous? The planters were on my drive, so the only reason she hit them was because she drove over my property. She tried to claim she clipped them with her back wheel, but that wouldn’t have happened if she wasn’t cutting across the drive in the first place. It was honestly like something out of a comedy sketch.

I’d be more sympathetic if this was their only choice, but it’s not. They could:

Take down their fence so he can park the van there instead and put the car on the street to create more space.

Talk to the landlord again about the fence.

Talk to their neighbours and ask them to leave more room on the road for the van.

Move the van when she needs to go out or come back home.

They’re opting for the easiest, most convenient solution, even if it means damaging someone else's property. It just reaches a point where it becomes bone idle.

So what should I do now? Continue with the fence and hope she doesn’t crash into it or damage it? I can let the planter go, but not a fence. I’ve already asked her nicely, and she made excuses. I’ve put obstacles in her way, and she’s just driven over them. So what else can I do? Should I really have to go through all this trouble to stop someone from using my property?

What’s even more confusing is that she says she can’t get out of her car on the side of the fence because there isn’t enough space, so she has to pull onto the driveway instead of reversing and driving off in a straight line. But her partner was in the passenger seat yesterday and got out on that side just fine, so there’s clearly enough room. I think she’s just a bad / lazy driver and doesn’t want to reverse on.

Before anyone says it’s not causing any damage, I don’t care. It’s my property, and I don’t want them using it. If it was now and again, that would be different, but not every day, multiple times a day. They've been dicks and unhelpful in the past, so no, I don't feel like helping them out either.

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FussyFancyDragon · 17/02/2026 11:36

9champions · 17/02/2026 11:29

I didn’t place the planters there for them to get wrecked. What a stupid thing to say. Do you know how ridiculous you sound? I put them there because I wanted some privacy on my property and for people to stop trespassing. Did I think she would drive over them and damage them? No, of course not, because, they were on MY property. And while she did offer to buy a new one, this wouldn’t have happened if she hadn’t been using my driveway in the first place. It’s entirely her fault, not mine. I should be able to put whatever I want on my own land without having to justify its presence or worry about someone damaging it. Why? Because it’s on MY property. What’s so hard to understand about that?

Also, you keep saying that I’m making it hard for her to park. Am I blocking her driveway? No. Am I putting stuff on her property? No. She still has access to her driveway; she just needs to do one of the following things (I’ll say it again since you clearly can’t read):

Take down HER fence so she can park the van there instead and put the car on the street to create more space.

Talk to the landlord about the fence.

Talk to HER neighbours and ask them to leave more room on the road for the van.

Move the van when she needs to go out or come back home.

So the only person making it difficult for her to park, is her, not me. They are LAZY, selfish, and entitled. It’s as simple as that. You can insist that you’re not entitled or rude all you want, but the reality is that you think it’s okay to use someone else’s property without permission, and if that person says no, then they’re “unhinged” or not a kind neighbour. You are, indeed, entitled.

HTH

😂 Build a wall. Accept that you can’t force her to do any of the things you’ve listed. Enjoy the (temporary) headspace. HTH.

InMySpareTime · 17/02/2026 11:36

In anticipation of your fence being installed you could dig out a foot square of the gravel strip at the end of the driveway, then put a few garden canes around the hole to stop people falling into the hole.
If she drives over that she’ll drop a wheel into the hole and beach/damage her own car and you have plausible deniability that you were just helping the fence builders make a start.

Growlybear83 · 17/02/2026 11:32

@9champions I had a look at the cost of concrete planters as Im looking for some new ones, and they’re not nearly as expensive as I’d expected. There are quite a few really cheap ones on eBay, and they would be so much cheaper and easier than getting a fence put up.

Collaborate · 17/02/2026 11:30

Her driving over your boundary feature and breaking it is a reportable accident. It is also possibly driving without due care, for which she might get 3 points on her license.

A camera should have been your first purchase and if I were you I'd get one immediately.

9champions · 17/02/2026 11:29

FussyFancyDragon · 17/02/2026 11:01

I don’t touch anything that isn’t mine, not do I drive over other people’s drives, so you don’t need to worry about my upbringing, and you’ll be relieved to know that I’m neither entitled or rude. My parents brought me up to live alongside other people and to be kind, and not to cause someone else a difficulty because I’m possessive and simply because I can. I do, however, think it’s not worth getting het up about or start two threads and expect a landlord to get involved, when the obvious answer of building a divide has been there all along.

Your neighbour offered to replace the planters, so that doesn’t really fit the narrative that they’re rude or entitled. I’m sorry that I’m a vile and pathetic person for not clutching my pearls that your £3 planters - that you purposely put there in the hope that they got damaged - got damaged. I’m sure it actually gave you something to be happy about.

Spend the money, build the wall, find the next thing to fret about.

I didn’t place the planters there for them to get wrecked. What a stupid thing to say. Do you know how ridiculous you sound? I put them there because I wanted some privacy on my property and for people to stop trespassing. Did I think she would drive over them and damage them? No, of course not, because, they were on MY property. And while she did offer to buy a new one, this wouldn’t have happened if she hadn’t been using my driveway in the first place. It’s entirely her fault, not mine. I should be able to put whatever I want on my own land without having to justify its presence or worry about someone damaging it. Why? Because it’s on MY property. What’s so hard to understand about that?

Also, you keep saying that I’m making it hard for her to park. Am I blocking her driveway? No. Am I putting stuff on her property? No. She still has access to her driveway; she just needs to do one of the following things (I’ll say it again since you clearly can’t read):

Take down HER fence so she can park the van there instead and put the car on the street to create more space.

Talk to the landlord about the fence.

Talk to HER neighbours and ask them to leave more room on the road for the van.

Move the van when she needs to go out or come back home.

So the only person making it difficult for her to park, is her, not me. They are LAZY, selfish, and entitled. It’s as simple as that. You can insist that you’re not entitled or rude all you want, but the reality is that you think it’s okay to use someone else’s property without permission, and if that person says no, then they’re “unhinged” or not a kind neighbour. You are, indeed, entitled.

HTH

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FussyFancyDragon · 17/02/2026 11:17

MrsJeanLuc · 17/02/2026 11:11

Aye, well, you might want to dial the tone down a bit because you are coming across as aggressive and unpleasant.

Disagree about the aggressive, but noted on the unpleasant.

Therescathairinmybath · 17/02/2026 11:16

Why didn’t you accept the money she offered to pay for damage she caused?

ChrisMartinsKisskam · 17/02/2026 11:11

My son has a double driveway and so do all of the neighbours
but they all have a double stacked bricks to separate the drives so no one can drive across and it makes a clear boundary of the driveways

MrsJeanLuc · 17/02/2026 11:11

FussyFancyDragon · 17/02/2026 11:04

It’s hardly a difficult situation, there’s been an obvious outcome since the first thread. Sorry that I can’t muster up empathy over someone clipping the corner of a drive causing masses of anxiety. I’ll read and reply to what I want though thanks.

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Aye, well, you might want to dial the tone down a bit because you are coming across as aggressive and unpleasant.

FussyFancyDragon · 17/02/2026 11:04

MrsJeanLuc · 17/02/2026 10:58

What on earth is wrong with you?

If you think this thread is petty then go and read a different one!

Most of us are finding it highly entertaining and want to know the outcome. And most of us can find a bit of empathy for the OP in her attempts to navigate this difficult situation without starting a full blown war with people who have shown by their behaviour that they are just not reasonable.

It’s hardly a difficult situation, there’s been an obvious outcome since the first thread. Sorry that I can’t muster up empathy over someone clipping the corner of a drive causing masses of anxiety. I’ll read and reply to what I want though thanks.

FussyFancyDragon · 17/02/2026 11:01

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I don’t touch anything that isn’t mine, not do I drive over other people’s drives, so you don’t need to worry about my upbringing, and you’ll be relieved to know that I’m neither entitled or rude. My parents brought me up to live alongside other people and to be kind, and not to cause someone else a difficulty because I’m possessive and simply because I can. I do, however, think it’s not worth getting het up about or start two threads and expect a landlord to get involved, when the obvious answer of building a divide has been there all along.

Your neighbour offered to replace the planters, so that doesn’t really fit the narrative that they’re rude or entitled. I’m sorry that I’m a vile and pathetic person for not clutching my pearls that your £3 planters - that you purposely put there in the hope that they got damaged - got damaged. I’m sure it actually gave you something to be happy about.

Spend the money, build the wall, find the next thing to fret about.

MrsJeanLuc · 17/02/2026 10:58

FussyFancyDragon · 17/02/2026 10:30

Cheeky fuckers like me 😂 You know it’s not me parking next door don’t you?

God, build the fence. Pay the money. Be petty and stop them damaging your drive which must be shitty if it can’t handle a car being driven over it, as it’s intended purpose is. Protect your property from cheeky fuckers and your imaginary damage. I’m sure you’ll find something else to drive you insane and keep you up at night swearing on a public forum and looking unhinged over a neighbour clipping your drive. Maybe next time you need to start two threads, it won’t be as petty, maybe you’ll get an actual real problem to keep you fretting. Or maybe you’ll create something else that’s a non issue, which is more than likely judging by how unhinged your sound.

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What on earth is wrong with you?

If you think this thread is petty then go and read a different one!

Most of us are finding it highly entertaining and want to know the outcome. And most of us can find a bit of empathy for the OP in her attempts to navigate this difficult situation without starting a full blown war with people who have shown by their behaviour that they are just not reasonable.

9champions · 17/02/2026 10:43

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StartleBright · 17/02/2026 10:40

Maybe progressively up the protection and consequences for your neighbour? Start with a slightly more expensive planter and then charge her for time and effort to replace them. Then slightly larger planters…. Before you put in the fence - you know she will hit it and then it’s a pain to fix.
so, start with stuff that isn’t going to take so long to fix and replace- think of it as training naughty puppies who also drive a car…. And be resolute with the increasing consequences - feel no shame in using camera footage and formal invoices…

FussyFancyDragon · 17/02/2026 10:30

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Cheeky fuckers like me 😂 You know it’s not me parking next door don’t you?

God, build the fence. Pay the money. Be petty and stop them damaging your drive which must be shitty if it can’t handle a car being driven over it, as it’s intended purpose is. Protect your property from cheeky fuckers and your imaginary damage. I’m sure you’ll find something else to drive you insane and keep you up at night swearing on a public forum and looking unhinged over a neighbour clipping your drive. Maybe next time you need to start two threads, it won’t be as petty, maybe you’ll get an actual real problem to keep you fretting. Or maybe you’ll create something else that’s a non issue, which is more than likely judging by how unhinged your sound.

Iceyday · 17/02/2026 10:27

Have you a video bell to record her?
If not get one.

I would be contacting the landlord directly witj footage that you property has been damaged.

Pop a letter through her post box, keep a copy of it, asking that she stop damaging your property.

I definitely wouldn't let this go.

Can you get bollards fitted? In concrete.
If she touches your car, have your insurance deal with it and use the video door bell footage.

Pfpppl · 17/02/2026 10:19

It would probably be cheaper to just install a low concrete post/bollard at the end of your drive rather than an entire fence. Pretty sure the neighbours would be more careful with something like that than a low planter as it would do a lot more damage to their car.

TinyTear · 17/02/2026 08:20

A sort of laser barrier that when crossed will shine floodlights and scream "trespasser trespasser" :-D

LakieLady · 17/02/2026 07:54

Imbrocator · 16/02/2026 23:27

Caltrops?

Really though I’d go with a brick wall. It sounds as if a fence is likely to just get damaged.

Thank you!

I was going to suggest this on the other thread, but couldn't remember what they were called, and it's been bugging me.

GanninHyem · 17/02/2026 07:19

Surely the easiest and cheapest solution would be to help them take the fence down and get rid of it? I mean, they've got permission to do it and it will be so much cheaper than installing a fence on your side you don't want. I imagine though your anger and resentment would stop you from seeing this as it's "doing them a favour" despite it being the cheapest and easiest option.

MinnieMountain · 17/02/2026 05:55

DaringZebra · 16/02/2026 20:44

You are 100% correct to not allow this to continue. To give permission or say nothing could create a right of way over your property.

Not possible in OP's situation. She knows the neighbour is doing it.

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/easements-claimed-by-prescription/practice-guide-52-easements-claimed-by-prescription

Practice guide 52: easements claimed by prescription

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/easements-claimed-by-prescription/practice-guide-52-easements-claimed-by-prescription

PixieTales · 17/02/2026 00:59

I think you need a low wall and a security camera!

OhDear111 · 17/02/2026 00:31

@2chocolateoranges Do you know how much walls cost? The op might not have £thousands for this. It’s better use of money to widen her drive.