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The driveway drama continues. Neighbours are still driving me insane. What should I do now?

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9champions · 16/02/2026 11:14

I’m not sure if anyone remembers my last thread, but to save me from explaining the background, I’ll link it here - https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5482826-neighbour-using-my-drive-landlord-wont-help-what-can-i-do?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=app_share

I’m not really looking for opinions on that since we’ve already discussed it. However, I’d like to hear your thoughts on what’s happened since then and what I should do next.

After chatting with the neighbour and her outright refusing to stop, I decided to put up my own fence for some privacy and to stop her from using my driveway. I considered putting down planters, boulders, etc. (which I’ll get to in a minute), but I figured a fence would be a better option since it’s sturdier. It’s not ideal because my driveway is pretty narrow, and the extra cost is frustrating, but their fence is right on the boundary line anyway, so hopefully, it won’t make a big difference, and I’ll still have enough space to get in and out of my car.

I’ve been trying to get someone to come over and give me a quote for the last few weeks, but I’ve been let down a couple of times. Finally, someone is coming this week to have a look. Now, about the planters. I’ve been parking my car there as usual, but somehow she’s still managed to squeeze past. I wanted to put something there while I was away this weekend until the fence was up, so I placed 2 long thin planters there (on my land, not hers). I got home yesterday, and there was a knock on the door. It was her saying she ran over the planters and broke them, offering to pay for a new one, etc. I said no (they were £2.50, so I’m not going to bother asking for that), but isn’t this just ridiculous? The planters were on my drive, so the only reason she hit them was because she drove over my property. She tried to claim she clipped them with her back wheel, but that wouldn’t have happened if she wasn’t cutting across the drive in the first place. It was honestly like something out of a comedy sketch.

I’d be more sympathetic if this was their only choice, but it’s not. They could:

Take down their fence so he can park the van there instead and put the car on the street to create more space.

Talk to the landlord again about the fence.

Talk to their neighbours and ask them to leave more room on the road for the van.

Move the van when she needs to go out or come back home.

They’re opting for the easiest, most convenient solution, even if it means damaging someone else's property. It just reaches a point where it becomes bone idle.

So what should I do now? Continue with the fence and hope she doesn’t crash into it or damage it? I can let the planter go, but not a fence. I’ve already asked her nicely, and she made excuses. I’ve put obstacles in her way, and she’s just driven over them. So what else can I do? Should I really have to go through all this trouble to stop someone from using my property?

What’s even more confusing is that she says she can’t get out of her car on the side of the fence because there isn’t enough space, so she has to pull onto the driveway instead of reversing and driving off in a straight line. But her partner was in the passenger seat yesterday and got out on that side just fine, so there’s clearly enough room. I think she’s just a bad / lazy driver and doesn’t want to reverse on.

Before anyone says it’s not causing any damage, I don’t care. It’s my property, and I don’t want them using it. If it was now and again, that would be different, but not every day, multiple times a day. They've been dicks and unhelpful in the past, so no, I don't feel like helping them out either.

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HelplessSoul · 17/02/2026 14:31

@9champions

Dunno if you have yet got a camera to record your cunt NDN?

If so, send her a letter by recorded delivery that her trespassing over your property is causing damage.

Then proceed to sue her ass via the small claims court for damages.

Also, if she goes out - get her bins and put them on the corner - so it she hits something, she hits her own bins.

Use the video evidence and report her to the Police to reckless driving too.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 17/02/2026 14:25

Alwaysontherun · 17/02/2026 14:03

I followed your previous thread and was wondering what the outcome was. I can’t believe some people on here think it’s acceptable! They are obviously the ones who haven’t had to pay for their drives to be resurfaced as it’s far from cheap! I would definitely put up either a fence or a wall along with a camera as others have suggested. Not long after we moved here we had problems with a next door neighbours mother always parking on our driveway. Our drive is quite wide whereas her daughters is very narrow. There is both a wall and a fence in between so a very clear boundary. Whenever I spoke to her she was always very rude and just continued to park there so I put up a heavy metal chain (I was saving up for gates) and just happened to be at my front window when she went to swing in one day and had to slam on her brakes. The look on her face was priceless so I gave her the biggest smile and a little wave from the window 🤭

Chain sounds perfect.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 17/02/2026 14:24

9champions · 17/02/2026 13:44

Did you miss the part where I said that I’ve already asked her to stop and she’s continued to do it?

This would drive me up the wall. Cheeky mare. Any chance you know their landlord and when their tenancy is due to end?

Terfarina · 17/02/2026 14:23

9champions · 17/02/2026 13:44

Did you miss the part where I said that I’ve already asked her to stop and she’s continued to do it?

You had one conversation, you failed to tackle it when NDN came to offer to reimburse your £3 planter.

Why not invite her for a coffee and have a conversation along the lines of 'it might seem a little thing to you but it matters to me, I am worried about the longevity of my new driveway with it being clipped, what can we sort out so you don't need to drive over it? I've been thinking of all sorts of bonkers things like building a wall but we are sensible adults, I am sure we can sort this out'

Noshowlomo · 17/02/2026 14:09

@Alwaysontherun she literally parked on someone else’s drive way?? And was rude when challenged! Some people are nuts!

Missohnoyoubetterdont · 17/02/2026 14:06

I’m curious to know when she ran over your planter, did you reiterate to her shouldn’t be using your drive especially if she is causing damage to your property. I feel like you haven’t really addressed it firmly with her, however st always trying to keep the peace. I would have told her again it’s not okay to do this and that you will be putting up a fence and cameras.

WiddlinDiddlin · 17/02/2026 14:05

I don't know why people are seeking to minimise what the neighbour is doing.

Driveways are reinforced at the points you are intended to drive on/off them, where you're going from one surface to another (drive to pavement or drive to road).

They are not typically reinforced along the edges, where you're not meant to drive, so drive edge to flowerbed/gravelly border area.

So repeatedly driving over the edge to get on/off it, WILL absolutely cause damage and will do so far faster than driving just over the reinforced access.

Alwaysontherun · 17/02/2026 14:03

I followed your previous thread and was wondering what the outcome was. I can’t believe some people on here think it’s acceptable! They are obviously the ones who haven’t had to pay for their drives to be resurfaced as it’s far from cheap! I would definitely put up either a fence or a wall along with a camera as others have suggested. Not long after we moved here we had problems with a next door neighbours mother always parking on our driveway. Our drive is quite wide whereas her daughters is very narrow. There is both a wall and a fence in between so a very clear boundary. Whenever I spoke to her she was always very rude and just continued to park there so I put up a heavy metal chain (I was saving up for gates) and just happened to be at my front window when she went to swing in one day and had to slam on her brakes. The look on her face was priceless so I gave her the biggest smile and a little wave from the window 🤭

9champions · 17/02/2026 13:44

Terfarina · 17/02/2026 13:29

This thread is hilarious - first world problems. I can't imagine having the energy to get so het up about something like this - I would definitely have a conversation about it rather than creating two long threads on MN and swearing at people.

Did you miss the part where I said that I’ve already asked her to stop and she’s continued to do it?

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Terfarina · 17/02/2026 13:29

This thread is hilarious - first world problems. I can't imagine having the energy to get so het up about something like this - I would definitely have a conversation about it rather than creating two long threads on MN and swearing at people.

MinnieMountain · 17/02/2026 13:11

You need to compare notes with the poster whose neighbour had a go at her because his car was damaged by some very visible stones she put on her driveway to prevent a similar thing OP. Both sounded equally unhinged.

BudgetBuster · 17/02/2026 12:53

I genuinely think somw posters here would only be happy if the OP said that she actually sold her own car so that the nasty NDN can park her car and van fully across her driveway. @9champions You should probably also have the NDN dinner ready for her when she comes home every night and then draw her a lively bubble bath.

😂 The word unhinged is hilarious in the context of: I'm going to put a fence up on my property - oh that's unhinged 😂 What 😂

FussyFancyDragon · 17/02/2026 12:35

9champions · 17/02/2026 12:31

You called me unhinged. I’d say that’s worse 🤣

Ok, I’ll apologise for the unhinged.

And you’re welcome round with your glass of wine. It’s lovely and sunny and I have a great view.

9champions · 17/02/2026 12:31

FussyFancyDragon · 17/02/2026 12:22

Maybe I do, as I’m not seeing an extreme reaction at all. Not from me anyways. I don’t think I’m the one swearing or saying someone is vile for not seeing an issue with a cut corner.

You’ll be pleased to know my train journey is nearly over though, so I’ve got less time on my hands now.

I’d definitely sign your petition for bringing back the laughing emoji!

You called me unhinged. I’d say that’s worse 🤣

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9champions · 17/02/2026 12:30

FussyFancyDragon · 17/02/2026 12:19

I don’t think I’ve said she’s actually allowed to use your property or that it’s ok for her to damage stuff on it, but you’ve already pointed out that I have difficulties reading. I’ve mostly repeated that it’s not worth getting bothered about. She can be cheeky and you can be petty, two things can be true. You’ve got a solution, yet you’re still upset that they’re not doing what you’re telling them to do. Build a wall.

Why am I being called petty for not wanting someone to use my property? You do know I didn’t purchase a house with a shared driveway, right? I bought a house with a private driveway. If I had chosen a house with a shared drive, the value would be significantly lower, and everyone would have to pitch in for maintenance and repairs.

So, can I come over and hang out in your back garden later? If you say no, that’s not really kind or neighbourly, is it? It wouldn’t bother you if I just sat there with a glass of wine. I promise I’ll keep it down! Let me know what time I can come round 😊

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longtompot · 17/02/2026 12:28

FussyFancyDragon · 17/02/2026 11:01

I don’t touch anything that isn’t mine, not do I drive over other people’s drives, so you don’t need to worry about my upbringing, and you’ll be relieved to know that I’m neither entitled or rude. My parents brought me up to live alongside other people and to be kind, and not to cause someone else a difficulty because I’m possessive and simply because I can. I do, however, think it’s not worth getting het up about or start two threads and expect a landlord to get involved, when the obvious answer of building a divide has been there all along.

Your neighbour offered to replace the planters, so that doesn’t really fit the narrative that they’re rude or entitled. I’m sorry that I’m a vile and pathetic person for not clutching my pearls that your £3 planters - that you purposely put there in the hope that they got damaged - got damaged. I’m sure it actually gave you something to be happy about.

Spend the money, build the wall, find the next thing to fret about.

Why don't you drive on other peoples driveways? You seem to think OP is being unreasonable to not want her neighbour to, so surely you think it's ok, so why don't you do it?

It infuriates me when people don't understand why some of us don't like it when people drive on our drives. Not someone who is parking there as they are coming to visit, just driving over it because they can't do a three point turn in the road like the rest of the world can.

What if as the OPs neighbour was about to drive across her drive OPs child/dog or cat ran out and the neighbour then hit the dog/child/cat with their car. We teach our kids to be careful out on the public footpaths, but we feel we don't need to worry as much about them being on our own front drive. It's an accident that shouldn't ever happen as we don't drive on other peoples drives!

@9champions I would build the fence, or wall of you want to stretch to it, and put a gate across your driveway, completely enclosing your front garden, and then there is no way your lazy neighbour can drive across again, and if they somehow manage to damage it, then they really shouldn't be driving at all.

foreversunshine · 17/02/2026 12:28

FussyFancyDragon · 17/02/2026 11:36

😂 Build a wall. Accept that you can’t force her to do any of the things you’ve listed. Enjoy the (temporary) headspace. HTH.

Do you think the fairies build walls? That the council are giving them away for free or that the OP will build it in the evenings and weekends with bricks she's got lying about?

Why the hell should the OP fork out a small fortune for masonry work, or plant pots or fences or concrete bollards simply because the neighbour - who has been told already - won't adjust her behaviour of trespassing on private property and causing damage.

The neighbour is behaving wildly unreasonably and it seems the majority of people think so. Yet, because you're so laid back you're horizontal, apparently it's a storm in a teacup and everyone else should bend themselves in knots so that the neighbour isn't inconvenienced at all. Get a grip 🙄

FussyFancyDragon · 17/02/2026 12:22

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Maybe I do, as I’m not seeing an extreme reaction at all. Not from me anyways. I don’t think I’m the one swearing or saying someone is vile for not seeing an issue with a cut corner.

You’ll be pleased to know my train journey is nearly over though, so I’ve got less time on my hands now.

I’d definitely sign your petition for bringing back the laughing emoji!

FussyFancyDragon · 17/02/2026 12:19

9champions · 17/02/2026 12:04

You think it's fine for someone to use another person's property without their permission.

You think it's acceptable for someone to use someone else's property even after they've been told not to.

You feel that a person shouldn't have the right to do what they want on their own property, and if they do, it's okay for someone else to damage it.

If you think all of this is acceptable, then you must be exactly the same. ENTITLED.

Let’s just be clear. It’s perfectly fine for her to damage my planters (on my property), but not okay for her to damage a fence (also, on my property). Make up your fucking mind 😂

I don’t think I’ve said she’s actually allowed to use your property or that it’s ok for her to damage stuff on it, but you’ve already pointed out that I have difficulties reading. I’ve mostly repeated that it’s not worth getting bothered about. She can be cheeky and you can be petty, two things can be true. You’ve got a solution, yet you’re still upset that they’re not doing what you’re telling them to do. Build a wall.

Ewock · 17/02/2026 12:06

FussyFancyDragon · 17/02/2026 11:01

I don’t touch anything that isn’t mine, not do I drive over other people’s drives, so you don’t need to worry about my upbringing, and you’ll be relieved to know that I’m neither entitled or rude. My parents brought me up to live alongside other people and to be kind, and not to cause someone else a difficulty because I’m possessive and simply because I can. I do, however, think it’s not worth getting het up about or start two threads and expect a landlord to get involved, when the obvious answer of building a divide has been there all along.

Your neighbour offered to replace the planters, so that doesn’t really fit the narrative that they’re rude or entitled. I’m sorry that I’m a vile and pathetic person for not clutching my pearls that your £3 planters - that you purposely put there in the hope that they got damaged - got damaged. I’m sure it actually gave you something to be happy about.

Spend the money, build the wall, find the next thing to fret about.

This is where we need the laughing emoji back as your responses are laughable

Ewock · 17/02/2026 12:04

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9champions · 17/02/2026 12:04

FussyFancyDragon · 17/02/2026 11:52

You’re so hilarious. Of course my parents are proud of me, what a weird thing to bring up on a thread about someone clipping a driveway, as if my parents should be ashamed of the person I am or all my successes simply because I don’t think it’s a big deal - which in the grand scheme of things, it really isn’t. Please don't think I’m leaving here feeling shamed that I’m an entitled person, as I know I’m not. What have I done that’s entitled?

No, if she crashes into the wall then obviously she’s the one at fault.

You think it's fine for someone to use another person's property without their permission.

You think it's acceptable for someone to use someone else's property even after they've been told not to.

You feel that a person shouldn't have the right to do what they want on their own property, and if they do, it's okay for someone else to damage it.

If you think all of this is acceptable, then you must be exactly the same. ENTITLED.

Let’s just be clear. It’s perfectly fine for her to damage my planters (on my property), but not okay for her to damage a fence (also, on my property). Make up your fucking mind 😂

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FussyFancyDragon · 17/02/2026 11:52

9champions · 17/02/2026 11:44

Oh, I definitely will be! And let’s just hope she doesn’t crash into it since she’s such a terrible driver. I guess that’ll be my fault too, huh? You know, because I shouldn’t put things on my own property and should keep it open for anyone and everyone to use, obviously. I can’t make her do any of that, you’re right, but I shouldn’t have to pay to put up barriers either, especially when I’ve asked nicely. Like I said, entitled people. You included. Hope your parents are proud 😘 Love and light xoxo

You’re so hilarious. Of course my parents are proud of me, what a weird thing to bring up on a thread about someone clipping a driveway, as if my parents should be ashamed of the person I am or all my successes simply because I don’t think it’s a big deal - which in the grand scheme of things, it really isn’t. Please don't think I’m leaving here feeling shamed that I’m an entitled person, as I know I’m not. What have I done that’s entitled?

No, if she crashes into the wall then obviously she’s the one at fault.

rainbowstardrops · 17/02/2026 11:48

I can’t believe there are some people here who are suggesting you should just allow the neighbour to continue driving across your driveway, especially when you’ve asked her to stop doing it! They’re most probably cheeky fuckers themselves, or wet blankets who let people walk all over them.
It is your drive and you don’t want her to drive over it. End of.
You are not the one who is making this difficult for her, her other neighbour is and she just needs to have a quick word with them.
We have CF parking neighbours too. They’ve got a pretty long driveway - easily long enough for two cars but he kept parking half over our driveway. My DH doesn’t come home from work until 10pm so he just kept knocking on their door telling them to move. CFer neighbour said it was his other neighbour’s fault because they parked their two vans outside his house. DH bluntly told him that that wasn’t his problem and CFer should sort it out. He doesn’t very often block our drive anymore! His even more so CFer BIL (he semi lives there) still does occasionally, even though they have a long driveway! Grrrr!

9champions · 17/02/2026 11:44

FussyFancyDragon · 17/02/2026 11:36

😂 Build a wall. Accept that you can’t force her to do any of the things you’ve listed. Enjoy the (temporary) headspace. HTH.

Oh, I definitely will be! And let’s just hope she doesn’t crash into it since she’s such a terrible driver. I guess that’ll be my fault too, huh? You know, because I shouldn’t put things on my own property and should keep it open for anyone and everyone to use, obviously. I can’t make her do any of that, you’re right, but I shouldn’t have to pay to put up barriers either, especially when I’ve asked nicely. Like I said, entitled people. You included. Hope your parents are proud 😘 Love and light xoxo

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