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The driveway drama continues. Neighbours are still driving me insane. What should I do now?

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9champions · 16/02/2026 11:14

I’m not sure if anyone remembers my last thread, but to save me from explaining the background, I’ll link it here - https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5482826-neighbour-using-my-drive-landlord-wont-help-what-can-i-do?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=app_share

I’m not really looking for opinions on that since we’ve already discussed it. However, I’d like to hear your thoughts on what’s happened since then and what I should do next.

After chatting with the neighbour and her outright refusing to stop, I decided to put up my own fence for some privacy and to stop her from using my driveway. I considered putting down planters, boulders, etc. (which I’ll get to in a minute), but I figured a fence would be a better option since it’s sturdier. It’s not ideal because my driveway is pretty narrow, and the extra cost is frustrating, but their fence is right on the boundary line anyway, so hopefully, it won’t make a big difference, and I’ll still have enough space to get in and out of my car.

I’ve been trying to get someone to come over and give me a quote for the last few weeks, but I’ve been let down a couple of times. Finally, someone is coming this week to have a look. Now, about the planters. I’ve been parking my car there as usual, but somehow she’s still managed to squeeze past. I wanted to put something there while I was away this weekend until the fence was up, so I placed 2 long thin planters there (on my land, not hers). I got home yesterday, and there was a knock on the door. It was her saying she ran over the planters and broke them, offering to pay for a new one, etc. I said no (they were £2.50, so I’m not going to bother asking for that), but isn’t this just ridiculous? The planters were on my drive, so the only reason she hit them was because she drove over my property. She tried to claim she clipped them with her back wheel, but that wouldn’t have happened if she wasn’t cutting across the drive in the first place. It was honestly like something out of a comedy sketch.

I’d be more sympathetic if this was their only choice, but it’s not. They could:

Take down their fence so he can park the van there instead and put the car on the street to create more space.

Talk to the landlord again about the fence.

Talk to their neighbours and ask them to leave more room on the road for the van.

Move the van when she needs to go out or come back home.

They’re opting for the easiest, most convenient solution, even if it means damaging someone else's property. It just reaches a point where it becomes bone idle.

So what should I do now? Continue with the fence and hope she doesn’t crash into it or damage it? I can let the planter go, but not a fence. I’ve already asked her nicely, and she made excuses. I’ve put obstacles in her way, and she’s just driven over them. So what else can I do? Should I really have to go through all this trouble to stop someone from using my property?

What’s even more confusing is that she says she can’t get out of her car on the side of the fence because there isn’t enough space, so she has to pull onto the driveway instead of reversing and driving off in a straight line. But her partner was in the passenger seat yesterday and got out on that side just fine, so there’s clearly enough room. I think she’s just a bad / lazy driver and doesn’t want to reverse on.

Before anyone says it’s not causing any damage, I don’t care. It’s my property, and I don’t want them using it. If it was now and again, that would be different, but not every day, multiple times a day. They've been dicks and unhelpful in the past, so no, I don't feel like helping them out either.

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I’ve lived in my house for almost 4 years now, and I had a new drive put in last year, which cost a fair bit. Parking on my street isn’t great anyway,...

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TwoBagsOfCompost · 17/02/2026 22:16

I get it OP and I think many posters aren't being honest when they insist that they would be totally zen about it.

You say you want the fence to be about 15cm, could you do those narrow planters, they're exactly 15 wide https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/1037523870/narrow-decking-garden-trough-planter-box

You can fill them almost all the way up with cheap gravel/slate chippings, and then top them up with nice decorative stones/pebbles

That will make them nice plus heavy

I mean compost and actual plants would make them heavy too, but perhaps even sturdier with gravel/stone

Or mix and match?

Could actually turn out pretty nice and cheaper than a fence - and way faster

Quitelikeit · 17/02/2026 22:13

@9champions

please clarify - the issue is that she drives over some of your gravel for a few seconds a couple of times each day?

9champions · 17/02/2026 22:06

Anna1mac · 17/02/2026 21:33

Also, in all seriousness, please please do not let this consume you. I had neighbours like that - very petty about their driveway and of the ilk "but it's MY property!' both died relatively young (68 and 70) one from cancer and the other from heart attack. I recommend you read a book called New Earth by Eckhart Tolle.

Lol thanks! I don’t agree with just letting it slide as I still think they’re wrong, but you’re spot on about looking after myself. My blood pressure is definitely sky high because of all this! I’ve learnt that you can’t control other people or their actions, but you can put a stop to it, one way or another

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Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 17/02/2026 22:03

Xmasxrackers · 17/02/2026 21:48

Just be careful you don’t drop any nails in that particular area…

Ooh yes be very careful. Or broken glass. You just missed the recycling bin. Oops.

BeNavyCrab · 17/02/2026 22:01

I think some people replying aren't taking into account the frustration that builds up when you have tried your hardest to resolve an issue that should have been very simple to resolve. It should have been a small conversation with a neighbour, got an apology and it would have been done. Instead the OP has had to think of multiple possible and easily achieved ways the neighbour could have altered their behaviour, put bins in the way that then got moved and left in HER way, bought and put planters to give the neighbour the clue that it IS a problem and now going to have to go to the trouble and expense to enforce her boundary. It's not rocket science, DON'T USE SOMEONE'S DRIVEWAY against their wishes!! The OP shouldn't have to justify why it's annoying to her, it's incumbent on the neighbour to respect her wishes. The longer it's gone on the more annoying it's got to the OP and it feels like the neighbour is saying I don't care how you feel because what I want to do trumps how you feel. It might have started as a first world problem and a minor issue but it's now a question of morals.

Surely people can understand that it would piss most people off, if a neighbour started to use something that belongs to you in a way that you find annoying and won't stop despite being asked nicely multiple times?

99bottlesofkombucha · 17/02/2026 21:56

Fence for sure as well as camera - camera is a must, and I’d knock on her door and say I let the planters go as I don’t want to be petty, but I am putting a fence in and I should be clear with you that if you damage my fence I will be claiming damages and having you get it fixed. Every single time.

TheMadGardener · 17/02/2026 21:56

I am on your side OP. Never mind a lead planter, at this point I'd be laying sharp metal spikes and watching her tyres burst...
Wonder if there's some kind of metal barrier or small brick wall option instead of a fence?

Xmasxrackers · 17/02/2026 21:48

Just be careful you don’t drop any nails in that particular area…

Anna1mac · 17/02/2026 21:39

Missohnoyoubetterdont · 17/02/2026 19:58

Sounds like you should step away from social media.

Yes, you're right. People are utter idiots and I'm better off not reading this pish.

Anna1mac · 17/02/2026 21:33

9champions · 17/02/2026 19:59

Let’s hope so and then I won’t have to put the fence up

Also, in all seriousness, please please do not let this consume you. I had neighbours like that - very petty about their driveway and of the ilk "but it's MY property!' both died relatively young (68 and 70) one from cancer and the other from heart attack. I recommend you read a book called New Earth by Eckhart Tolle.

grlwhowrites · 17/02/2026 21:31

I agree with previous posters about a gate at the front of your drive! Surely a gate nips it in the bud? Especially if you have it padlocked so she can’t get out and unlock it to drive across. Or, it would be too difficult for her to drive through and across even when open.

Would be a mild inconvenience for you to have unlock it every time you come and go, but in the long run, probably less frustrating than dealing with your CF neighbour!

And definitely get a Ring/video doorbell of some kind so you’ve got video evidence of any potential damage her terrible driving may cause.

Janey3090 · 17/02/2026 21:20

Sorry I don’t have any helpful advice to add other than the ideas already shared, but just wanted to say I’m with you on this OP! I would be feeling the same as you.

CockSpadget · 17/02/2026 21:04

Just want to add another vote to the build a wall solution. Let her damage her car, she is a CF

WearyAuldWumman · 17/02/2026 21:04

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 17/02/2026 14:25

Chain sounds perfect.

I mentioned on another thread that my husband put up one of those plastic chains for us...It was cut.

Then he put up a heavy chain. Someone took boltcutters to it. (We think it was parents using our driveway at lunchtime - we were between two primary schools.)

It ceased to be a problem once my husband had retired and was visible at that time of day.

Nodirectionhome · 17/02/2026 21:03

Solost92 · 17/02/2026 20:54

OP you're probably arguing with your neighbour here.

Can't you put gates on the front of your drive? Only needs two posts and even when they're open she won't be able to drive across the front. Keeps your car safer and maybe lowers insurance if you car is locked away.

Exactly what I was about to suggest.

Solost92 · 17/02/2026 20:54

OP you're probably arguing with your neighbour here.

Can't you put gates on the front of your drive? Only needs two posts and even when they're open she won't be able to drive across the front. Keeps your car safer and maybe lowers insurance if you car is locked away.

PhuckTrump · 17/02/2026 20:42

Maybe Google weight blocks, which can be steel, iron, or concrete. For example, this shop sells 30cm x 30cm x 30cm concrete blocks. www.wotblock.co.uk/300x300mm-block-range-concrete-interlocking-blocks/

PinkLegoBalloon · 17/02/2026 20:40

Instead of a fence or a wall, maybe one or two of those parking bollards posts? They can be attached to a concrete floor or sunk into the ground like a fence post is. You can get fold down or removable ones too but in your case I'd just get a big heavy permanent one for the outer corner that she's cutting across.

Plmnki · 17/02/2026 20:37

Huge sympathy OP. Your neighbours are wamkers. Def go the fence route and camera - be ready for her to damage the fence and expect a battle. Go for the cheapest strong fence you can, not a wall which would be expensive and vulnerable to damage.

FGS this is your house your driveway, don’t pay attention to the dickheads on here who think it’s ok to use someone else’s driveway, they are wrong.

good luck!

50lbstolose · 17/02/2026 20:17

Your neighbour is a cf!

BraOffPjsOn · 17/02/2026 20:17

I’d put pigeon spikes down - I know you said in a previous thread you’d be worried about children but maybe if they’re secured into the ground and pretty clear then it’s up to neighbour if they continue risking their tyres!

MabelAnderson · 17/02/2026 20:04

What is the legal situation if someone uses access over a long period of time, eg could she claim a right of way over your drive ?
I’m saying this as mil had a hellish situation with a neighbour who actually blocked up a huge section of their shared access track, including land belonging to MIl, and it was really stressful, and a nightmare to sort out.

askmenow · 17/02/2026 20:01

I would get a 6 x 6” square wooden or concrete bollard concreted in at the very end of your drive dividing the two drives and mount a light on it like a beacon.
I’d also park the car as far forward as possible. You could put matching lights on the wall beside your front door so it looks inviting.

Then get a camera.

It will be expensive for her!