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The driveway drama continues. Neighbours are still driving me insane. What should I do now?

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9champions · 16/02/2026 11:14

I’m not sure if anyone remembers my last thread, but to save me from explaining the background, I’ll link it here - https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5482826-neighbour-using-my-drive-landlord-wont-help-what-can-i-do?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=app_share

I’m not really looking for opinions on that since we’ve already discussed it. However, I’d like to hear your thoughts on what’s happened since then and what I should do next.

After chatting with the neighbour and her outright refusing to stop, I decided to put up my own fence for some privacy and to stop her from using my driveway. I considered putting down planters, boulders, etc. (which I’ll get to in a minute), but I figured a fence would be a better option since it’s sturdier. It’s not ideal because my driveway is pretty narrow, and the extra cost is frustrating, but their fence is right on the boundary line anyway, so hopefully, it won’t make a big difference, and I’ll still have enough space to get in and out of my car.

I’ve been trying to get someone to come over and give me a quote for the last few weeks, but I’ve been let down a couple of times. Finally, someone is coming this week to have a look. Now, about the planters. I’ve been parking my car there as usual, but somehow she’s still managed to squeeze past. I wanted to put something there while I was away this weekend until the fence was up, so I placed 2 long thin planters there (on my land, not hers). I got home yesterday, and there was a knock on the door. It was her saying she ran over the planters and broke them, offering to pay for a new one, etc. I said no (they were £2.50, so I’m not going to bother asking for that), but isn’t this just ridiculous? The planters were on my drive, so the only reason she hit them was because she drove over my property. She tried to claim she clipped them with her back wheel, but that wouldn’t have happened if she wasn’t cutting across the drive in the first place. It was honestly like something out of a comedy sketch.

I’d be more sympathetic if this was their only choice, but it’s not. They could:

Take down their fence so he can park the van there instead and put the car on the street to create more space.

Talk to the landlord again about the fence.

Talk to their neighbours and ask them to leave more room on the road for the van.

Move the van when she needs to go out or come back home.

They’re opting for the easiest, most convenient solution, even if it means damaging someone else's property. It just reaches a point where it becomes bone idle.

So what should I do now? Continue with the fence and hope she doesn’t crash into it or damage it? I can let the planter go, but not a fence. I’ve already asked her nicely, and she made excuses. I’ve put obstacles in her way, and she’s just driven over them. So what else can I do? Should I really have to go through all this trouble to stop someone from using my property?

What’s even more confusing is that she says she can’t get out of her car on the side of the fence because there isn’t enough space, so she has to pull onto the driveway instead of reversing and driving off in a straight line. But her partner was in the passenger seat yesterday and got out on that side just fine, so there’s clearly enough room. I think she’s just a bad / lazy driver and doesn’t want to reverse on.

Before anyone says it’s not causing any damage, I don’t care. It’s my property, and I don’t want them using it. If it was now and again, that would be different, but not every day, multiple times a day. They've been dicks and unhelpful in the past, so no, I don't feel like helping them out either.

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I’ve lived in my house for almost 4 years now, and I had a new drive put in last year, which cost a fair bit. Parking on my street isn’t great anyway,...

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mmmarmalade · 18/02/2026 12:50

Because you haven't supplied a drawing I haven't the foggiest idea what the geometry is - so I imagine this is confusing for a lot of people trying to help - is there no way they (the landlord) can put in some direct access to the property that doesn't involve infringing on to your property?

justdontrelateanymore · 18/02/2026 12:18

SpringsOnTheWay · 18/02/2026 12:11

As a long term renter you could not be more wrong. It consumes everything. The fact everyone else has some control over your life. Knowing each neighbour could go to the landlord means I care more and let more slide than I would if I owned. The neighbour is playing roulette over which neighbour to piss off and which is more likely to go to the landlord and mean their eviction.
they don’t want to spend the money on the fence because your only ever 2 months away from being evicted, and all the costs and upheaval that comes with that - Assuming they can even find somewhere.

none of this is the ops problem of course. But you couldn’t be more wrong about renters not caring.

I was only speaking from experience as I know for me personally I was shocked by how much more I suddenly cared when I owned a house. I was probably quite ignorant like the OPs neighbours (ashamed to say!) before I owned a property, but having had the privilege of owning now, I feel embarrassed about the ignorant person I was beforehand.

SpringsOnTheWay · 18/02/2026 12:11

justdontrelateanymore · 18/02/2026 11:13

Imo, I think their attitude comes down to the fact that they aren't homeowners. When you own a home everything matters more, as you take responsibility for it. They don't own a driveway so haven't got lived experience of the psychological responsibility of looking after things. That's why they appear to not care.

As a long term renter you could not be more wrong. It consumes everything. The fact everyone else has some control over your life. Knowing each neighbour could go to the landlord means I care more and let more slide than I would if I owned. The neighbour is playing roulette over which neighbour to piss off and which is more likely to go to the landlord and mean their eviction.
they don’t want to spend the money on the fence because your only ever 2 months away from being evicted, and all the costs and upheaval that comes with that - Assuming they can even find somewhere.

none of this is the ops problem of course. But you couldn’t be more wrong about renters not caring.

Wreckinball · 18/02/2026 11:16

Speak to a street furniture company or the council about a metal bollard, they are about a metre high and not very wide so don’t take up much space. A brick wall is easily knocked off its base and may not damage the car hitting it. A metal bollard will crumple your entire door or bumper and still be standing plus it will take up less space than a wall so the overall cost of getting one may be worth it. You may need two if she decides to come further up your drive to have the bollard on the passenger side when cutting over your drive

justdontrelateanymore · 18/02/2026 11:13

9champions · 16/02/2026 14:19

No, she wouldn’t because their van is larger, which is why it overhangs their driveway. They could switch the vehicles around, putting the van on the drive and the car on the street, allowing enough room for the van to come and go without encroaching onto my property. They won’t do this because of their fence. He claims he can’t get out of the van because of it. The fence belongs to them (or rather, the landlord), so they could pay someone to remove it. The landlord has given them permission to take it down but won’t pay towards it, obviously he doesn’t see it as an issue because he doesn’t have to live with it. So, essentially, they expect me to cover the costs, or else they’ll keep using my drive. They’re both dicks (landlord included). They could have offered to pay 50/50, but no, they want me to pay to remove THEIR fence, otherwise they will keep using my drive.

They could also talk to their neighbours and ask them to leave a bit more room on the street so they can park the van without it overhanging their drive. They could even move the van when they need to get the car on and off the drive. In short, they have multiple options but are opting to use my property because it’s the easiest and most convenient choice.

Imo, I think their attitude comes down to the fact that they aren't homeowners. When you own a home everything matters more, as you take responsibility for it. They don't own a driveway so haven't got lived experience of the psychological responsibility of looking after things. That's why they appear to not care.

dentalflosser · 18/02/2026 10:52

Alwaysontherun · 17/02/2026 14:03

I followed your previous thread and was wondering what the outcome was. I can’t believe some people on here think it’s acceptable! They are obviously the ones who haven’t had to pay for their drives to be resurfaced as it’s far from cheap! I would definitely put up either a fence or a wall along with a camera as others have suggested. Not long after we moved here we had problems with a next door neighbours mother always parking on our driveway. Our drive is quite wide whereas her daughters is very narrow. There is both a wall and a fence in between so a very clear boundary. Whenever I spoke to her she was always very rude and just continued to park there so I put up a heavy metal chain (I was saving up for gates) and just happened to be at my front window when she went to swing in one day and had to slam on her brakes. The look on her face was priceless so I gave her the biggest smile and a little wave from the window 🤭

The sheer entitlement of your neighbour’s mother has made me furious on your behalf!
What kind of mind thinks it is ok to park on someone else’s drive and then is rude about it!
I think your strategy is perfect and especially that you were there to see her reaction, plus to gleefully wave. I would have loved to have seen that. 🙌🏻

Terfarina · 18/02/2026 09:21

I’m expecting OP to put in bollards / fence / wall / sharp rocks / whatever and the next thread will be her apoplectic because she’s damaged her car bashing it and it’s all the neighbour’s fault

Piglet89 · 18/02/2026 09:17

godmum56 · 16/02/2026 13:11

This. Why did you let the price of the planters go? I'd have also said something like "Good job it happened now and not next month, it would cost you a lot more once my new fence is up" with the MN tinkly laugh.

Don’t go passive aggressive like this PP has suggested. It is too subtle for entitled, cheeky people like this woman: they just ignore and continue whatever inconsiderate behaviour they’ve previously been doing.

A mother at my son’s school constantly parks in the mouth of the drive of the car park to the school when collecting from after school club, either preventing others parking in the legitimate spaces or boxing others in. If you tried this tinkly laugh bit, it wouldn’t even register.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 18/02/2026 09:14

Gossipisgood · 18/02/2026 09:13

Do you know who her Landlord is? You could contact them saying their Tenants are causing you stress as they keep driving over your new driveway & that if it's damaged you'll be coming after him for repairs costs. Put your bin in the middle of the access to your drive so if your neighbour tries to drive over your it she'll have to get out every time to move it. If you do go ahead & have a fence built next time you see the neighbour ask her again not to drive on your property as you don't want the fence damaged.

That’s what I said get landlord involved.

Gossipisgood · 18/02/2026 09:13

Do you know who her Landlord is? You could contact them saying their Tenants are causing you stress as they keep driving over your new driveway & that if it's damaged you'll be coming after him for repairs costs. Put your bin in the middle of the access to your drive so if your neighbour tries to drive over your it she'll have to get out every time to move it. If you do go ahead & have a fence built next time you see the neighbour ask her again not to drive on your property as you don't want the fence damaged.

Tamtim · 18/02/2026 05:45

Concrete fence, shell damage her car if she tries to drive into it. 😄

Friendlygingercat · 18/02/2026 04:58

You cannot use spikes or anything concealed that is calculated to damage her car. Rocks, boulders, concrete planters or gabions on your land are fine because they are decorative features and easily seen. A sturdy fence with concrete pillars would also be suitable but expensive. Personally I like large rocks with lots of jaggedy edges, The seller will deliver them and site them where you choose so pick ones that cannot be moved by an individual. Job done.

Nearly50omg · 17/02/2026 23:32

till you get a fence up go and buy a few very large boulders that are big enough to damage/stop anything driving over it but not too heavy to lift for you :) sharp edges on it will be perfect! It will destroy her tyres and underneath her car if she drives over that!

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 17/02/2026 23:27

This awful women is known as a Bounce in my area of the country. Vastly over inflated ego and a very entitled bully.

She is horrendous.

If l could afford a wrought iron fence. k would get one. That would really maje a mess of her car.

Lots of sound posts here with good advice.

Let us all know how you go on.

Just thought check with the. DVLA if her car is tax and insured. Dodgers are definitely some the most entitled .

Good Luck🤞
x

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 17/02/2026 23:17

ZookeeperSE · 16/02/2026 11:29

Make sure it’s a fence with concrete posts and base boards and then if she does hit it her car will come off worse than your fence.

Brilliant advice. hHo ho ho

Hodge00079 · 17/02/2026 23:16

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I understand where you are coming from. I hope you can find something that stops your neighbour and you come back to tell us it worked out ok.

MrsJeanLuc · 17/02/2026 23:12

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Fully understand that @9champions . But I hope you'll come back and tell us about any developments.

Good luck!

9champions · 17/02/2026 23:06

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9champions · 17/02/2026 22:51

catlover123456789 · 17/02/2026 22:48

Why does this really matter? I wish someone cutting across my drive was my biggest concern in life.

Why don’t you read both threads and then you’ll see why it matters. Too lazy to read like most people on here

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catlover123456789 · 17/02/2026 22:48

Why does this really matter? I wish someone cutting across my drive was my biggest concern in life.

PixieTales · 17/02/2026 22:37

Quitelikeit · 17/02/2026 22:33

So the corner of the drive way - the concrete where she drives - why not place one of those heavy metal gargoyle type things there?

Or is that too silly? 🤪

Good idea, you can get VERY heavy statues like these from garden centres….would do much more damage to her car than the stone gargoyle 😂

Quitelikeit · 17/02/2026 22:33

So the corner of the drive way - the concrete where she drives - why not place one of those heavy metal gargoyle type things there?

Or is that too silly? 🤪

TwoBagsOfCompost · 17/02/2026 22:28

TwoBagsOfCompost · 17/02/2026 22:16

I get it OP and I think many posters aren't being honest when they insist that they would be totally zen about it.

You say you want the fence to be about 15cm, could you do those narrow planters, they're exactly 15 wide https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/1037523870/narrow-decking-garden-trough-planter-box

You can fill them almost all the way up with cheap gravel/slate chippings, and then top them up with nice decorative stones/pebbles

That will make them nice plus heavy

I mean compost and actual plants would make them heavy too, but perhaps even sturdier with gravel/stone

Or mix and match?

Could actually turn out pretty nice and cheaper than a fence - and way faster

Or you could build them yourself if you have the time? All you need is some decking and a drill and screws. It's dead easy and a hell of a lot cheaper than buying planters / installing a fence.

9champions · 17/02/2026 22:16

Quitelikeit · 17/02/2026 22:13

@9champions

please clarify - the issue is that she drives over some of your gravel for a few seconds a couple of times each day?

Sorry, loads of comments. Yes, the stones and the top corner of the drive (concrete), hence why there’s now tyre marks there from her dry steering

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