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The driveway drama continues. Neighbours are still driving me insane. What should I do now?

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9champions · 16/02/2026 11:14

I’m not sure if anyone remembers my last thread, but to save me from explaining the background, I’ll link it here - https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5482826-neighbour-using-my-drive-landlord-wont-help-what-can-i-do?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=app_share

I’m not really looking for opinions on that since we’ve already discussed it. However, I’d like to hear your thoughts on what’s happened since then and what I should do next.

After chatting with the neighbour and her outright refusing to stop, I decided to put up my own fence for some privacy and to stop her from using my driveway. I considered putting down planters, boulders, etc. (which I’ll get to in a minute), but I figured a fence would be a better option since it’s sturdier. It’s not ideal because my driveway is pretty narrow, and the extra cost is frustrating, but their fence is right on the boundary line anyway, so hopefully, it won’t make a big difference, and I’ll still have enough space to get in and out of my car.

I’ve been trying to get someone to come over and give me a quote for the last few weeks, but I’ve been let down a couple of times. Finally, someone is coming this week to have a look. Now, about the planters. I’ve been parking my car there as usual, but somehow she’s still managed to squeeze past. I wanted to put something there while I was away this weekend until the fence was up, so I placed 2 long thin planters there (on my land, not hers). I got home yesterday, and there was a knock on the door. It was her saying she ran over the planters and broke them, offering to pay for a new one, etc. I said no (they were £2.50, so I’m not going to bother asking for that), but isn’t this just ridiculous? The planters were on my drive, so the only reason she hit them was because she drove over my property. She tried to claim she clipped them with her back wheel, but that wouldn’t have happened if she wasn’t cutting across the drive in the first place. It was honestly like something out of a comedy sketch.

I’d be more sympathetic if this was their only choice, but it’s not. They could:

Take down their fence so he can park the van there instead and put the car on the street to create more space.

Talk to the landlord again about the fence.

Talk to their neighbours and ask them to leave more room on the road for the van.

Move the van when she needs to go out or come back home.

They’re opting for the easiest, most convenient solution, even if it means damaging someone else's property. It just reaches a point where it becomes bone idle.

So what should I do now? Continue with the fence and hope she doesn’t crash into it or damage it? I can let the planter go, but not a fence. I’ve already asked her nicely, and she made excuses. I’ve put obstacles in her way, and she’s just driven over them. So what else can I do? Should I really have to go through all this trouble to stop someone from using my property?

What’s even more confusing is that she says she can’t get out of her car on the side of the fence because there isn’t enough space, so she has to pull onto the driveway instead of reversing and driving off in a straight line. But her partner was in the passenger seat yesterday and got out on that side just fine, so there’s clearly enough room. I think she’s just a bad / lazy driver and doesn’t want to reverse on.

Before anyone says it’s not causing any damage, I don’t care. It’s my property, and I don’t want them using it. If it was now and again, that would be different, but not every day, multiple times a day. They've been dicks and unhelpful in the past, so no, I don't feel like helping them out either.

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I’ve lived in my house for almost 4 years now, and I had a new drive put in last year, which cost a fair bit. Parking on my street isn’t great anyway,...

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ThreeDeafMice · 23/02/2026 02:27

I so want too be in court when she explains why it’s your fault that she can’t avoid stationary objects in her car. Truly.

I fear a fence is simply going to upscale the amount of money she’s going to be paying for repairs. You need something that’s going to cause some serious damage to her car and not be damaged itself. I recommend a couple of concrete bollards, maybe with a chain between them.

Buy a concrete column former (which is just a big cardboard tube), about 8” in diameter and six feet long. Get your builder to dig a hole 3’ deep and back fill. Then fill the tube with cement. Three or four bags will do it. Put some reinforcing bar down the bore too. Two days later the cardboard tube will peel off. Job done, very cheap.

Perhaps paint it canary yellow, because the neighbour obviously has eyesight problems.

I guarantee you she won’t hit it a second time.

Friendlygingercat · 23/02/2026 00:42

Ive seen a few of these kinds of discussions on landlord forums. Most of them are not going to get entangled in petty neighbour complaints unless the dispute is serious enough to involve official bodies such as police or the local authority. Or there is a likelihood of damage to HIS property and therefore HIS pocket. You are not his neighbour and he doesnt have to live with whats going on. He might make the right noises to shut you up and then just kick it into the long grass, After all the tenant is paying HIS mortgage so he wont want to piss her off. In my experience, LLs will only become involved if they want rid of the tenant for some other reason and neighbour complaints add weight to the case.

GaIadriel · 23/02/2026 00:00

You need to stop being nice. 100% she wouldn't still be doing it if you were a chavvy aggro type of person that would kick off. Not saying that's the type of person to aspire to being but she clearly isn't worried about ignoring your requests.

Talkingfrog · 22/02/2026 23:28

I don't see how she could claim damages from you if she hits a fence that is within your boundary. Firstly she shouldn't be driving in a place where she can hit the fence - she hasn't been given permission to drive over your land. Secondly, it is a stationary object - she should be able to avoid a stationary object - whether it be a fence, car, person or flower pot.

If she can't park on her drive with the fence there, she needs to think of an alternative parking option.
Do you have any friends/family that you can invite over after the fence is put in.

May be good to have someone there for moral support if the neighbour isn't happy about the fence appearing.
I did read the other thread and some of this one - I can't remember if you have any form of camera on your driveway but may be worth having one so there is evidence of neighbours behaviour. ( or if a friendly neighbour has a camera and will let you view the footage when needed).

PixieTales · 22/02/2026 23:11

OP the neighbour is a CF.

Build the wall/fence but 100% get a ring door bell or security camera to prove liability when
the dumb neighbour knocks into it.

You don’t deserve this, you can tell your a genuine nice person who has reached the end of their patience.

mmmarmalade · 22/02/2026 22:55

Do you have legal cover included in your household or buildings insurance cover - if so, ring them and get some free advice. I've found them very useful on the one occasion I rang them.

INeedAnotherName · 22/02/2026 22:30

I’m also worried because someone mentioned that if I put up a fence on my side and she hits it, she could claim damages from me.
No. It's on your property and you have refused her access so she would have to be trespassing. And her car insurance wouldn't accept her hitting stationary objects either.

Put your bank details on a note and request a lot for the planters, soil, plants, say £100. Consider it compensation for your time and efforts, and a fine for her twattery. It's her OP, not you, and if you don't make a stand now she will make your life even more miserable. Good luck Flowers

sidebirds · 22/02/2026 22:23

99bottlesofkombucha · 22/02/2026 21:43

Message her ‘thank you for the note. Here are my bank details, please transfer x. I should let you know I have a fence being put up shortly on my boundary to protect my planters.’

and get cameras now before the fence goes up.

excellent response 👌 best of luck to you ✊❤️

BudgetBuster · 22/02/2026 22:06

99bottlesofkombucha · 22/02/2026 21:43

Message her ‘thank you for the note. Here are my bank details, please transfer x. I should let you know I have a fence being put up shortly on my boundary to protect my planters.’

and get cameras now before the fence goes up.

This is the perfect response!
Wait til they've gone out OP and pop the note in the house.

"It's unfortunate that you've somehow driven on my property twice and destroyed my new planters. Here's my bank details for £X replacement cost.
Just as an FYI, I will have a new fence erected next month"

99bottlesofkombucha · 22/02/2026 21:43

Message her ‘thank you for the note. Here are my bank details, please transfer x. I should let you know I have a fence being put up shortly on my boundary to protect my planters.’

and get cameras now before the fence goes up.

singlepringle12 · 22/02/2026 20:29

I feel for you, but stand strong. This is THEIR problem of not being able to manoeuvre a car, not your problem! You can do whatever you like within your boundary!!
If you don’t want to speak to them, I’d put a note back through their door with a receipt for the planters stating you are expecting the money. State also that you will continue to put things on your property in the same location & they will expect to pay for any more damage. (Try to find something WIDE & tall!!) State that you will be getting a fence put in within the month & you suggest they improve their parking skills otherwise the CONCRETE fence posts will cause a nasty repair job that will NOT be your fault as you are giving them plenty of notice about what is to happen within YOUR boundary! Put all this in writing, photograph putting it through their door, job done. Get fence put up asap, definitely concrete posts! Then you never have to worry again.
I’m shocked they are so completely incapable of driving!!
If you want, get a tall male family member/friend to do the posting through the door. I agree that they are potentially taking the piss as you are a single female. That infuriates me even more!!
Keep us updated, don’t give up, you are totally in the right here!

InMySpareTime · 22/02/2026 20:09

She can’t claim damages if her moving car, under her control, collides with a stationary object. If she drove into a pillar in a car park she couldn’t claim damages from the car park and it’s the same with this.

dentalflosser · 22/02/2026 20:07

9champions · 22/02/2026 19:54

Hey, I’m really sorry for not responding to everyone’s messages. I just needed a break because I was feeling so overwhelmed and fed up with the situation.

Things haven’t improved at all since my last update. The fence man came by on Friday to have a look, and I’ve agreed to the work, but he’s fully booked for the next few weeks, so it won’t be done yet.

In the meantime, I moved the planter that was broken as all the stones had spilled out everywhere. I replaced it with another one from the back garden, again on my side. But when I got home earlier today, I found that the other one had been broken. There was a note through the door apologising and offering to pay for it. I haven’t talked to them yet because I’m afraid of what I’ll say, so I’m just keeping my distance. I’m not even angry anymore. I just ended up in tears earlier, probably out of frustration.

I’m not a horrible person. All I want is for them to stick to their side. I’ve never encroached into their space, and it feels like I’m being painted as the villain just because I don’t want them using my property. I’ve tried to be nice and even said they didn’t have to pay for the last planter, but isn’t this getting a bit ridiculous now? I’m starting to regret buying the house. I really didn’t think this would be an issue. Tbh I don’t even think the drive is the problem as a lot of other houses on the street have the same layout and seem to manage just fine. I think it’s a neighbour problem.

I’m also worried because someone mentioned that if I put up a fence on my side and she hits it, she could claim damages from me. That can’t be right?! I’ve tripled checked the title plan and deeds, and there’s no right of access mentioned (except for utility companies to check the drains). There’s nothing in there about neighbours needing access. There was also a section on the property information form where the seller was asked if there was any right of access, and she ticked no.

Maybe I’m reaching here, but I’m a single woman, and they’re a couple, so I can’t help but wonder if things would be different if a man was here with me!

OP, I feel so sorry for you as I think you’ve been more than polite about this to the CF neighbours.
I can understand your frustration as this isn’t fair at all. You’ve invested in your property and some woman can’t even be respectful of it. She’s had more than enough chances!
Could you check your house insurance or contact the Citizens Advice Bureau and find out if CF hits her car on your planned fence that you won’t be liable to pay for car repairs?
Could the end post of the fence nearest to the road be bright yellow so it can clearly be seen, maybe with a couple of reflectors so they would show up in headlights?
I don’t want you to throw more money at another planter for CF to run over but would a higher planter with a yucca or palm type plant in it be an option while you are waiting for the fence to be put in?
Sending you love ❤️

9champions · 22/02/2026 19:54

Noshowlomo · 20/02/2026 08:47

Any news OP? Hope your neighbour is finally listening

Hey, I’m really sorry for not responding to everyone’s messages. I just needed a break because I was feeling so overwhelmed and fed up with the situation.

Things haven’t improved at all since my last update. The fence man came by on Friday to have a look, and I’ve agreed to the work, but he’s fully booked for the next few weeks, so it won’t be done yet.

In the meantime, I moved the planter that was broken as all the stones had spilled out everywhere. I replaced it with another one from the back garden, again on my side. But when I got home earlier today, I found that the other one had been broken. There was a note through the door apologising and offering to pay for it. I haven’t talked to them yet because I’m afraid of what I’ll say, so I’m just keeping my distance. I’m not even angry anymore. I just ended up in tears earlier, probably out of frustration.

I’m not a horrible person. All I want is for them to stick to their side. I’ve never encroached into their space, and it feels like I’m being painted as the villain just because I don’t want them using my property. I’ve tried to be nice and even said they didn’t have to pay for the last planter, but isn’t this getting a bit ridiculous now? I’m starting to regret buying the house. I really didn’t think this would be an issue. Tbh I don’t even think the drive is the problem as a lot of other houses on the street have the same layout and seem to manage just fine. I think it’s a neighbour problem.

I’m also worried because someone mentioned that if I put up a fence on my side and she hits it, she could claim damages from me. That can’t be right?! I’ve tripled checked the title plan and deeds, and there’s no right of access mentioned (except for utility companies to check the drains). There’s nothing in there about neighbours needing access. There was also a section on the property information form where the seller was asked if there was any right of access, and she ticked no.

Maybe I’m reaching here, but I’m a single woman, and they’re a couple, so I can’t help but wonder if things would be different if a man was here with me!

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Friendlygingercat · 22/02/2026 18:54

You can find the landlord by looking on the land registry. Costs about £5 to download the deeds.

Fancyteacup · 22/02/2026 14:18

OP I’m surprised about the flack you are getting here, I would feel exactly as you do! My next door neighbour has a child and every time his ex wife drops child off she turns round on MY drive. Turn around on your exes drive, who has the same amount of space for goodness sake!!!

UncannyFanny · 20/02/2026 08:58

9champions · 17/02/2026 22:51

Why don’t you read both threads and then you’ll see why it matters. Too lazy to read like most people on here

You are being incredibly patient and tolerant with some of the abusers on here. Just ignore the idiots. They shouldn’t be using your driveway and you have every right to stop them. You’re not petty unhinged or any of the other things you’re being called. Please build a wall or fence. Do update the outcome.

Noshowlomo · 20/02/2026 08:47

Any news OP? Hope your neighbour is finally listening

Kalanthe · 18/02/2026 20:34

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/weird-news/petty-bloke-installs-cctv-mock-29558221.amp

This is what I would do - just put a big rock at the end so she tears her car if she tries to drive over it

The entitlement of some people is baffling

PoppyTries · 18/02/2026 15:51

dentalflosser · 18/02/2026 10:52

The sheer entitlement of your neighbour’s mother has made me furious on your behalf!
What kind of mind thinks it is ok to park on someone else’s drive and then is rude about it!
I think your strategy is perfect and especially that you were there to see her reaction, plus to gleefully wave. I would have loved to have seen that. 🙌🏻

Especially after being told “do not park here” - it makes me wonder what is going on in people’s minds when they continue this poor behaviour. Much like OP, you should only have to tell someone ONCE “do not use my property” before they stop.

if I recall correctly from the previous thread, there was a conversation telling the CF neighbour not to use the drive, then OP put buckets of rocks which rude neighbour MOVED. The buckets were an obvious “remember when I told you not to cut across my drive? This is a reminder not to do that” sign and that CF moved them. After the buckets came the planters which the neighbour destroyed. How many times does this woman need to be reminded not to drive there? She will not stop until there is a permanent structure that will cost her money, either by having to pay to fix it when she hits it, or by damaging her car.

I hope OP is able to get this sorted with a minimum of fuss moving forward - I’m hoping those concrete planters previously suggested are a quick solution. This neighbour is stomping all over set boundaries and isn’t going to stop unless she’s forced to.

viques · 18/02/2026 14:59

Quitelikeit · 17/02/2026 19:01

I understand your feelings of frustration over the fact your driveway isn’t shared and so she shouldn’t use it

However can you clarify something- she is only driving over your stones momentarily until she parks - and that’s the sum total?

The point is the neighbour has a drive, and in addition she has access to off street parking at the end of her drive. Her partner has a van. So they have two accessible parking spaces for their two vehicles. The real problem is she is a lazy and poor driver. So instead of them behaving like adults and working out how they can safely devise a system to park both their vehicles on their own spaces ( see the diagram) they have decided to take the easy way that doesn’t involve them any inconvenience , so she drives over the OPs newly laid drive to access her drive and clearly doesn’t see this as a problem, which of course it isn’t FOR HER.

damemaggiescurledupperlip · 18/02/2026 14:53

I'd dig a trench. Say its for the foundations of the new wall or a flower bed if she asks why. But warn her (in writing preferably) it is there and that it will do her car no good if she drives into it

Piglet89 · 18/02/2026 13:36

@mmmarmaladehere is the diagram.

The driveway drama continues. Neighbours are still driving me insane. What should I do now?
TinyTear · 18/02/2026 13:27

mmmarmalade · 18/02/2026 12:50

Because you haven't supplied a drawing I haven't the foggiest idea what the geometry is - so I imagine this is confusing for a lot of people trying to help - is there no way they (the landlord) can put in some direct access to the property that doesn't involve infringing on to your property?

there is a diagram in thread 1