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The driveway drama continues. Neighbours are still driving me insane. What should I do now?

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9champions · 16/02/2026 11:14

I’m not sure if anyone remembers my last thread, but to save me from explaining the background, I’ll link it here - https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5482826-neighbour-using-my-drive-landlord-wont-help-what-can-i-do?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=app_share

I’m not really looking for opinions on that since we’ve already discussed it. However, I’d like to hear your thoughts on what’s happened since then and what I should do next.

After chatting with the neighbour and her outright refusing to stop, I decided to put up my own fence for some privacy and to stop her from using my driveway. I considered putting down planters, boulders, etc. (which I’ll get to in a minute), but I figured a fence would be a better option since it’s sturdier. It’s not ideal because my driveway is pretty narrow, and the extra cost is frustrating, but their fence is right on the boundary line anyway, so hopefully, it won’t make a big difference, and I’ll still have enough space to get in and out of my car.

I’ve been trying to get someone to come over and give me a quote for the last few weeks, but I’ve been let down a couple of times. Finally, someone is coming this week to have a look. Now, about the planters. I’ve been parking my car there as usual, but somehow she’s still managed to squeeze past. I wanted to put something there while I was away this weekend until the fence was up, so I placed 2 long thin planters there (on my land, not hers). I got home yesterday, and there was a knock on the door. It was her saying she ran over the planters and broke them, offering to pay for a new one, etc. I said no (they were £2.50, so I’m not going to bother asking for that), but isn’t this just ridiculous? The planters were on my drive, so the only reason she hit them was because she drove over my property. She tried to claim she clipped them with her back wheel, but that wouldn’t have happened if she wasn’t cutting across the drive in the first place. It was honestly like something out of a comedy sketch.

I’d be more sympathetic if this was their only choice, but it’s not. They could:

Take down their fence so he can park the van there instead and put the car on the street to create more space.

Talk to the landlord again about the fence.

Talk to their neighbours and ask them to leave more room on the road for the van.

Move the van when she needs to go out or come back home.

They’re opting for the easiest, most convenient solution, even if it means damaging someone else's property. It just reaches a point where it becomes bone idle.

So what should I do now? Continue with the fence and hope she doesn’t crash into it or damage it? I can let the planter go, but not a fence. I’ve already asked her nicely, and she made excuses. I’ve put obstacles in her way, and she’s just driven over them. So what else can I do? Should I really have to go through all this trouble to stop someone from using my property?

What’s even more confusing is that she says she can’t get out of her car on the side of the fence because there isn’t enough space, so she has to pull onto the driveway instead of reversing and driving off in a straight line. But her partner was in the passenger seat yesterday and got out on that side just fine, so there’s clearly enough room. I think she’s just a bad / lazy driver and doesn’t want to reverse on.

Before anyone says it’s not causing any damage, I don’t care. It’s my property, and I don’t want them using it. If it was now and again, that would be different, but not every day, multiple times a day. They've been dicks and unhelpful in the past, so no, I don't feel like helping them out either.

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I’ve lived in my house for almost 4 years now, and I had a new drive put in last year, which cost a fair bit. Parking on my street isn’t great anyway,...

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SchrodingersParrot · 16/02/2026 15:47

Strictly speaking, if she drives across your property without your permission, doesn't that count as trespassing?

BudgetBuster · 16/02/2026 15:42

SomedayIllBeSaturdayNight · 16/02/2026 13:53

They don't, but driving across your driveway is hardly equivalent to squatting in your lounge!
Let it go, you'll be happier for it.

But it is exactly like squatting in the lounge... after a certain timeframe they'll be able to obtain right of use access meanwhile they are causing extra strain on the border of a driveway which would be prone to damage easier (as it isn't expected that people will park or consistently drive over the gravel border).

Maybe you'd be happier to let it go. I'd be furious and fed up. Clearly the OP is also.

90sTrifle · 16/02/2026 15:32

9champions · 16/02/2026 11:14

I’m not sure if anyone remembers my last thread, but to save me from explaining the background, I’ll link it here - https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5482826-neighbour-using-my-drive-landlord-wont-help-what-can-i-do?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=app_share

I’m not really looking for opinions on that since we’ve already discussed it. However, I’d like to hear your thoughts on what’s happened since then and what I should do next.

After chatting with the neighbour and her outright refusing to stop, I decided to put up my own fence for some privacy and to stop her from using my driveway. I considered putting down planters, boulders, etc. (which I’ll get to in a minute), but I figured a fence would be a better option since it’s sturdier. It’s not ideal because my driveway is pretty narrow, and the extra cost is frustrating, but their fence is right on the boundary line anyway, so hopefully, it won’t make a big difference, and I’ll still have enough space to get in and out of my car.

I’ve been trying to get someone to come over and give me a quote for the last few weeks, but I’ve been let down a couple of times. Finally, someone is coming this week to have a look. Now, about the planters. I’ve been parking my car there as usual, but somehow she’s still managed to squeeze past. I wanted to put something there while I was away this weekend until the fence was up, so I placed 2 long thin planters there (on my land, not hers). I got home yesterday, and there was a knock on the door. It was her saying she ran over the planters and broke them, offering to pay for a new one, etc. I said no (they were £2.50, so I’m not going to bother asking for that), but isn’t this just ridiculous? The planters were on my drive, so the only reason she hit them was because she drove over my property. She tried to claim she clipped them with her back wheel, but that wouldn’t have happened if she wasn’t cutting across the drive in the first place. It was honestly like something out of a comedy sketch.

I’d be more sympathetic if this was their only choice, but it’s not. They could:

Take down their fence so he can park the van there instead and put the car on the street to create more space.

Talk to the landlord again about the fence.

Talk to their neighbours and ask them to leave more room on the road for the van.

Move the van when she needs to go out or come back home.

They’re opting for the easiest, most convenient solution, even if it means damaging someone else's property. It just reaches a point where it becomes bone idle.

So what should I do now? Continue with the fence and hope she doesn’t crash into it or damage it? I can let the planter go, but not a fence. I’ve already asked her nicely, and she made excuses. I’ve put obstacles in her way, and she’s just driven over them. So what else can I do? Should I really have to go through all this trouble to stop someone from using my property?

What’s even more confusing is that she says she can’t get out of her car on the side of the fence because there isn’t enough space, so she has to pull onto the driveway instead of reversing and driving off in a straight line. But her partner was in the passenger seat yesterday and got out on that side just fine, so there’s clearly enough room. I think she’s just a bad / lazy driver and doesn’t want to reverse on.

Before anyone says it’s not causing any damage, I don’t care. It’s my property, and I don’t want them using it. If it was now and again, that would be different, but not every day, multiple times a day. They've been dicks and unhelpful in the past, so no, I don't feel like helping them out either.

You need to moan to the landlord about their tenants behaviour. If you moan enough, he’ll take down their fence covering the cost just for a quiet life. This shouldn’t be an argument between you and the neighbours.

9champions · 16/02/2026 15:29

Tableforjoan · 16/02/2026 15:24

sniper is the best idea yet.

😂😂 if only

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Therealjudgejudy · 16/02/2026 15:28

A strong fence and a ring camera for sure

Tableforjoan · 16/02/2026 15:24

sniper is the best idea yet.

INeedAnotherName · 16/02/2026 15:18

Out of interest does anyone know about more about the legality of having to declare neighbour conflict at selling time. She's not in conflict with the owner and his family (landlord) but the tenants so would she have to still declare?

I like the idea of a sniper tower but maybe a piercing security light would help, similar to the brightness you get on sniper towers 😂

9champions · 16/02/2026 15:16

Terfarina · 16/02/2026 15:09

and a sniper tower while you are at it.

Or... a conversation!

I get what you’re saying, but how much clearer can I really be? I’ve already told her I’m not happy with it and asked her to stop, and she carried on. I’ve put up barriers, and she just drove right over them. It’s obvious that I don’t want her using my property. I think she’s just a very entitled person, and no matter what I say, she thinks her issues are my issues and that she has the right to use my driveway for her own convenience because she doesn’t want to deal with her problems. I wouldn’t do this in the first place, but if I had and the owner confronted me, I’d be mortified and would stop immediately, not carry on and then damage their stuff! I really don’t think I should have to tell her twice. I don’t think she cares anyway!

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Terfarina · 16/02/2026 15:09

tommyhoundmum · 16/02/2026 15:06

and gates

and a sniper tower while you are at it.

Or... a conversation!

tommyhoundmum · 16/02/2026 15:06

UninitendedShark · 16/02/2026 11:28

Agree also. Fence and camera.

and gates

Terfarina · 16/02/2026 15:03

9champions · 16/02/2026 14:46

Yes, I brought it up with her when I first saw her doing it, before the planters / fence idea. She came up with a load of excuses about the neighbours next door and their parking situation. She also talked about the fence and how difficult it is to park the van in the driveway with it there, and then just carried on as normal

I think you need to have a constructive but frank conversation rather than spending money on barriers, maybe she doesn't understand how it is making you feel. I think a lot of people would see it as a non issue.

We have a neighbour who is daily driving mud from their garden over our gravel parking area. It's annoying because our gravel is now a quagmire but I can see why he does it - for much easier access. Their landlord is a dickhead who should've laid a drive but didn't hence the mud as they literally have to park in their garden.

I am making like Elsa and letting it go - not the neighbour's fault and I have far worse problems I'm dealing with atm and am saving energy for that rather than dealing with landlord.

If it caused me lots of angst I would discuss with the neighbour but would feel hella petty doing so.

Igmum · 16/02/2026 14:54

Agree. Can’t say I’d be best pleased by neighbours damaging my property by driving over my drive. Planters, bollards, fences and many many cameras pointing at them. Good luck OP and your neighbour is a knob. 🍀

Teresavonlichenstein · 16/02/2026 14:53

9champions · 16/02/2026 14:46

Yes, I brought it up with her when I first saw her doing it, before the planters / fence idea. She came up with a load of excuses about the neighbours next door and their parking situation. She also talked about the fence and how difficult it is to park the van in the driveway with it there, and then just carried on as normal

Send her a cease and desist letter and say she has damaged the drive (tell them a quote for a full resurface), emphasise they have damaged both the drive and broken planters and they must stop.

if you haven’t already put cctv up do so.

OhDear111 · 16/02/2026 14:52

Could you put up a fence on your property and widen your drive? Tell your neighbour, the owner, that you are putting a fence up. Dont do this if you don’t have exclusive control of your property. By that I mean, are they entitled to use it? I’m assuming not. I’d look after your interest and if their vehicle is too big, so be it. Not your issue. You should secure your own property and your one entrance and exit. If it’s going to cost money, so be it.

MassiveWordSalad · 16/02/2026 14:51

Apart from the driveway wear-and-tear and trespassing issues, the OP has said that the CF neighbour narrowly avoids hitting her car sometimes. Stopping her potentially damaging your car is a very good reason to sort this problem.

9champions · 16/02/2026 14:46

Terfarina · 16/02/2026 14:36

So have you not asked her to stop driving over your drive? I think a conversation would be much better than putting up a fence, which I can only imagine will look odd, or investing in cameras! Ut's hardly an issue for crimestoppers...

Yes, I brought it up with her when I first saw her doing it, before the planters / fence idea. She came up with a load of excuses about the neighbours next door and their parking situation. She also talked about the fence and how difficult it is to park the van in the driveway with it there, and then just carried on as normal

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HappyFace2025 · 16/02/2026 14:45

Terfarina · 16/02/2026 14:36

So have you not asked her to stop driving over your drive? I think a conversation would be much better than putting up a fence, which I can only imagine will look odd, or investing in cameras! Ut's hardly an issue for crimestoppers...

RTFT (at least OPs comments on first thread)!

sleepwouldbenice · 16/02/2026 14:39

AgnesMcDoo · 16/02/2026 13:56

The only thing you can do is keep paying for stuff to put on the driveway to block her.

Do you really think this is all worth it?

I still think you are making a ginormous mountain out of a tiny ant hill and causing yourself completely unwarranted stress and cost.

Couldn't disagree more

Terfarina · 16/02/2026 14:36

9champions · 16/02/2026 13:33

Thank you! I totally agree, which is why I've been avoiding arguments with her so far. I'm not really sure what counts as a neighbour dispute since we haven't fallen out or exchanged any harsh words yet, and I'm hoping to keep it that way. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to tell her how I feel, but I think with people like her, you can't really change them, so there's no use in getting worked up over it. I'd much rather just put up the fence or whatever and move on. I don't want to fight with them. I just want them to stop using my bloody property! Luckily, because of the layout, they can't block my drive with anything (at least not legally)

So have you not asked her to stop driving over your drive? I think a conversation would be much better than putting up a fence, which I can only imagine will look odd, or investing in cameras! Ut's hardly an issue for crimestoppers...

TheWeeDonkeyFella · 16/02/2026 14:36

9champions · 16/02/2026 13:52

Looking back, I really wish I had accepted her offer, just to teach her a lesson, but it felt a bit wierd to take £2-£3 from someone.

You should have rounded up to £20, to include whatever compost and plants inside and the time to pot up and potentially replace. A not so insignificant amount might make her think on.

Shatteredallthetimelately · 16/02/2026 14:35

What is the layout of the neighbours across the road from your driveway, as in do they have a driveway opposite yours in use?

As much as its a pain could you occasionally park on the road over your own driveway then your neighbour will have to either move the van to get out or stay put.
They can hardly accuse you of blocking them in when its not you doing so.

Onetimeusername1 · 16/02/2026 14:30

Sounds like you need a police stringer thing or a line of spikes drilled down or as suggested heavy concrete planters. It will have to be something that would cause her car damage to go into.

Bloozie · 16/02/2026 14:21

WHen she broke your planter, did you ask her again to stop driving over your drive? I know that you did in the first instance, and she said it was hard for her not to - is that still where things are at? When is the last time you said to her, I really don't want you driving across my drive. You need to reverse onto your drive, or back off in a straight line.

9champions · 16/02/2026 14:19

Fuzzybear22 · 16/02/2026 14:06

So if the neighbour was to stop cutting across your drive and parked on the road infront of the car that's slightly blocking hers . Would she then over lap your drive and stop you from parking on your drive?

No, she wouldn’t because their van is larger, which is why it overhangs their driveway. They could switch the vehicles around, putting the van on the drive and the car on the street, allowing enough room for the van to come and go without encroaching onto my property. They won’t do this because of their fence. He claims he can’t get out of the van because of it. The fence belongs to them (or rather, the landlord), so they could pay someone to remove it. The landlord has given them permission to take it down but won’t pay towards it, obviously he doesn’t see it as an issue because he doesn’t have to live with it. So, essentially, they expect me to cover the costs, or else they’ll keep using my drive. They’re both dicks (landlord included). They could have offered to pay 50/50, but no, they want me to pay to remove THEIR fence, otherwise they will keep using my drive.

They could also talk to their neighbours and ask them to leave a bit more room on the street so they can park the van without it overhanging their drive. They could even move the van when they need to get the car on and off the drive. In short, they have multiple options but are opting to use my property because it’s the easiest and most convenient choice.

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