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The driveway drama continues. Neighbours are still driving me insane. What should I do now?

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9champions · 16/02/2026 11:14

I’m not sure if anyone remembers my last thread, but to save me from explaining the background, I’ll link it here - https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5482826-neighbour-using-my-drive-landlord-wont-help-what-can-i-do?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=app_share

I’m not really looking for opinions on that since we’ve already discussed it. However, I’d like to hear your thoughts on what’s happened since then and what I should do next.

After chatting with the neighbour and her outright refusing to stop, I decided to put up my own fence for some privacy and to stop her from using my driveway. I considered putting down planters, boulders, etc. (which I’ll get to in a minute), but I figured a fence would be a better option since it’s sturdier. It’s not ideal because my driveway is pretty narrow, and the extra cost is frustrating, but their fence is right on the boundary line anyway, so hopefully, it won’t make a big difference, and I’ll still have enough space to get in and out of my car.

I’ve been trying to get someone to come over and give me a quote for the last few weeks, but I’ve been let down a couple of times. Finally, someone is coming this week to have a look. Now, about the planters. I’ve been parking my car there as usual, but somehow she’s still managed to squeeze past. I wanted to put something there while I was away this weekend until the fence was up, so I placed 2 long thin planters there (on my land, not hers). I got home yesterday, and there was a knock on the door. It was her saying she ran over the planters and broke them, offering to pay for a new one, etc. I said no (they were £2.50, so I’m not going to bother asking for that), but isn’t this just ridiculous? The planters were on my drive, so the only reason she hit them was because she drove over my property. She tried to claim she clipped them with her back wheel, but that wouldn’t have happened if she wasn’t cutting across the drive in the first place. It was honestly like something out of a comedy sketch.

I’d be more sympathetic if this was their only choice, but it’s not. They could:

Take down their fence so he can park the van there instead and put the car on the street to create more space.

Talk to the landlord again about the fence.

Talk to their neighbours and ask them to leave more room on the road for the van.

Move the van when she needs to go out or come back home.

They’re opting for the easiest, most convenient solution, even if it means damaging someone else's property. It just reaches a point where it becomes bone idle.

So what should I do now? Continue with the fence and hope she doesn’t crash into it or damage it? I can let the planter go, but not a fence. I’ve already asked her nicely, and she made excuses. I’ve put obstacles in her way, and she’s just driven over them. So what else can I do? Should I really have to go through all this trouble to stop someone from using my property?

What’s even more confusing is that she says she can’t get out of her car on the side of the fence because there isn’t enough space, so she has to pull onto the driveway instead of reversing and driving off in a straight line. But her partner was in the passenger seat yesterday and got out on that side just fine, so there’s clearly enough room. I think she’s just a bad / lazy driver and doesn’t want to reverse on.

Before anyone says it’s not causing any damage, I don’t care. It’s my property, and I don’t want them using it. If it was now and again, that would be different, but not every day, multiple times a day. They've been dicks and unhelpful in the past, so no, I don't feel like helping them out either.

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I’ve lived in my house for almost 4 years now, and I had a new drive put in last year, which cost a fair bit. Parking on my street isn’t great anyway,...

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dentalflosser · 29/06/2026 21:22

OP did you get anywhere with the quotes for a fence?

JohnofWessex · 25/05/2026 17:19

Land mines?

Jane143 · 23/05/2026 18:03

Put a huge concrete block there and if she hits it she will damage her own car and drive better in future! Paint it white so she can’t claim not to see it

FussyFancyDragon · 29/03/2026 17:21

dentalflosser · 23/03/2026 09:33

I’m so relieved your train journey was ending so I did not have to read any further drivel, rudeness and aggressive comments from you.
You clearly had your knickers in a twist over this thread. I hope you were able to have a cup of tea and calm down as you sounded a total idiot regarding your misguided comments.
Bring back the laughing emoji and please can we have an eyeroll emoji too! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

That’s ok, just quote me and I’m back again. Funnily enough, the posts that I was replying to have been deleted, but I wonder why that would happen if I was the one being aggressive? I imagine if I use your words and say that you also sound like an idiot, you’ll still say I’m aggressive. Eye roll all you want, I’ll assume you’re checking your brain is still back there.

viques · 23/03/2026 09:33

Pout. I was hoping for a picture of @9champions new fence.

dentalflosser · 23/03/2026 09:33

FussyFancyDragon · 17/02/2026 12:22

Maybe I do, as I’m not seeing an extreme reaction at all. Not from me anyways. I don’t think I’m the one swearing or saying someone is vile for not seeing an issue with a cut corner.

You’ll be pleased to know my train journey is nearly over though, so I’ve got less time on my hands now.

I’d definitely sign your petition for bringing back the laughing emoji!

I’m so relieved your train journey was ending so I did not have to read any further drivel, rudeness and aggressive comments from you.
You clearly had your knickers in a twist over this thread. I hope you were able to have a cup of tea and calm down as you sounded a total idiot regarding your misguided comments.
Bring back the laughing emoji and please can we have an eyeroll emoji too! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

GoldenGail · 22/03/2026 22:51

Growlybear83 · 16/02/2026 11:42

I think I would invest in large concrete planters rather than a fence. It would probably be cheaper, and the neighbour would really cause damage to her car if she hit them. They would also look nicer if you fill them with flowers.

The driveway is too narrow. Needs a skinny fence

Pineneedlesincarpet · 24/02/2026 16:56

Teresavonlichenstein · 24/02/2026 11:37

Right you need a camera (ring) will do up tomorrow buy one from Amazon dead easy to put up.
Do that by 5 pm tomorrow. Then send a cease and desist letter and say

Dear residents at number 5,

I am writing to formally address the ongoing issues regarding your use of my driveway, which was recently replaced and refurbished on xxxx date a cost of xxxx.

Despite our previous conversations, you have continued to drive onto my property. This has resulted in visible damage from dry steering and, most recently, the destruction of two planters within the last week. To resolve this:

  1. Reimbursement: Please provide xxxx amount for the replacement of the two planters.
  2. Repairs: I am currently obtaining estimates to repair the surface damage caused by your vehicle’s tires. I will forward these to you once received. If it can not be repaired it might be that the whole drive needs to be redone.
  3. Property Rights: Effective immediately, please cease and desist from entering or driving on any part of my property. I aim to install a boundary fence as soon as is practical for security.

For security and clarity, I have today installed CCTV covering my driveway. While I value good community relations, the lack of care shown - especially the safety risk of hitting stationary objects, this is deeply concerning. Any further trespassing or property damage will be reported to the police.
I hope we can put an end to this issue today and move forward positively.
Best regards,
Resident of number 6.

you might want to make it softer keep the note you have received as evidence but for gods sake install cctv camera. Just make sure it does your driveway only.

I like this letter! Nice and to the point (and I used to be a litigator).

FindleBindle · 24/02/2026 14:04

Sorry for typos

FindleBindle · 24/02/2026 12:11

OP, try looking at these. It’s what they’re using in commercial properties. They look cheap and you can buy them easily. I think they’re called wheel stops. You can Google them or ask AI you can get heavy done rubber ones or concrete ones. Then you can just lay them down no need to have them installed or anything. And once the neighbours leave you can sell them.

The driveway drama continues. Neighbours are still driving me insane. What should I do now?
Teresavonlichenstein · 24/02/2026 11:37

9champions · 22/02/2026 19:54

Hey, I’m really sorry for not responding to everyone’s messages. I just needed a break because I was feeling so overwhelmed and fed up with the situation.

Things haven’t improved at all since my last update. The fence man came by on Friday to have a look, and I’ve agreed to the work, but he’s fully booked for the next few weeks, so it won’t be done yet.

In the meantime, I moved the planter that was broken as all the stones had spilled out everywhere. I replaced it with another one from the back garden, again on my side. But when I got home earlier today, I found that the other one had been broken. There was a note through the door apologising and offering to pay for it. I haven’t talked to them yet because I’m afraid of what I’ll say, so I’m just keeping my distance. I’m not even angry anymore. I just ended up in tears earlier, probably out of frustration.

I’m not a horrible person. All I want is for them to stick to their side. I’ve never encroached into their space, and it feels like I’m being painted as the villain just because I don’t want them using my property. I’ve tried to be nice and even said they didn’t have to pay for the last planter, but isn’t this getting a bit ridiculous now? I’m starting to regret buying the house. I really didn’t think this would be an issue. Tbh I don’t even think the drive is the problem as a lot of other houses on the street have the same layout and seem to manage just fine. I think it’s a neighbour problem.

I’m also worried because someone mentioned that if I put up a fence on my side and she hits it, she could claim damages from me. That can’t be right?! I’ve tripled checked the title plan and deeds, and there’s no right of access mentioned (except for utility companies to check the drains). There’s nothing in there about neighbours needing access. There was also a section on the property information form where the seller was asked if there was any right of access, and she ticked no.

Maybe I’m reaching here, but I’m a single woman, and they’re a couple, so I can’t help but wonder if things would be different if a man was here with me!

Right you need a camera (ring) will do up tomorrow buy one from Amazon dead easy to put up.
Do that by 5 pm tomorrow. Then send a cease and desist letter and say

Dear residents at number 5,

I am writing to formally address the ongoing issues regarding your use of my driveway, which was recently replaced and refurbished on xxxx date a cost of xxxx.

Despite our previous conversations, you have continued to drive onto my property. This has resulted in visible damage from dry steering and, most recently, the destruction of two planters within the last week. To resolve this:

  1. Reimbursement: Please provide xxxx amount for the replacement of the two planters.
  2. Repairs: I am currently obtaining estimates to repair the surface damage caused by your vehicle’s tires. I will forward these to you once received. If it can not be repaired it might be that the whole drive needs to be redone.
  3. Property Rights: Effective immediately, please cease and desist from entering or driving on any part of my property. I aim to install a boundary fence as soon as is practical for security.

For security and clarity, I have today installed CCTV covering my driveway. While I value good community relations, the lack of care shown - especially the safety risk of hitting stationary objects, this is deeply concerning. Any further trespassing or property damage will be reported to the police.
I hope we can put an end to this issue today and move forward positively.
Best regards,
Resident of number 6.

you might want to make it softer keep the note you have received as evidence but for gods sake install cctv camera. Just make sure it does your driveway only.

Noshowlomo · 24/02/2026 10:43

Bloody hell what a useless driver and CF she is!

LakieLady · 24/02/2026 09:42

99bottlesofkombucha · 22/02/2026 21:43

Message her ‘thank you for the note. Here are my bank details, please transfer x. I should let you know I have a fence being put up shortly on my boundary to protect my planters.’

and get cameras now before the fence goes up.

That's an excellent response!

I might be minded to add that, should she damage your new fence, you will expect the costs of any repair/replacement to it caused by her negligence to be covered by her car insurance, as it is likely to be considerably more expensive than the cost of replacing planters.

Auroraloves · 24/02/2026 09:34

ZookeeperSE · 16/02/2026 11:29

Make sure it’s a fence with concrete posts and base boards and then if she does hit it her car will come off worse than your fence.

Yes

FindleBindle · 24/02/2026 09:17

Ignore the unpleasant posts OP.

Id not like this either. A PP recommended laying sleepers down on the border. They are heavy and bulky. Maybe lay one on top of an another.

rebus · 24/02/2026 00:30

OP, copying another thread about simple large rocks that did the trick for another poster. In her case she didn't bother with a conversation, she strategically placed some large rocks on her property (on or near her drive) and it seems it worked... Simple rocks might do the trick it seems...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/amibeingunreasonable/5488795-neighbour-damaged-his-car-on-my-drive

IsItTooPink · 23/02/2026 11:21

grlwhowrites · 23/02/2026 08:24

After breaking another planter, part of me thinks she's done it on purpose. She wasn't charged last time she did it and she's probably hoping to break you down to the point it feels "easier" for you to just give in to what she wants. She wants to drive over your private property despite being told not to. She is a CF and beyond unreasonable.

I echo all the previous posters who've advised getting a Ring doorbell or similar. Do this ASAP. Photograph her notes. Establish and collect evidence. Reply with your bank details and tack on the cost of the previous one, too. Charge for soil and plants, too:

"Thank you for your note. Here are my bank details, please transfer £50 to cover the damage you caused. Just so you know, a fence is being put up shortly to prevent this happening again and to ensure my driveway and property are completely off limits. There will also be cameras to monitor everything."

She'll have to change her ways when the inconvenience and costs become hers. They're yours right now, so she's not bothered. Put the blame, the stress, and the financial demands back on her. Charge the CF for every little thing. She'll soon learn how to park perfectly.

Sorry you're going through this, it's really unfair. You're right though - don't let her break you!

This with bells on. I’d also be asking her to come and clear up the stones and mess she made. It was very nice of you not to charge her the first time round, but if I’d done it I’d certainly have gone round and cleared up the mess.

custardcreme77 · 23/02/2026 09:24

To be frank, if the neighbour has difficulty accessing her drive, unfortunately that’s her problem, not yours.

You are doing the right thing to prevent her disrespecting you and your property by installing a sturdy fence.

grlwhowrites · 23/02/2026 08:24

After breaking another planter, part of me thinks she's done it on purpose. She wasn't charged last time she did it and she's probably hoping to break you down to the point it feels "easier" for you to just give in to what she wants. She wants to drive over your private property despite being told not to. She is a CF and beyond unreasonable.

I echo all the previous posters who've advised getting a Ring doorbell or similar. Do this ASAP. Photograph her notes. Establish and collect evidence. Reply with your bank details and tack on the cost of the previous one, too. Charge for soil and plants, too:

"Thank you for your note. Here are my bank details, please transfer £50 to cover the damage you caused. Just so you know, a fence is being put up shortly to prevent this happening again and to ensure my driveway and property are completely off limits. There will also be cameras to monitor everything."

She'll have to change her ways when the inconvenience and costs become hers. They're yours right now, so she's not bothered. Put the blame, the stress, and the financial demands back on her. Charge the CF for every little thing. She'll soon learn how to park perfectly.

Sorry you're going through this, it's really unfair. You're right though - don't let her break you!

Booboobagins · 23/02/2026 04:52

YANBU.

Had a similar prob with a neighbour years ago. I spoke to them many times. I blocked one car in whilst I went home and dropped stuff off before going out again, he was pissed but whatever. He didn't park on my drive again, but others did. It was relentless.

I put a concrete fence between our drives. Didn't cause me probs at all. Their drive was narrow so obvs their prob. I sold the house and vowed to only buy a detached house in future.

Gobbolino7825 · 23/02/2026 04:37

Look at getting a 'gabion cage' wall. They are those metal cages you fill with rocks to create a wall. They are relatively cheap and come in all shapes and sizes. Can order online and fill with rocks yourself.

I imagine would be very sturdy and impossible to drive over!

Keroppi · 23/02/2026 04:21

At the front of my driveway/front garden I have wooden posts and a chain connecting them. Would something like that be useful for the time being? She can't drive through a chain. Lol

Keroppi · 23/02/2026 04:19

She won't be able to claim damages. It's on your side and it's your fence. It's the same if you hit a bollard or a neighbors front wall
I can't believe she's broke another bloody planter!!!! I'm so frustrated for you but don't let it keep getting to you, the fence will be a massive deterrent
Perhaps you could complain now to her landlord? I think that would be my next step. Keep the notes etc as proof she's breaking stuff on your side.
I also would send her your bank details over in a note and charge say £20-£50 and thank her for letting you know about the second planter to be damaged..
And mention that going forward you reiterate your private driveway is not to be used in any way and you will be getting a fence or posts put up shortly.

Try not to let it stress you too much, it's almost amusing and at the end of the day they rent and you own so you have some recourse. You are also simply in the right and the fence should help. If she's thick enough to crash into the fence then they have to pay, its really simple
Perhaps now is a good time for a ring doorbell or a small unobtrusive camera too.

FullOfLemons · 23/02/2026 03:53

ThreeDeafMice · 23/02/2026 02:27

I so want too be in court when she explains why it’s your fault that she can’t avoid stationary objects in her car. Truly.

I fear a fence is simply going to upscale the amount of money she’s going to be paying for repairs. You need something that’s going to cause some serious damage to her car and not be damaged itself. I recommend a couple of concrete bollards, maybe with a chain between them.

Buy a concrete column former (which is just a big cardboard tube), about 8” in diameter and six feet long. Get your builder to dig a hole 3’ deep and back fill. Then fill the tube with cement. Three or four bags will do it. Put some reinforcing bar down the bore too. Two days later the cardboard tube will peel off. Job done, very cheap.

Perhaps paint it canary yellow, because the neighbour obviously has eyesight problems.

I guarantee you she won’t hit it a second time.

Brilliant

I do hope the OP does this !

DrCalLightman · 23/02/2026 03:02

9champions · 22/02/2026 19:54

Hey, I’m really sorry for not responding to everyone’s messages. I just needed a break because I was feeling so overwhelmed and fed up with the situation.

Things haven’t improved at all since my last update. The fence man came by on Friday to have a look, and I’ve agreed to the work, but he’s fully booked for the next few weeks, so it won’t be done yet.

In the meantime, I moved the planter that was broken as all the stones had spilled out everywhere. I replaced it with another one from the back garden, again on my side. But when I got home earlier today, I found that the other one had been broken. There was a note through the door apologising and offering to pay for it. I haven’t talked to them yet because I’m afraid of what I’ll say, so I’m just keeping my distance. I’m not even angry anymore. I just ended up in tears earlier, probably out of frustration.

I’m not a horrible person. All I want is for them to stick to their side. I’ve never encroached into their space, and it feels like I’m being painted as the villain just because I don’t want them using my property. I’ve tried to be nice and even said they didn’t have to pay for the last planter, but isn’t this getting a bit ridiculous now? I’m starting to regret buying the house. I really didn’t think this would be an issue. Tbh I don’t even think the drive is the problem as a lot of other houses on the street have the same layout and seem to manage just fine. I think it’s a neighbour problem.

I’m also worried because someone mentioned that if I put up a fence on my side and she hits it, she could claim damages from me. That can’t be right?! I’ve tripled checked the title plan and deeds, and there’s no right of access mentioned (except for utility companies to check the drains). There’s nothing in there about neighbours needing access. There was also a section on the property information form where the seller was asked if there was any right of access, and she ticked no.

Maybe I’m reaching here, but I’m a single woman, and they’re a couple, so I can’t help but wonder if things would be different if a man was here with me!

I’m also worried because someone mentioned that if I put up a fence on my side and she hits it, she could claim damages from me.

Ive only read your posts, but thats fucking bullshit. If your fence is obvious and clear, you should be able to claim if she damages your fence