AIBU to be upset about daughters removal?

AbFab1231
Knowing what you mean
Don't take it out on my kids if you've a problem with me I've had to say to a few mums in my time when they were school age at the school gate
Anyways
Good luck for the future and although it's rotten for your daughters at the moment
They'll soon find themselves another place, and apply their skills there

Sound totally unprofessional. Get away from them and go to best rivals x

Just in case you’re feeling you were swindled - It honestly doesn’t sound like a ridiculous amount to me (I mean it’s a lot of money of course but for two kids and that much training…)

I just checked and for a 6 week term I paid £350 in dance lessons. Plus she’s in a separate conservatoire that’s £800/year. Plus costumes and uniform and entry fees for competitions and extra dance classes and 1:1s and whatnot. So probably around the same as what you were paying and she has about 10 hours of dance a week on a normal
week. It’s a shocking amount of money for sure, but anything involving competitions is shocking - I know what my friends are paying for their daughter who is a nationally ranked diver and it’s crazy. Another friend has a national team water polo teenager - so much travel and crazy commitments.

Fortunately my son has more affordable interests as we’d never manage two of these! Also my daughter only gets dance lessons for birthdays and Christmas (her choice! She doesn’t have to do this much) so it’s not like she’s doing loads on top of this.

I hope you find something that’s a better fit. Definitely sounds like you’re on the right track!

I'm really not enjoying cheerleading being shortened to "cheer". 🤮

Your club sounds like a money spinner. The fees are insane.

Go for it, at a decent accreditation club.

I would need to look out the exact fees,
but I have two in elite squad at total 80. Month.

club membership.

BG membership.

its more time than money if that makes sense. The girls are talented, so they both attend two hours, three times a week plus competitions.

then costumes etc.

I am aghast at what you have been paying. I really do think that place needs reporting to local authorities and consumer watch dog.

They are 6 and 10 - both absolutely obsessed with tumble, we have a 20ft mat out in the garden constantly and they live, eat and breath practicing their skills despite me urging them to give it a rest lol - however, I definitely agree its a chance to reconsider and let them explore some different activities to see if there is something they enjoy more. :)

BUT tumble is gymnastics?

that’s what mine do?

At a high level, in a BG centre.

I don’t know what cheer is. Do you pay a British gymnastics membership?

It sounds like you have been paying way above for gymnastics.

I think it was fine for what we were getting, the girls were there 5 days a week so it worked out about £115 a week for 8-9 hours

its a lot more than many other sports, I was paying £60 a month for cycling, swimming squad, triathlon and track, plus velodrome - some weeks this was 18 hours. I was lucky on the track bike as a local cycle shop sponsored her and supplied the bike for the track - the biggest outlay was swimming monthly at £30 and that covered 5 sessions of 90 minutes

id take the opportunity to encourage your dds to try other things on offer - as you said the gymnastics but also possibly dance? have a look around for something they can try and never have to go back if they don't like it

That sounds dreadful. Maybe get the girls excited over the cash you can spend elsewhere!

My daughter does cheer at a high level. Including a return to Florida this April.

I wouldn't be impressed with your club based on what you've written. Just no.

I would be looking elsewhere.

These seem valid and discreetly raised concerns, however they’ve inadvertently done you a huge favour…

You are best off well away from this set up and can hopefully put the money saved to better use.

She sounds awful. I hope there is another cheer club hour girls can go to. And I wouldn't hold back when other parents ask why you aren't there anymore.

Maybe they’re massively scamming you all and mis-using the funds, and you’re getting too close to the truth by questioning them. Is there any regulating body who monitors groups like this who you could ask to check their accounts, and whether things are being run properly?

Ahhh sorry was reading it per month hence 16k (it's been a long day and was waiting for my 4 year old to fall asleep!)

4k although a lot better is still alot for a single sports activity and would be 16k if you had paid that for the next 4 years.
I get that horse riding will be loads more then that but its still alot given there ages.

Sports should be fun yes youth development is needed in sports but it should be fun that level of training and pressure long term would not be fun!

I say that as a ex swimmer who used to train at 5.30am before school by 13 I was completely done with it!

I'd join one of their rival clubs and hope to beat them in future

Move to a different club. Where you know people hopefully and can get feedback.

then ask for your money back

if she does not repay you. Give her another chance. Then make a claim in the small claims court.

she has taken your money and not given you the goods and services as expected and it’s a lot of money.

she sounds unhinged and so are all the parents supporting her. That’s a helluva lot of £££ for a kids hobby. And we do expensive hobbies.

OMG! Are you dancing at Abby Lee Dance Company? They sound bat shit. You are better off somewhere else!

I’m getting Dance Mom vibes… would look at a different club and move on

I would absolutely take this further.

make an officer complaint. Find someone to contact. They’re be insured and have affiliates etc.