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The NHS. We need to fight to keep it.

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Differentforgirls · 10/02/2026 18:50

My Mil is 87. Last year (around September) she was bleeding from her vagina and went to her GP.

The GP referred her to hospital for tests, which she got quickly.

It was cancerous polyps in her womb so she got further tests to ensure they hadn’t spread and was referred for surgery.

Tonight she has been discharged from hospital after numerous tests over the intervening months and a surgery yesterday (keyhole).

She’ll get follow up treatment too.

All NHS, where she has been treated with dignity, respect and kindness.

It might not be what it was due to cuts but it’s still something we should be proud of.

She’ll celebrate her 88th birthday next month, as an OAP in social housing with nothing but her pension, because of the NHS.

AIBU for thinking the NHS is something to be proud of and fight to keep?

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RosesAndHellebores · 11/02/2026 07:31

ImWearingPantaloons · 11/02/2026 07:27

So many people here commenting on how we need a co-pay system. What if you can’t afford the co-pay?

If people are on benefits, etc, they will be exempt.

ImWearingPantaloons · 11/02/2026 07:27

So many people here commenting on how we need a co-pay system. What if you can’t afford the co-pay?

Litning · 11/02/2026 07:25

Pennyfan · 10/02/2026 20:13

Absolutely not-our health system needs total reform. Our outcomes are worse than other developed countries. Our waiting lists are longer. My husband has been waiting 18 months to see a consultant. It needs to be a copay system as in other European countries and where you don’t have to go through the gatekeeper of a gp for everything. And in other countries-poorer people don’t die-they get looked after. Not every system has to be like the USA.

Hard agree. I’m finding some GPs are obstructive. I only managed to get referred to gynaecology because I presented myself to A&E and basically refused to be fobbed off the way GPs have done regarding my periods for years.

RosesAndHellebores · 11/02/2026 07:22

Differentforgirls · 11/02/2026 07:15

Then it need reform which requires investment.

Past performance is the best indicator of future performance. It needs reform certainly - to be reformed into a co-pay scheme. I'm not prepared to invest a penny more into the present system.

RosesAndHellebores · 11/02/2026 07:18

Differentforgirls · 11/02/2026 06:59

The levels of money before austerity!

What levels of money before austerity? The NHS has received more every year. Notwithstanding the fact that post the 2008 financial crisis, the NHS was becoming critical due to the encouraged growth of PFI which stored up future debt despite making everything bright and shiny and the introduction of an additional layer of bureaucracy due to the introudction of PCTs.

NHS birth 1994, I had a botched birth and prolapsed bladder - once my family was complete in 1998 - the NHS refused to deal with the prolapse. Labour government.

1995 DS needed grommets - not available

1998 DD needed grommets - not available

2015 DD was very unwell: eating, cutting, o'ding, anxiety, depression. CAMHS declined to help her and proved themselves to be the mo
st toxic, dysfunctional, dishonest, badly run and managed entity I have ever come across, filled with the rudest and most lazy NHS staff I have ever encounterered. DD rexovered because with a combination of BUPA and personal funds she got the care she needes. It was about £20k, £8k from my pocket. Without money, I'd have had to give up work to keep her safe whoch would have led to less tax going into the coffers. What the fuck do poor people do?

I could go on and on. The care is poor, the communication is poor, it's badly organised, there is no dignity, staff are rude too often.

Differentforgirls · 11/02/2026 07:15

CrabbyCat · 11/02/2026 07:11

I don't agree we should be putting more money into it. It's huge and horribly inefficient, the money would be wasted. Before we gave up and went private, DS had a hospital blood test (due to his age). 1 letter with the original time and link to a website to change it. I got another 3 letters all posted separately about the change I'd made, 2 of them posted on and arriving on the same.
In Germany, prices are set nationally that providers are allowed to charge for anything (which are paid for by insurance) and what the country pays for medications is negotiated at a national level, just like the NHS. However, hospitals etc are usually separate not for profits /private. They are so so much more efficient, e.g. consultants can send you for X-rays and blood tests immediately rather than it needing separate bookings (and letters) and a separate visit.

Then it need reform which requires investment.

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Differentforgirls · 11/02/2026 07:14

PersephoneParlormaid · 11/02/2026 07:12

A lot of what you think is NHS, is actually private health care.

Not if you don’t pay for it personally.

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PersephoneParlormaid · 11/02/2026 07:12

A lot of what you think is NHS, is actually private health care.

CrabbyCat · 11/02/2026 07:11

Differentforgirls · 11/02/2026 05:31

I do think the NHS has gone downhill since George Osbourne’s austerity measures.

We should be trying to fix it rather than do away with it.

I don't agree we should be putting more money into it. It's huge and horribly inefficient, the money would be wasted. Before we gave up and went private, DS had a hospital blood test (due to his age). 1 letter with the original time and link to a website to change it. I got another 3 letters all posted separately about the change I'd made, 2 of them posted on and arriving on the same.
In Germany, prices are set nationally that providers are allowed to charge for anything (which are paid for by insurance) and what the country pays for medications is negotiated at a national level, just like the NHS. However, hospitals etc are usually separate not for profits /private. They are so so much more efficient, e.g. consultants can send you for X-rays and blood tests immediately rather than it needing separate bookings (and letters) and a separate visit.

ChestnutSquash · 11/02/2026 07:04

I am almost a year post gynae referral. All I have had is a text from the hospital asking if I still want an appointment. Of course I want my appointment. I am in pain and my quality of life is affected. I have no idea if or when this appointment will materialise or who to contact to find out.

Differentforgirls · 11/02/2026 06:59

EasternStandard · 11/02/2026 06:54

How much more does it need? We spend a lot on it plus welfare.

We don’t have great behaviours in terms of health and it shows, so maybe a system needs to drive that more.

Plus the created for a different time mentioned by pp.

The levels of money before austerity!

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Differentforgirls · 11/02/2026 06:58

rickyrickygrimes · 11/02/2026 06:53

Do you have any understanding or experience of public healthcare in France, Germany, Denmark, Norway @Differentforgirls ? There are better models than the NHS.

No but I have read other peoples comments in the thread. Still prefer the NHS.

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EasternStandard · 11/02/2026 06:54

Differentforgirls · 11/02/2026 06:03

I didn’t say it was the only cause. It’s the main one though and all other faults stem from the underinvestment.

How much more does it need? We spend a lot on it plus welfare.

We don’t have great behaviours in terms of health and it shows, so maybe a system needs to drive that more.

Plus the created for a different time mentioned by pp.

rickyrickygrimes · 11/02/2026 06:53

Do you have any understanding or experience of public healthcare in France, Germany, Denmark, Norway @Differentforgirls ? There are better models than the NHS.

Boomer55 · 11/02/2026 06:49

It’s awful and not fit for purpose at times. It can be great at other times. But, it needs total reform - and no party seems brave enough to take the “sacred cow” on. 🙄

Amiacoolorwarmcolour · 11/02/2026 06:25

I think it is a mixed bag.
A relative of mine has been waiting 2 years to get treatment for a debilitating condition.
I think it needs a serious shake up. It should not be a free for all.
I agree that no politician wants to deal with the fallout.

Differentforgirls · 11/02/2026 06:10

Iocanepowder · 11/02/2026 06:07

Not all of them. One issue is failing to adapt culturally to changes and medical advances.

Lots of midwives are completing the degree then quitting because of lack of support from experienced staff.

I’m not going to go back and forth with you. We both have different opinions. The one you just gave is anecdotal as you can’t possibly know every midwife’s circumstances.

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Iocanepowder · 11/02/2026 06:07

Differentforgirls · 11/02/2026 06:03

I didn’t say it was the only cause. It’s the main one though and all other faults stem from the underinvestment.

Not all of them. One issue is failing to adapt culturally to changes and medical advances.

Lots of midwives are completing the degree then quitting because of lack of support from experienced staff.

Differentforgirls · 11/02/2026 06:03

Iocanepowder · 11/02/2026 05:53

That’s an incredibly narrow view though.

I have several friends working in the NHS and one issue they highlight is poor staff attitude and the NHS structure not being fit for new medical advances and the fact that it keeps catering for more complex health needs. It was designed for post-war time, not today’s society. Yes budget is a part of it but not the only cause.

I didn’t say it was the only cause. It’s the main one though and all other faults stem from the underinvestment.

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Differentforgirls · 11/02/2026 06:02

RedRiverShore6 · 11/02/2026 05:52

Did you or your MIL want to pay more taxes OP, or is this something you expect someone else to do.

I pay tax, plus I live in Scotland where we pay higher tax than those in other nations of the UK.

I pay it on my personal pension btw, as does my husband.

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Iocanepowder · 11/02/2026 05:53

Differentforgirls · 11/02/2026 05:48

Sorry, still blame the Tories!

That’s an incredibly narrow view though.

I have several friends working in the NHS and one issue they highlight is poor staff attitude and the NHS structure not being fit for new medical advances and the fact that it keeps catering for more complex health needs. It was designed for post-war time, not today’s society. Yes budget is a part of it but not the only cause.

RedRiverShore6 · 11/02/2026 05:52

Did you or your MIL want to pay more taxes OP, or is this something you expect someone else to do.

Eviebeans · 11/02/2026 05:50

Differentforgirls · 10/02/2026 19:13

I mean vote for parties that want to invest in it it rather cut its budget.

If we vote for parties that want to invest in it that means increasing taxes to pay for it-and I don’t think there’s the appetite to do that
I’m not sure it’s a viable option in its current form

Differentforgirls · 11/02/2026 05:48

Iocanepowder · 11/02/2026 05:37

A key reason it’s like gone downhill is that it was started in the 1940s when life was totally different and population was smaller and healthcare wasn’t as advanced. It was not designed for what today’s society is and hasn’t been able to keep up with it.

Sorry, still blame the Tories!

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Iocanepowder · 11/02/2026 05:37

Differentforgirls · 11/02/2026 05:31

I do think the NHS has gone downhill since George Osbourne’s austerity measures.

We should be trying to fix it rather than do away with it.

A key reason it’s like gone downhill is that it was started in the 1940s when life was totally different and population was smaller and healthcare wasn’t as advanced. It was not designed for what today’s society is and hasn’t been able to keep up with it.