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Husband wants another holiday with friends

29 replies

MerryRedBiscuit · 04/02/2026 21:44

Around 18months ago my husband went abroad with a group of friends (inc. his brother). I am a teacher and it was in term time so I was unable to go. Then last year he went on a stag do abroad and to a wedding abroad (again in term time).
This year we are hoping to have a family holiday with our two teenagers - which we have not done for several years. He’s now said that his friends are planning another ‘friends holiday’ during a time I can’t make (term time!!). I’ve said I don’t think we can afford both. He’s now being really off with me…. Am I being unreasonable?! To have a nice family holiday abroad will be a bit of a stretch financially and now he’s trying to squeeze in another friends trip. I just feel like he’s prioritising his friends over family.

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Flatandhappy · 04/02/2026 21:56

Yes he is prioritising friends over family. You need to tell him to stop sulking - he will be very well aware that he has had lots of holidays you have missed but is hoping you will cave if he makes your life unpleasant. Call him out on it - my relationship with DH improved no end when I decided I would no longer put up with things for a quiet life and started calling him out on his sulking.

Myfridgeiscool · 04/02/2026 21:54

Selfish git.
If he wants to have an extra holiday with his mates he’ll need to do overtime to fund it.
I despair at how utterly selfish men are.

ohyesido · 04/02/2026 21:51

Does he always sulk when he doesn’t get his own way?

Ohnonononotagain · 04/02/2026 21:50

Yes he is prioritising life as a single man over his life as a family man. He is being very selfish .
It doesn't sound as though he values your company OP.