Is my DS’s tutor being unreasonable

If it wasn’t for her offering an alternative I might think she could do better on good will but she did and you can’t do it.

people like you are why she ‘insists’ on being paid at the start of the month.

You've cancelled on the day, she can't refill that spot at short notice.
Why should she lose money because your child is ill?

You can push for it to be rolled over, but you would be likely to be looking for a new tutor.

She very generously offered you a weekend slot instead but you’re too “busy”? Where are your priorities?

So when a child is ill, you give less than 24 hours notice, reject the alternative she offered and that leaves her out of pocket.

Yabu.

Sad your son is unwell but it’s now too late for her to sell the session your boy is booked into. In my view it would be very unreasonable to insist on a refund, the tutor has been kind enough to offer an alternative as a gesture of goodwill. If you push for a refund in her shoes I’d take on a different child to replace yours permanently.

I’m so glad that everyone is in agreement that OP is being unreasonable.
As a small business owner, it’s shocking how many people don’t seem to realise this is how we pay our bills.

Last minute cancellations are like an employed person turning up to work and their employer ringing and saying “oh, I know you’re here and ready to work, but I’m not paying you for 2 hours this morning because I’m too ill to open the office up”

This is her living and she has been very reasonable. She has bills to pay and food and clothes to buy in the same way as anyone else. Would you feel the same f your dentist or hairdresser had the same terms and conditions? As someone who has been self-employed all my life, you are being very, very unreasonable.

The tutor has made you a reasonable offer and I think your attitude is very patronising. It comes across as a I-pay-your-wages-I-want-some-service attirude which shows disrespect for a professional person.You are not her employer. She is self employed.

The arrangement of payment in advance and 48 hours notice to cancel is quite usal. I do post graduate tutoring and I use this method. If someone cancels for whatever reason I will try to fit them in at another time if I have space but I cannot gaurantee it. I dont offer refunds unless its I who cancel the session.

Congratulations @PWPmum you've got a very rare 100% yabu, are you going to accept that result and have the good grace to come back and admit that you're wrong or are you going to flounce?

You can change your plans so he can do a lesson to prepare for his exams if it’s that important. Otherwise he misses it.

she’s given an alternative. That’s more than enough on her part

Yabu.
She's been very nice to offer the weekend.
Don't piss her off is my advice if she's good.

Since being on MN, neither am I 😂

The amount of posts on here like this one make me so thankful for the people I am surrounded by IRL (who actually have a moral compass). Much like the poster earlier this week who wanted to sneak her dog into a caravan which wasn't dog friendly.

Yabu

Your cancelling on the day AND she has offered a session at the weekend

Handing you a grip

The tutor will probably dump you now anyway!

That is 100% fair. You cancelled on the day. She does not have time to fill that slot. It is not her fault that your son is ill. She is available to do the lesson, your son is not. That is not her fault. She still has bills to pay. They don't drop because your son is ill.

Unfortunately I am not surprised at all .

It's too late notice to book someone else in that slot so she misses the work. It's her job. It's her income. YABU.

But there will be no lesson today so part of me feels why should I pay?

Because it's too late notice for her to fill the slot and so she will lose the money.

Of course you're being unreasonable

Im struggling to understand how you think you aren't? The tutor didnt have to offer a weekend slot either, the fact that you're too busy to accommodate this really generous offer is your own issue.

Have you suggested to her that you don't want to pay?

A bit. Whilst I would say that the SATs results themselves mean little, being able to to master a lot of the learning that SATS are based on is really important.

I find it truly astonishing that there are really people like this walking among us.

Of course YABU and quite frankly, disrespectful to the tutor.

Tutors have bills to pay too! If you cancel last min she has no time to replace him and would have lost money.
imagine if your boss said your not needed today don’t come in and we are dropping your pay for the day because you are not there

How incredibly unreasonable of you. This is why she has to take payment in advance.

So you want her on some kind of zero hours contract? What if your boss called you and said she didn’t want you in today, so you wouldn’t be getting paid?