AIBU to take a sick day when I work from home?

I now wfh with occasional office days. I got a rare migraine a few weeks back. Could barely lift my head of pillow. WhatsApp to manager and the screen was so bright. Not even sure I was coherent. Back to sleep for two days! Felt exhausted on third day and it was Friday so took that day off as I knew I couldn’t look at computer screen even though I felt better. I couldn’t look at my phone. It was fine

i I rarely take sick days as I’m fairly robust.

my sister had asthma as a child so was taken to hospital etc and we would wake up with the neighbour on the sofa as parents at hospital if it happened in the night.

I was a teacher and I had the sad duty of attending the funeral of the mum of my 6 year old pupil. All her partner did was cut the grass in the summer. Air ambulance came out etc.

I would just stop speaking to your friend. It’s fine that it has run its course. Don’t have people that don’t support you in your life.

you don’t need mood hoovers

Good. I hope you’re feeling better soon. Going forward you should dial back on this “ friendship “. I am glad that the thread helped reassure you but the time you spent on it would have been better spent in bed asleep! Not to mention the anxiety she has caused you . That won’t have helped your recovery either.

That’s not how you should feel after a message from a friend is it?

YANBU and she is not your friend.

You should definitely take the day off sick. If you’re unwell you are unwell, it makes no difference whether you work from home or in an office.

Of course its not unreasonable. You need to rest, and I would say your so-called 'friend' is very unsupportive and possibly a bit envious that you work from home

Fellow asthmatic here. You are absolutely not being unreasonable, and your “friend” is way out of line. After a bad asthma attack I often get severe headaches too, which can be completely debilitating.
Unless someone has experienced the sheer panic of not being able to breathe, and then the awful after-effects once you’re technically “settled”, they really don’t understand what it’s like.
Your friend needs to have a word with themselves.

Your friend is an arsehole! Take the sick day.

Of course you’re not unreasonable. WFH doesn’t matter. I woke up poorly this morning and I called in sick - I WFH. I tend to power through if it was the commute that would have made the difference but I’ve barely slept, huge headache and can’t focus properly to read.

your “friend” is not your friend!

I’ve made peace with my lot. The bitter folk about me wfh have been ditched.

If something like my situation would still make your friend be a cow … is she really a decent person?

My firm had this same approach which made it clear for everyone when we were WFH. It didn't stop some of the fee earners totally ignoring it if their PA was off sick; there were several instances of them ringing their PA asking if they could just log on and do something quickly.

YANBU - tell your friend to sod off, find a better friend.

Take the time to rest and recover, OP. Don’t even think about work.

I always catch colds quite badly and it’s never just a sniffle. I get the whole thing and it can last for weeks.

I hope you feel better soon.

It’s true (in our industry) that if you are feeling a bit under the weather it’s ok/perhaps expected to wfh on days when otherwise you’d be in. eg if you have a bad cold.

however if you’re ill you’re ill, wfh or not! Ignore the colleague

Yes, absolutely take a sick day.
I remember when I started working from home and got COVID. I slept 22 hours a day for a week. I couldn't have worked for even a minute.

Get yourself back to bed and take care of yourself. Hope you're feeling better soon ❤️

Respecting WFH has to go both ways - it’s working. It’s not parenting or running errands or whatever else it can be sometimes for some people. Which means it’s also important to respect it enough to know it’s just as important to be well and productive as you would be in person.

i have asthma and being out of breath like that is terrible. It takes me a while to come back after a bad run of it.

I think it is too easy to power through when you wfh. Recently I have taken the attitude that if I wouldn't have made it into the office then I am not logging on. I think I end up feeling ill for longer sometimes with trying to keep going.

In your shoes you are really ill and of course should be off sick.

Your friend is a twat.

As usual, first reply nails it.

I'm sorry that person made you doubt yourself. I work from home, and since doing this I have greatly reduced my sick leave, also because like you I find it easier to work when ill when home, and I can see how that starts to muddy thinking. You've had a terrible night. I hope you can get some rest.

Working at home is still working. The advantage is (as PP have pointed out) you can power through a minor illness like coughs, colds upset stomach and similar. However you OP indicates you have been up all night at A&E and are still wheezing and coughing so I dont imagine you would do much work. Depending on how much time you have had off I would call in and take a sick day.

Take a sick day, your sick! Guessing so called friend has zero understanding of brittle asthma or danger it poses to you

Cheeky cow. Of course you should take the day off!

GP here. Ignore your nasty ‘friend’.
You NEED to be off work today and at least the rest of the week. You know as well as I that asthma should not be underestimated. Take care
(ps I know how you feel, I have a chronic illness too and find it ridiculously hard to take time off even when I KNOW I should).

your friend sounds horrible.

Get yourself to bed op if you’re not there already. I prescribe nothing more taxing than sipping tea, dozing and watching Bridgerton.