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Sudden ARFID in 8yo - stopped eating solids

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BillieOxford79 · 29/01/2026 00:20

Hello, my son (8) who has largely always been a brilliant eater, suddenly slowed down eating and used his hands one day 3 weeks ago, and the next day said he couldn’t swallow- only have liquids. Overnight he stopped eating and has been living off soup and smoothies for 3 weeks. He was crying at first and starving but now seems to have accepted this and also lost his appetite. The GP suspects this is ARFID - it is such a shock and we have no idea why it’s occurred- has this happened to anyone else’s child in the same way, and are there any treatment success stories out there? I am aware there are children & families dealing with far worse, so I’m sorry if this is insensitive - I am just struggling with this as he has lost weight and it’s heartbreaking to see (being monitored by the GP and being referred to a clinic), so please be sensitive and I would appreciate only messages of support, thank you. Obviously I am being supportive for him and non-judgemental/ removing any pressure- and keep my stress for the evenings, just trying to make as much safe food available throughout the day as possible. It’s such a shock and hard to adjust when he’s the same in all other ways x

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BillieOxford79 · 29/01/2026 01:05

Thank you all SO much for your kind and quick responses. I took him to a second GP today to be checked again and they said there’s nothing wrong physically - no glands up, nothing. It just doesn’t feel right to me, although he is a very sensitive soul and had initially attributed the lack of eating to being scared he will choke. But we have talked through that and he isn’t sensitive about choking now at all but the eating restriction continues. He has swallowed solids (he would eat wotsits but takes nearly an hour to suck them, and will very occasionally eat an Oreo but also takes 15 minutes or so- obviously I’m trying to make fat and protein centred soups but I’ll take any wins at the moment and those are the only solids going in). It feels so fast to suddenly have a child with ARFID- can this happen? No trauma at school or home and he was happy. Somewhat tired and disappointed to be back at school after the holidays but this feels extreme. He previously had selective mutism and does show more anxious tendencies. If it is some hidden/ underlying anxiety - do I see a child psychologist or an ARFID / eating specialist? I have no idea how to approach him and navigate meal times, totally guessing and don’t want to exacerbate anything. Thank you so much for any help x @parthyphibday @Frozensun @cerbitude @Spookyspaghetti

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Matsukaze · 29/01/2026 00:55

Has his throat been checked? Did it start after eating anything that could have had bones in it? Any abdo pain or possibility of reflux? Any choking or vomiting episodes prior to this starting which may have scared him?

parthyphibday · 29/01/2026 00:50

Lack of ability to swallow could be something mechanical or neurological. It could also be ARFID of course, but this is worth a 2nd opinion. Doesn't mean it's too serious - as PP said , anxiety can be a cause. I lose ability to swallow if I don't sleep enough.

Frozensun · 29/01/2026 00:43

Maybe check for anxiety too. Are you aware of anything that may have changed in his environment? When mine is bad, it’s like my throat constricts and I cannot swallow solid food. It seems an exceedingly quick onset for AFRID.

cerbitude · 29/01/2026 00:27

This is not ARFID and he needs proper investigations. Ask for paediatrics to see him. This is fairly serious as it was such a quick onset.

Spookyspaghetti · 29/01/2026 00:24

Did the GP check his throat? Just wondering if there is some pain he is experiencing that is putting him off.

If not, hopefully this will bump some responses on ARFID

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