Who is BU here, me or DH?

It all sounds a bit daft to me. He could and should have communicated better but it sounds like he cba and should have just been honest. You were quite within your rights to go solo but were disappointed that he didnt coming trotting out after you copped a strop and then go both got into a weird power play where he wanted you to go back and you wanted him to catch you up. Its also pretty needy to stoem out in the dark on your own by your own choice and then be narky that he isnt bothered youre out in the dark - youre a grown woman and it was your choice. Tbh youre both being ridiculous - you must see that, surely?

None of it sounds worth falling out over.

If you wanted to go for a walk with your husband, probably worth waiting for him.

It's not a huge deal, is it? Not like you had got cinema tickets or something.... I would have waited if I were you, OR gone out on my own if I was happy to do so, but no aggro either way.

His comment about you being sweaty however is a little out of order, in my book. He's your lover, presumably he is used too your body in all kinds of states. It's not like you were proposing going out for a meal in an expensive restaurant - or indeed, being round other people at all. I have no issues with a partner being a bit sweaty when they are just around me, and I would be offended if they commented on my own sweat, if all we were doing was going for a walk together.

Just a thought - does he have an issue with you trying to get fitter? I know some men can - does it make him feel a little insecure maybe?

He might have been annoying but you felt and still rang him (completely excessive) and then complain he wasn't worried about you being in the dark and alone (why on earth should he be worried - if you were, you shouldn't have gone).

You also decided you want to do more walks to get fitter. He didn't.

While I think he's wrong, you do sound a little naggy and exhausting.

The shower comment, was however, veey rude and childish.

I'm gobsmacked at some of the comments. If I agree to do something I don't mind a ten to fifteen minute delay but otherwise the person keeping me waiting will know about it. If that makes me childish or petty what does it say about the person disrespecting my time?

I think you both sound ridiculous tbh. Not very nice of him to leave you waiting. Storming off is childish. Phoning sounds a bit controlling.

nothing wrong with the shower question though. If you hadn’t had a shower since the day before it could well have been that you weren’t very fresh. I wouldn’t be offended if my hubby asked me if I was going to have a shower.

Also "as it’s not like we made commitments to meet anyone or be anywhere and that my time isn’t that important that we have to leave at that exact minute and that I need to be more flexible" so he would be on time for someone else but not for you?

Lastly the flexibility thing is meant to be when you're making plans, or if things go wrong when you've made plans and have to change (eg you agreed to go a walk and then it started chucking it down). No one should have to be flexible because someone else is just dicking around with their plans for no real reason, at the exact time they're meant to be happening

I think he'd being a twat. By getting you to wait half an hour, then 15 min, then 45 min, it doesn't give you chance to get stuck into anything else while you wait, as you feel there's no point, and it doesn't give you the chance to make choices that you would have made if he had been up front anout the time he was free to start (eg go for a walk in the light by yourself instead). Saying your time isn't important is quite disrespectful. His behaviour meant you basically wasted a fair chunk of your evening just waiting for him to be ready then change the goalposts. Not cool.

I often walk 3 times a day. It's great exercise 😀

If the agreement was to go at 7 he should be ready to go at 7. It’s unreasonable for you to sit and wait until he is ready. If he loves flexibility he should be flexible. He is not unreasonable to not be concerned about you going alone in the dark as that was your choice. You were unreasonable to phone him, you made your choice about going alone. I can understand him not wanting to have to catch you up. His excuse about him “if you’d waited” was nonsense. He could have told you that at any point and you’d have waited. The stinking comment was him being a dick.

It all sounds like a petty spat. Just agree next time that if you plan to go somewhere you set a time and stick to it.

Yeah this would have wound me up OP. I hate hanging around for an unknown period of time, would rather crack on and do whatever was planned at the time we planned it. The shower comment sounds mean. Does he often insult you?

Well aside from his horrible remark about you going for a shower, which was just nasty, I think you're both being a bit silly.

Why so many walks??