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To feel bad for Helen Flanagan here?

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 23/01/2026 19:57

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https://www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/helen-flanagan-furiously-hits-out-36599678.amp

she’s being made to sell their home and work, taking jobs she wouldn’t normally, and being away from her kids?

I know some of you are gonna be like ‘poor little rich girl’ 😂😂😂 but honestly, what kind of man is this?? Feel for her a little (from my own, much lower, tax bracket)

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Empress13 · 24/01/2026 00:27

Poor woman was in a throuple with David Haye she’s currently selling her story to the Daily Fail . Nope don’t feel sorry for her

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 24/01/2026 00:24

Gahr · 23/01/2026 22:19

Why is it his fault she is short of money? As long as he is paying for the kids then he's in the clear. She's always whining in the media. She just needs to get on with it.

😂 re whining in the media

her career has taken a back seat while she raised those kids though - she can’t work like she used to

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 24/01/2026 00:23

Hopingforaholiday · 23/01/2026 22:10

That’s not how it works legally. He had no legal relationship with her. Never had any legal obligation to financially support her.
If you want a legal relationship then you need to marry or civil partnership. They were adults and chose not to.

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So legally, what can she do

isn’t there a cohabitation law that recognises her as his wife

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 24/01/2026 00:22

TeaAndTattoos · 23/01/2026 22:07

She was a fool to choose to be a stay at home mum when they weren’t married it’s his house he wants to sell it he has a right to do that and if she has to go out to work aww diddums millions of women have to go out to work to provide for their kids what makes her so special that she shouldn’t have to do anything to provide for them and he should pay for everything. He’s under no legal obligation to provide for his ex girlfriend as well as 3 kids he only needs to provide for them and he’s not trying to make them homeless he just wants them to move to somewhere smaller and more affordable for him which is fair enough.

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She’s the mother of his kids though so kind of a de facto wife

she put her career on hold for his kids so he could work - I think that means he stays responsible for her and the kids 🤷‍♀️

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 24/01/2026 00:21

RobertaFirmino · 24/01/2026 00:19

She needs to get a grip. Both her parents worked FT, dad up to his elbows in grease at the garage and mum stitching knickers all day in the factoreh.

On a serious note, the vast majority of footballers are retired by 35. You cannot expect a lower league player to be raking it in.

😂😂😂 you had me in the first half

But maybe he had raked it in and now has investments? 👀

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 24/01/2026 00:20

Pinkladyapplepie · 23/01/2026 22:05

I don't know the whole background but they are not doing 50/50 they live at opposite ends of the country. He IMO should pay enough support for the kids to have a similar life style to what they would have had if their parents had remained together. As far as she is concerned, it's not like she can go and work in M&S, I hope she gets some decent opportunities, tricky working long hours with 3 kids hope she has good support too.

Hard agree

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 24/01/2026 00:20

Painfullife · 23/01/2026 22:01

I don’t get why you think he should fund Helen’s lifestyle. Yes he wants to sell the house but he’s said he’d pay for a smaller one so not like he’s cutting all financial support & as a follower of his on social media he has his children regularly too, in fact I read somewhere the oldest actually wants to live with her dad.

many other single mums don’t get the luxury of having a house and all experiences covered by their children’s dad so why should he any different.

I think that her ability to work ceased because she bore and raised his children - she’s not 21 anymore and no doubt that’s affected the ability to get work

sorry girl, I lost track of the thread and didn’t realise I’d already quoted you 😅

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RobertaFirmino · 24/01/2026 00:19

She needs to get a grip. Both her parents worked FT, dad up to his elbows in grease at the garage and mum stitching knickers all day in the factoreh.

On a serious note, the vast majority of footballers are retired by 35. You cannot expect a lower league player to be raking it in.

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 24/01/2026 00:18

Hopingforaholiday · 23/01/2026 21:58

There is probably a schedule 1 Children’s Act claim being negotiated. It sounds like he’s currently paying for housing the children and has offered to buy her a property as part of a settlement so she can house them but this will result in less ongoing maintenance.
She went to private school so perhaps her parents can assist if he’s only willing to fund a 4 bed and she wants to stay in a 6 bed. 4 bed is a bedroom per child.
Whilst he’s obviously been higher earning in past he’s not a particularly high earner now.
She’s mad to refuse a house in her name. If she stays as his guest in the 6 bed house one day when children are adults she’ll need to move out and will be in her 50s starting from scratch on housing ladder.
The comment about her adding value to his house. Don’t add value to someone else’s property. In limited circumstances you can try and claim a beneficial interest but it’s fraught with difficulty and expensive legally.

Thank you for this procedural explanation

I agree that she should accept the house but negotiate further re maintenance. He can’t just stop paying for the kids

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Bruisername · 24/01/2026 00:07

For a sahm she has been all over the press/social media/celeb scene for all that time

she doesn’t really get how lucky she is - not married but she’s getting a house and I’m sure she will get child support - she just wants more!!

and the interview was unwise for two reasons - her kids will see that one day and if she successfully destroyed his reputation she is truly killing the cash cow - commentary is most likely his best bet to make money and he won’t get those gigs with a bad rep

SleepingStandingUp · 24/01/2026 00:01

Ebok1990 · 23/01/2026 23:40

You think c£10 million isn't enough to make work for the rest of your life?

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Not I'd your paying for your ex to live in a 6 bed house whilst needing at least a 3 bed for yourself and she expects you to pay for everything until the kids leave home so she doesn't have to work

SleepingStandingUp · 23/01/2026 23:59

mumofoneAloneandwell · 23/01/2026 20:06

I agree, they aren’t that rich and understand that that house would’ve been expensive

but she wasn’t working when she had the kids, iirc, she was a housewife? I think she should be able to continue that life, this man is shite

also, didn’t know he wasn’t a prem league player

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Them choosing for her to be a, sahm whilst they're together with young kids doesn't entitle her to be a, sahp for the next decade + after they split. So he should run his own home big enough for the kids to stay, plus pay for her 6 bed house plus all bills and all kids stuff and pay her maintenance on top so she only has to do jobs she fancies? She's hardly taking a shift down the local chicken factory.

exse24Londoner · 23/01/2026 23:50

she doesn't come out of this interview very well - I'm sure her children will be thrilled to read in future about what shit a father they have. Even though he undoubtedly is.

When she says she has to take jobs she wouldn't normally, does that include selling your story to the papers? I hate people that slag of an x & then try to make it sound as though they have the moral high ground calling them out. It stinks & isn't clever

we all have to live within our means & being on Coronation Street doesn't exclude anyone from that

Ebok1990 · 23/01/2026 23:40

Itsmetheflamingo · 23/01/2026 21:16

To be absolutely fair, not only he is a lower league footballer but footballing careers are short- even 40k a week for 5 years isn’t income for the other 60 years of your life.

he wouldn’t be able to afford it long term and seems like he can’t now.

Seperation is hard, you have to expect changes

You think c£10 million isn't enough to make work for the rest of your life?

LunaDeBallona · 23/01/2026 23:40

She was an utter mug not marrying him.
I don’t really have much sympathy for her - having THREE KIDS without being married.!?!
Who was advising her?

Gertle · 23/01/2026 23:35

Of course she can't expect to live in a 6-bedroom house forever and never work with school-age children. You think because at one point she was a SAHM it means she can expect her ex to financially support her forever?

She used to do the job of SAHM and now that job isn't available anymore because SAHPs generally only exist when the couple is together. She needs to get another job or have no money.

Can you really imagine if your DH was a SAHD and you split up and he started asking you to pay for him to not work? You'd really say "oh I'd better pay for him to sit on his arse living in a massive house with an extra gaming room and an extra room to store his model aeroplanes while I go to work. Oh and I will continue this arrangement indefinitely as it would be unfair to expect him to get a job"?

Shessweetbutapsycho · 23/01/2026 23:28

mumofoneAloneandwell · 23/01/2026 20:06

I agree, they aren’t that rich and understand that that house would’ve been expensive

but she wasn’t working when she had the kids, iirc, she was a housewife? I think she should be able to continue that life, this man is shite

also, didn’t know he wasn’t a prem league player

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Helen? Is that you? 😂

Summerbubbles · 23/01/2026 23:18

The eternal reminder to never rely on a man, especially if you aren't protected by marriage.

Fulmine · 23/01/2026 23:13

mumofoneAloneandwell · 23/01/2026 20:39

She’s a sahm though, that’s her job 🥺

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But the rest of us manage to work and bring up children. What is it about her that exempts her in your view?

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 23/01/2026 23:07

No I think she’s as attention seeking PITA

Flannelfeet · 23/01/2026 23:04

YellowPixie · 23/01/2026 20:07

She used to live round this way when he played for Celtic. Saw her a few times with her kids, seemed a nice enough lass.

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mommatoone · 23/01/2026 23:00

I don't feel sorry for her to be honest , because the last few media rants have been her slagging Scott of in public. Ok he might be a dick / shit father- who knows?. But ffs her kids are reading all that shit she posts . Some things should be kept behind closed doors IMO.

NutritiousSardines · 23/01/2026 23:00

3 kids & a 6 bedroom house? With ex paying mortgage and bills? No, obviously she should downsize and accept the 4 bedroom house he has (apparently) offered instead 🎻.

It’s that sort of grasping, entitled attitude that puts men off settling down. Relationships are not meant to be meal tickets, and people are not cash machines. Even men.

Hopingforaholiday · 23/01/2026 22:58

A 4 bed new build isn’t going to give the children a lower standard of living. Still a room each.
From the pics when she was trying to sell last year it’s just a 6 bed new build and the extra bedrooms are her dressing room/handbag display room.
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-14710929/amp/Helen-Flanagan-house-ex-Scott-Sinclair-market-broke.html
It was never her ‘forever home’, she never owned it.

Helen Flanagan puts house on the market for £1.5m

Helen Flanagan has put her 'forever home' on the market for £1.5 million after seemingly losing most of her multi-million pound fortune.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-14710929/amp/Helen-Flanagan-house-ex-Scott-Sinclair-market-broke.html

Gahr · 23/01/2026 22:53

19lottie82 · 23/01/2026 22:36

She’s living in a 6 bed house that he owns. He’s offered to buy her a 4 bed outright and put it in her name, but she’s refusing. Does that sound a bit stupid to anyone else?

Yes, and also entitled. I think she thinks of herself as a much bigger star than she actually is.