To feel bad for Helen Flanagan here?

It’s such an odd attitude

‘this is how it was so this is how it will always be’

If only life worked that way

@mumofoneAloneandwell "no judgement of working mums"
That's good, because Helen is a working mum
As we keep saying.

He IS trying to secure a home for them though. A perfectly adequate home, just not quite as luxurious as they're used to (but can't afford).

His finances are his responsibility. If he hasn’t managed to save and prepare for the future, that’s on him. Footballers’ careers are notoriously fickle and short. It’s not like he couldn’t predict that this would happen. When we decided to put our kids into private school, we had the money saved in advance as security, we wouldn’t have put them in otherwise. I clearly don’t know as much detail about their financial arrangements as you do, but I imagine if they’d been married she would have received the house in settlement and more. Obviously it’s on her that she didn’t ensure this, but she must feel like she is building her life on moving sands, at the mercy of her ex.

Hey Helen 🤣🤣

Hey Helen 🤣🤣

I do t know why there is a sudden push to try and make motherhood this holy grail of jobs tbh - it seems like an insidious step to say to young women ‘your place is in the home looking after your kids and your man because it’s so hard only a mother can do it’

if her being a sahm was her job then her employer, the person who paid her wage, has made her unemployed. Yes it’s sad but unfortunately once a relationship breaks down the structure of the family inevitably changes

she works - an unconventional job but she works. Her kids are at school. She just wants her ex to bankroll a lifestyle she can’t afford. It’s not that hard.

The house is NOW 6 bedrooms because they converted the top floor into her walk in wardrobe / dressing room / beauty space, it was originally 8 bedrooms though and also has 6 bathrooms, 5 reception rooms and altogether is 5000 square feet, an average 3 bedroom house in the UK 800 - 1000 square feet as a comparison. Yes he’s been paying all the bills as well as maintenance and I can only imagine the heating bills are on a house that size! I imagine the 4 bedroom he’d be wanting to buy her would probably be half the square footage which is still ample space but would definitely free up money; not only in capital but also ongoing utilities and house maintenance costs.

No one is saying he doesn’t have to support her or the kids but he was never a top earning player and he’s now coming to the end of his career with I imagine not a shit tonne of savings due to their spending (at one point they were paying 6.5k in rent alone). Yes he’s made the commitment to paying school fees but the youngest is 4, if he doesn’t start saving and investing now then where is the money going to come from until he’s 18? Scott will literally stop playing in a few years and doesn’t have anywhere near the profile to be a pundit etc. Also maybe he’s thinking long term as well, uni for the kids, buying them a house each etc.

She doesn’t need a 6 bed house.

he is willing to buy her a 4 bed house.

We all have to work and do jobs they take us away from our children

Yes it wouldn’t surprise me to learn that a footballer and an ‘influencer’(?) have not planned well for the future. But don’t forget she has had 3 children with him - 3 pregnancies, 3 maternity leaves. Holding the fort at home while he pursued his football career. Who can tell what affect this has had on her career and earning potential. If they had been married she would have been entitled to a portion of the marital assets. As it is, she has no rights of that kind. The house is his. She is only permitted to live in it. The school fees are an expected minimum. He mad a lifetime commitment to that as soon as he decided to put the eldest into private school. I know nothing in detail about their financial arrangement - if he is indeed paying her bills on top of regular CM payments then that is generous. Selling the house just seemed petty to me, and possibly a flex. I wouldn’t have thought buying a decent 4 bed would have freed up much cash, what with stamp duty etc. the 6 bed in question isn’t that impressive, typical new build with too many rooms crammed into the space.

Exactly, @CommonlyKnownAs !
She's not a SAHM, she's a working actress with a lucrative social media presence.

I don't feel bad for her at all reading this. He pays for her to live in the massive house for now, has offered to buy her a 4 bed house outright and plenty women have to work jobs they'd rather not do that involve time away from their kids. She's not in a bad situation overall.

Not sure why this has turned into a SAHM discussion, as she's quite clearly working. Google tells me she was in panto before Christmas and is in play rehearsals now.

https://uk.news.yahoo.com/why-helen-flanagan-feels-lucky-052100961.html

As well as the play, she's got a heavily curated Instagram account with over a million followers and hawking loads of stuff. So her job is basically selling things and taking acting roles locally as they come up.

If anything she's probably coming out with all this to get more publicity, so more people will go on her social media and notice what she's advertising. And hell, it got me to do it!

I completely get that SAHM is a job to an extent but not when all the kids are school age! If you’ve got three under three all at home fair enough.

There are plenty of actors who split from their partners and continue to act. Or she can just do boring work like the rest of us. Her ex does sound like a dick but she kind of lost my sympathy when it said she posted on social media to say something about him being a dick missing the nativity. No need to put that online just send him a text to tell him he’s a twat.

MN really is a different place sometimes.

I do not know one person who has a nanny, cleaner, uses a laundry service etc. Maybe a childminder for a few hours after school until they finish work, but that's it.

I doubt it

She's a known poster on here

I believe she's got one child

I like you OP. But this thread is ridiculous 😆 A job is something you get paid for. Are you seriously suggesting her ex boyfriend pays all her bills forever so she can stay in the lap of luxury and never work? It's crazy talk 😄

This. And her kids are at school now. How does that make her a SAHM please? She's presumably, what, doing a food shop, a bit of cleaning and some laundry? Not going to take up 9am-3pm 5 days a week, is it? Hardly the equivalent of a job.

Isn’t it crazy how she showed how loved up she was a few years back when she was cooking for him in lingerie and now he’s a dkhead. I think she knew he was a dhead all along and just milking him for a lavish paid for lifestyle like Rooney and that other dude Kyle walker and Lauren Goodman. She ade so many demands after having kids with him as a side woman.

We all have to work so she needs to get up and get out there. She’s kind of a good actress right? I’ve never seen her apart from on I’m a celeb. She can get a good job. Her ego is hurt after all the bragging that’s all.

OP why is that gif in your opening post?

Well, practically speaking he can't currently do 50% of the work involved with raising them. Someone said upthread they have a 50/50 split, but there's no way he's pulling that off when they live and go to school around Bolton but his in-person work requires him to be in Bristol. So as he needs her to be the primary parent in order to allow him to continue working in his chosen job, it's right that he pay more than 50% as things stand, in order to facilitate an equal overall split.

Obviously once his football career ends he can move to where the kids are, or he could even move to a north western football club before then. One of them would have him, even if it's a lower ranked and paying team than Bristol. If he steps it up to do 50/50 of the day to day work, at that point reducing his financial contribution to 50% of the costs of raising them would be reasonable.

I agree with the PP who said it might be in Helen's best interests to shut up and bolster his reputation. He'll be coming to the end of his playing career soon, and at that point it would be helpful for him to be able to access media work.