To feel bad for Helen Flanagan here?

I don't know the whole background but they are not doing 50/50 they live at opposite ends of the country. He IMO should pay enough support for the kids to have a similar life style to what they would have had if their parents had remained together. As far as she is concerned, it's not like she can go and work in M&S, I hope she gets some decent opportunities, tricky working long hours with 3 kids hope she has good support too.

I absolutely agree that she shouldn’t expect her ex to bankroll her lifestyle, but equally I don’t think she should be expected to walk away from the relationship with nothing to show for it either - when she has made all the inevitable sacrifices to bring their 3 children into the world. It would be completely different if there were no children involved. Legally I realise she hasn’t got a leg to stand on but morally I think the man in this case does have an obligation. Another example of why it is important to get married before having children I suppose.

I absolutely agree that she shouldn’t expect her ex to bankroll her lifestyle, but equally I don’t think she should be expected to walk away from the relationship with nothing to show for it either - when she has made all the inevitable sacrifices to bring their 3 children into the world. It would be completely different if there were no children involved. Legally I realise she hasn’t got a leg to stand on but morally I think the man in this case does have an obligation. Another example of why it is important to get married before having children I suppose.

I do t know why there is a sudden push to try and make motherhood this holy grail of jobs tbh - it seems like an insidious step to say to young women ‘your place is in the home looking after your kids and your man because it’s so hard only a mother can do it’

if her being a sahm was her job then her employer, the person who paid her wage, has made her unemployed. Yes it’s sad but unfortunately once a relationship breaks down the structure of the family inevitably changes

she works - an unconventional job but she works. Her kids are at school. She just wants her ex to bankroll a lifestyle she can’t afford. It’s not that hard.

She wants attention. She has always been a massive attention seeker.

How do you know she doesn't want to work? She's been acting and begins a play next week.
Maybe she wants to be in the play, and continue her acting career?

How do you know she doesn't want to work? She's been acting and begins a play next week.
Maybe she wants to be in the play, and continue her acting career?

How is forcing a mother back to work, away from her kids, progress?

progress is recognising how hard motherhood is and ensuring the woman is supported

I could be Helen Flanagan, you don’t know!

Maybe her argument would be stronger if she was saying

‘I’m having to work when I don’t want to, I want to be be home with the kids’ rather than her current one

If she left him, she’d still have to take care of the kids, cook, clean, be a taxi, etc

her life wouldn’t change much except being sans husband

his life is much easier now, imo, now he has a permenant nanny

Nope! It sound perfectly reasonable to me. 🤷‍♀️

How is forcing a mother back to work, away from her kids, progress?

progress is recognising how hard motherhood is and ensuring the woman is supported

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😂😂 I’m clearly in the minority but fun gifs aside, I really do feel for her

she should’ve married him, but their family home is just that - just because he’s decided it isn’t for him, doesn’t mean that her life should stop!

he, upon leaving after being the main provider, should’ve made sure that her and the kids were looked after before moving on - securing their home and making sure that their life continues as uninterrupted as possible 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

that’s how it should be imo, for all women who have a man’s kids

that said, no judgement of working mums, who do too much - life shouldn’t be a struggle, it isn’t always for the men