To feel bad for Helen Flanagan here?

But she wasn't a houseWIFE, it's her biggest mistake, no divorce settlement. Link this article OP every time someone says they're thinking of going part time to have DC and their DP earns well but they don't need to be married because it's just a piece of paper...

Am I missing something? He seems to be financially providing for the family, he just needs them to downsize. Which, given that he appears to be paying for it all is fair enough, no?

I feel a bit sorry for her as she wouldn’t be in this situation if she’d have been married to him. He sounds awful. I think he should treat her as if they’d been married.

Nailed it. Never EVER have babies with a man who CBA to marry you. Helen is screwed now. I don't envy her. She is a B-lister who hasn't done anything except for Corrie, (not been in it for a decade,) and the odd reality TV show. So she hasn't exactly got loads of security, or a huge financial buffer herself.

I feel a bit sorry for her though to be honest, as she is fairly used to a privileged 'celeb' type lifestyle, and thought having kids with a footballer would be her golden ticket. Wrong. He doesn't give a shit about her, and wouldn't even put a ring on it.

She's very pretty, but a bit one dimensional as an actress. I wish her well, but shit happens and then you die. She's going to have to roll with the punches. Gonna have to get a job. As has been said, millions of single mums do the same in every day life. Life as an actor or actress is a lottery, and many of them spend a LOT of time not in acting work - and working other jobs! It's the life of an actress. Surely Helen knows this.........

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@JudgeJ

Perfected the art of pouting in underwear

This, it’s so bloody depressing that some woman still have the view that if they don’t want to work… they never ever have to, no matter what changes in their lives!

Not much of a career, has she done anything since she left Coronation Street?

Why is being a SAHM a 'job' for partners of ex premier league footballers but not for bricklayers partners?

Her kids go to school so surely she can work like everyone else has to ffs. She’s no one special.

She will just have to put some clothes on and go to work to pay her bills to support her family like everyone else does.

I’m not sure what the issue is really. Women work. That’s normal. It’s a bit outdated to think the man should pay for her keep??

I think it’s awful they seem to talk via SM too. The fact they communicate via her dad and on SM isn’t very adult is it.

Pretty much what I was going to say tbh! Things change! It’s not about having her suffer…lots of women work married, divorced or otherwise. Shes not special.

She was a SAHM while they were together but things have changed. They’ve separated and he is no longer willing to support her so she will have to return to work. At least she already has an established career so it won’t be too difficult.

He used to play for a premier league club....he doesn't any more. They aren't married? Choices...... consequences?

I mean 2 parents who cant act like grown ups and speak to each other is never good for the kids is it?

Any man who doesnt look after his kids is a dickhead but she doesnt say that is the case.

He's not kicking them out on the streets but he's a dickhead for thinking he can buy her a house and never have to pay anything again though.

Equally, she needs to understand that 6 beds is a large house.

Depends tbh.

I’m divorced and I can’t stand the victim mentality some women have. Unless there are very specific circumstances t’s just not realistic to expect to not work as a single parent. She needs to be working. She can’t expect to live in the same house permanently unless she has the financial means to buy him out.

But the ex should be financially supporting the children and enabling them to have a reasonable quality of life.

Why would anyone think they could continue to live in a house owned by their ex fiancé, and be financially supported by them to the extent they didn’t have to work?

This is why I’d never be a SAHM if I wasn’t married before having children.

Not having to work is a privilege and isn’t something that is a life long guarantee no matter how it comes about.

I do feel a little sorry for her. I also think she was so foolish not to ensure she had a ring on it before having kids especially 3!
He may play for a minor league team now but just a few yrs ago he was on probably about £40k a week at Celtic and played in premier league before that. He must be delighted he didn’t marry her and she must be gutted!

Poor woman having to work 🙄 thoughts and prayers etc etc

'He sounds terrible making her work' 😀