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SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 10:20

AIBU to feel completely misled by our landlords after being promised long-term tenancy and now being served notice after 4 months? What can we do?

I’m honestly at breaking point and need some perspective (and possibly legal knowledge).

We moved into a 4-bed rental in Surrey at £3,000 pcm after being absolutely clear — repeatedly — that we were only looking for a long-term home. We have three children (now 5, 9 and 14). My eldest is approaching GCSE years, my middle child has learning difficulties and will be transitioning to secondary school next year, and stability was non-negotiable for us.

Before we agreed to take the property, we had an in-person meeting with the landlords, where they met our children, walked them around the house, asked which bedrooms they wanted, discussed decorating, putting things on walls properly etc. We explicitly asked for a minimum of 5 years.
The landlords told us they wanted long-term tenants, and that the first year would be to ensure both sides were happy, after which a longer contract would be signed.

This was reiterated to the estate agent we viewed with — they knew we were only looking long-term because we’ve already had two previous tenancies end through no fault of our own (one due to Covid/job loss, one because the landlord decided to sell following new tenant legislation).

On the day of signing, we were told the landlord wanted a 4-month break clause. I thought this was unusual (I’d only ever seen 10–12 months), but we’d already had the verbal assurances, the children were emotionally invested, and we trusted what we’d been told. So we signed.

Fast forward:
After just two months, we were told they would be serving notice at month four, meaning we must leave by April.

The only reason given for this is that the landlords’ adult daughter is going through a messy divorce, and they now want to give her the house to live in. She has one child aged 5.
This situation was never mentioned prior to us moving in, and the landlords had specifically said they were seeking long-term tenants.

So effectively, we were encouraged to move our family into a large, expensive property under the promise of long-term security — only to be asked to leave almost immediately due to a change in the landlords’ personal circumstances, not because of anything relating to us as tenants.

Financially, this has been devastating.
Because the property has very large windows, we had to buy multiple sets of extra-long curtains (hundreds of pounds — including one bay window costing over £400 alone). I tried to budget with Dunelm/IKEA, but it still added up fast. When the notice came in, I had to return what I could, pack things back up, and now we’re living in a half-empty house paying £3k a month knowing we’re being forced out.

We’d also put all our savings into a business project we believed we were secure enough to do — we won’t see a return for at least 18 months. We now have no savings to fund another move.

Emotionally, this has destroyed our sense of safety.
The children are upset about losing their bedrooms again. This is the third time in a row we’ve had to move due to landlords’ decisions. The stress has been so severe that my partner and I have temporarily separated under the strain.

On a practical and physical level, this move is especially hard for me. I have fibromyalgia and arthritis, and I find moving extremely difficult physically. It’s taken months for my body to start settling after the last move, and the thought of packing, lifting and relocating again is overwhelming.

On top of this, the property itself has had significant issues since we moved in, including boiler problems and ongoing repairs that required repeated chasing. It often felt like the house wasn’t truly ready for tenants, yet we were paying full rent throughout.

Housing have told me that if we can’t secure somewhere else, I may be placed in temporary accommodation — potentially a one-bed unit in Wembley for myself and three children. We wouldn’t be able to take our furniture or belongings. Given my health conditions and the children’s needs, the thought of this is genuinely terrifying.

It now feels like the landlords wanted someone to cover winter costs, council tax (Band F), and keep the house occupied while repairs were done — then move us on.

My questions:

  • AIBU to feel this is deeply unfair and misleading?
  • Does a verbal agreement / assurance of long-term tenancy count for anything here?
  • Is this something worth pursuing legally or via the agent?
  • Has anyone successfully challenged something like this, or negotiated a withdrawal of notice?

I feel completely broken by this and don’t know what options we realistically have.

OP posts:
Angrybird76 · 20/01/2026 12:07

In your situation I would be doing everything in my power to buy. This is out of reach for a lot of people now, but you are spending £3,000 in rent, and spending large amounts of money furnishing a property which ist yours. Can you scale back and save for a deposit? After my divorce I rented in a 2 bed flat with my DD with not garden and 2 dogs! I saved for 2 years and have now bought a house with a mortgage. I LOVE having my own house, knowing what i do is an investment, being able to hang pictures without permission! My landlord also had the flat on sale for nearly the whole 2 years. He couldn't sell it. I was in a very difficult situation and explained to the landlord how stability was very important, and then 3 weeks after we moved in he put it up for sale. So i ended up with nearly 2 years of having people look round the house. Renting is the pits. Some have no choice, but I think you do with a bit of scaling back for a few years.

nevernotmaybe · 20/01/2026 12:05

SeenItAllMostly · 20/01/2026 10:20

AIBU to feel completely misled by our landlords after being promised long-term tenancy and now being served notice after 4 months? What can we do?

I’m honestly at breaking point and need some perspective (and possibly legal knowledge).

We moved into a 4-bed rental in Surrey at £3,000 pcm after being absolutely clear — repeatedly — that we were only looking for a long-term home. We have three children (now 5, 9 and 14). My eldest is approaching GCSE years, my middle child has learning difficulties and will be transitioning to secondary school next year, and stability was non-negotiable for us.

Before we agreed to take the property, we had an in-person meeting with the landlords, where they met our children, walked them around the house, asked which bedrooms they wanted, discussed decorating, putting things on walls properly etc. We explicitly asked for a minimum of 5 years.
The landlords told us they wanted long-term tenants, and that the first year would be to ensure both sides were happy, after which a longer contract would be signed.

This was reiterated to the estate agent we viewed with — they knew we were only looking long-term because we’ve already had two previous tenancies end through no fault of our own (one due to Covid/job loss, one because the landlord decided to sell following new tenant legislation).

On the day of signing, we were told the landlord wanted a 4-month break clause. I thought this was unusual (I’d only ever seen 10–12 months), but we’d already had the verbal assurances, the children were emotionally invested, and we trusted what we’d been told. So we signed.

Fast forward:
After just two months, we were told they would be serving notice at month four, meaning we must leave by April.

The only reason given for this is that the landlords’ adult daughter is going through a messy divorce, and they now want to give her the house to live in. She has one child aged 5.
This situation was never mentioned prior to us moving in, and the landlords had specifically said they were seeking long-term tenants.

So effectively, we were encouraged to move our family into a large, expensive property under the promise of long-term security — only to be asked to leave almost immediately due to a change in the landlords’ personal circumstances, not because of anything relating to us as tenants.

Financially, this has been devastating.
Because the property has very large windows, we had to buy multiple sets of extra-long curtains (hundreds of pounds — including one bay window costing over £400 alone). I tried to budget with Dunelm/IKEA, but it still added up fast. When the notice came in, I had to return what I could, pack things back up, and now we’re living in a half-empty house paying £3k a month knowing we’re being forced out.

We’d also put all our savings into a business project we believed we were secure enough to do — we won’t see a return for at least 18 months. We now have no savings to fund another move.

Emotionally, this has destroyed our sense of safety.
The children are upset about losing their bedrooms again. This is the third time in a row we’ve had to move due to landlords’ decisions. The stress has been so severe that my partner and I have temporarily separated under the strain.

On a practical and physical level, this move is especially hard for me. I have fibromyalgia and arthritis, and I find moving extremely difficult physically. It’s taken months for my body to start settling after the last move, and the thought of packing, lifting and relocating again is overwhelming.

On top of this, the property itself has had significant issues since we moved in, including boiler problems and ongoing repairs that required repeated chasing. It often felt like the house wasn’t truly ready for tenants, yet we were paying full rent throughout.

Housing have told me that if we can’t secure somewhere else, I may be placed in temporary accommodation — potentially a one-bed unit in Wembley for myself and three children. We wouldn’t be able to take our furniture or belongings. Given my health conditions and the children’s needs, the thought of this is genuinely terrifying.

It now feels like the landlords wanted someone to cover winter costs, council tax (Band F), and keep the house occupied while repairs were done — then move us on.

My questions:

  • AIBU to feel this is deeply unfair and misleading?
  • Does a verbal agreement / assurance of long-term tenancy count for anything here?
  • Is this something worth pursuing legally or via the agent?
  • Has anyone successfully challenged something like this, or negotiated a withdrawal of notice?

I feel completely broken by this and don’t know what options we realistically have.

The break clause cant be used by the landlord to have you leave after 4 months, the legally protected minimum for a tenant is 6 months this cannot be changed, it is statutory. You could use the break clause amusingly, the landlord can't.

What kind of tenancy do you have? Does it either not say at all, or specifically say assured shorthold? What length is it for, and how often do you pay rent?

FerrisWheelsandLilacs · 20/01/2026 12:04

I think you need to speak to a solicitor or to shelter. My understanding was that a landlord cannot evict you using a break clause in this way, the break clause just ends the fixed term tenancy which then puts you onto a rolling monthly tenancy. He then has to go to court to evict under s21 or s8 (and if you can drag past 1 May 2026, then s21 won’t be available to them). Section 8 should only apply if the landlord used to live in the property themselves. If they bought it to let out they’ll struggle to get you out after 1 May provided you’re a good tenant.

s5 of the housing act 1988 seems pretty clear to me on this, but I’m not a lawyer. Shelter’s website backs up this interpretation though. I’d suggest trying to get proper advice as I don’t think PPs understand how this law works.

IdleThoughts · 20/01/2026 11:52

A verbal agreement with a landlord means nothing, you were mad to move your family on a verbal agreement. I wouldn't have agreed to sign a 4 month break clause, it's pretty obvious why they did that, they wanted you out then.

Also 3k a month rent is madness, why can't you buy if you can afford to pay that?

DoveTurtle · 20/01/2026 11:50

I’m so sorry this has happened to you. Some people have no morals.

I wish you all the best for the future and I know there are a lot of landlords who would love to have a nice family with a long term lease.

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MegMez · 20/01/2026 11:42

£3k a month?! Insane! There are 3 bed Victorian terraces for £1,200pcm in my town. I can see you're in a 4 bed now, could moving to a 3 bed help with savings and getting your own place? Sorry to hear you're in a stressful situation but that's the nature of renting. My friend recently had to move from their family home because the owner died and his children were selling the house. They were very good at giving plenty of time for her to find a new place as it wasn't urgent and she was a good long term tenant. I know you'll be kicking yourself enough about the business choice you've made that means you haven't got the ready money for this emergency and lessons will be learnt.

These big costs jump up on homeowners too - in the past year or so we had a knock at the door from our neighbour saying their roof was being done and the chimney had to come down but we had to pay for our side of the chimney and scaffolding etc AND our boiler died.

I don't think you were misled if he wasn't already aware of his daughter's divorce. Is he aware of your situation financially?

7238SM · 20/01/2026 11:41

Why did you sign with a 4mth break clause?

This is DH is reverse. He owns a property which has been rented out via the uni to students for years. Always a group of friends renting the house for 1 or max 2yrs.

Last year a mature student wanted to rent with his wife and children and due to doing a PhD, wanted to stay 5yrs. He requested some of the rooms to be cleared of their beds/wardrobes etc which we are storing. Low and behold, 6mths in, he wants to move out to buy. Good for him and his family, but they will be leaving 6mths before the new student intake, so DH is debating selling up too.

I hope you find something soon.

FancyCatSlave · 20/01/2026 11:31

I’m sorry you have the disruption and uncertainty but anyone renting at £3k a month as a long term proposition who wants housing security needs to rethink their financial priorities.

Madness. Over 5 years that would be £180k in rental outlay. What on earth are you thinking?! In other parts of the UK you could buy a house for £250k.

My rental is for sale as it’s not viable for me any more. The rental market is about to get a whole lot harder (it may eventually get better-who knows) so you need to buckle in and expect to be moving every 6-12 months. That needs to be part of your financial planning.

GoldDuster · 20/01/2026 11:29

The four month break clause was the clanging bell unfortunately, this is shitty but it's happening and I would absolutely save your energy and get yourselves under another roof as quickly and simply as possible and chalk it up to experience, because legally you're wasting your time and energy and cash to pursue.

Take the emotion out of it, this is a business arrangement. To sink all your available funds into a business proposition would have been a rash move at any point, but in your position it was a bit bonkers I'm afraid. I'd work towards getting a mortgage and your own place asap, it may mean sharing a bedroom for the DC, but that's life. If you want security and stability as a priority you can't rely on landlords to be scrupulous.

The kids will take your lead on this, try not to feed into the drama, do that behind closed doors. You'll look back on this and it will be one of the events in the trials of renting, and why you decided not to do it any more.

Lindy2 · 20/01/2026 11:22

I'd really investigate buying instead of renting. It doesn't need to be a forever home if you have financial issues you need to sort out but something where you can get a permanent base and your foot on the housing ladder.

£3000 per month is a lot of rent especially when you want stability and a long term home rather than the flexibility of renting.

Swiftie1878 · 20/01/2026 11:22

shouldofgotamortage · 20/01/2026 10:34

I would explain to the LL that you have no funds to move inwhich case they would need to go through court & send baliffs which can take over a year and be very costly at the expense of the LL. They may offer to give you some money to get you out quicker, some LLs do this.

And never be able to rent again.
Great advice! <sarcasm>

ForWittyTealOP · 20/01/2026 11:17

Whatever the ins and outs of the individual situation,this is going to happen a lot before next May and I predict that life will become even more difficult for renters after that. It's a shame the government didn't learn from what happened in Wales where similar legislation was enacted a few years ago. I'm all for renter's rights - I believe that the private rental sector should only be used as a very last resort, if at all. But you can't put into place legislation which will dramatically shrink the availability of private rentals and push up rents/hugely increase conditionality without also having a plan B. Before the Renters Rights bill was even conceived, there should have been massive investment in social housing so that former tenants actually had somewhere to go when they were predictably evicted just before the law came into force. It's been carnage in Wales; I genuinely don't know what renters are supposed to do when they can't find a property, can't afford the few on offer and don't have homeowner guarantors and/or 6-12 months rent upfront.

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 20/01/2026 11:17

Heatingneedstobeontoday · 20/01/2026 11:15

We took on an old farmhouse. Long term. I was even interviewed by a panel as it was Trust owned.... A new owner took over the Trust. Came out to meet us. Insisted he would just be our new landlord and nothing would change. He commented on the hard work we had done so far..
A year in he had us a hand delivered eviction notice.
A man held in high regard in the community....
Still a twat.
His dw a high up member of a children's charity... Didn't care about our dc did she?
So sorry op. It's truly crap.
We have had to move on 3 times now from rentals for one reason or another..

Why would he be ostracised by the community for this? Whats his wife working for a charity got to do with anything?

Heatingneedstobeontoday · 20/01/2026 11:15

We took on an old farmhouse. Long term. I was even interviewed by a panel as it was Trust owned.... A new owner took over the Trust. Came out to meet us. Insisted he would just be our new landlord and nothing would change. He commented on the hard work we had done so far..
A year in he had us a hand delivered eviction notice.
A man held in high regard in the community....
Still a twat.
His dw a high up member of a children's charity... Didn't care about our dc did she?
So sorry op. It's truly crap.
We have had to move on 3 times now from rentals for one reason or another..

millymollyminging · 20/01/2026 11:11

This is exactly what happened to my DS/DDIL - they moved in in October - long term tenancy but rolling 6 months. It was their first home together. Out in April. We think the LL wanted rent over the winter before selling. It was heartbreaking for them. Hopefully the new legislation might stop this kind of thing.

Bulbsbulbsbulbs · 20/01/2026 11:10

Well, I guess at least you haven't been there long. And maybe you'll be glad to move out due to the issues you have listed. Perhaps see this as a chance to find somewhere better?

I think it's a bit rich moaning about the disruption of having a new roof fitted though. In houses things happen like that with no warning sometimes. Your landlord repaired it quickly.

Can you explain about the curtains? Maybe the landlord will buy them for his daughter.

Vespanest · 20/01/2026 11:09

Both my neighbours were tenants, both due to the owner moving for work and both intending to return. Both properties went on the market within weeks of the announcement of the renters bill. Personally if renting I'd go for a landlord with multiple properties than individual landlords. We were lucky that the bill coincided with our tenant moving on. My daughter has moved in now, we'd sell before letting out again.

Octavia64 · 20/01/2026 11:07

I’m sorry.

verbal agreements count for nothing.
what matters is what is written down - and the contract has a four month break clause.

sorry

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 20/01/2026 11:05

Shedmistress · 20/01/2026 11:02

So you moved in 6 weeks ago? And have had a new roof already?

That is amazing.

Yeah this is…very prompt

Devuelta81 · 20/01/2026 11:02

I am really sorry for your situation, unfortunately however I don't think you have any recourse, as others have said circumstances change. I've been on the other side of it and promised I would be a long term tenant and then my partner and I split a few months later and needed to move out. This is the risk of renting and with that expenditure per month I would really be trying to buy as that should be affordable.

In terms of the issues, these things happen whether you own or rent and those don't seem like long turnaround times for the repairs.

Shedmistress · 20/01/2026 11:02

So you moved in 6 weeks ago? And have had a new roof already?

That is amazing.

TallulahBetty · 20/01/2026 11:00

I'm sorry. Why did you sign knowing that there was a 4-month break clause? Your gut was telling you it was strange.

At 3k per month for rent, are you in a position to buy? I am assuming you have a good income - any savings for a deposit?

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 20/01/2026 10:59

I am a LL. We have served notice on all of our properties with tenants (one has already been emptied). It may be a long process, but has to be started before it’s not possible to ask someone to leave at all.

This is the consequences of the Renter’s Bill.

I’m sorry for the situation you are in.

Chiseltip · 20/01/2026 10:59

This what the new Renters Rights Bill has done to tenants like you OP. The LL simply can't rely on STC or verbal agreements anymore. The government banned them, tying the LL's hands and giving him no option but to evict you as legally he can't offer any other rental terms.

You'll just have to find another place to live. Technically, you could just refuse to move out, he would then have to take you to court. This would give you a few months extra, if you don't need a reference from your current LL it's an option I guess.

Passaggressfedup · 20/01/2026 10:57

These are really bad circumstances. I get it from both sides. It's normal they would want to help their daughter before anything else, but it's horrible for you and your family to go through this. I'm really sorry.