Where do you hide your running away fund

If you want to keep it a secret, Marcus high onto account, all don't via an app on the phone, no letters or anything. I also have ISAs and an online only savings account with the same bank we have our joint account with, and my DH can't see that or access it. Premium bonds I still get letters for, but assume there's a way you can get it without any mail.

Not really. I have other investments but was responding to the OP’s specific question which is presumably looking for an easy access low profile way to keep money.

Is there something concerning for you?

My partner has zero issue with my "running away fund" and even donated towards it 😂 to round it up to an amount where I could afford to pay expenses of properties and for the kids for 2 years. Only rule is that its untouched until its needed.

We also have properties separately and one together.

That's why I ask if there's something concerning you, that it has to be secret? Can you not discuss your fears and concerns as a female and how you'd feel safer with a running away fund?

Because it would belong to her, not you.

I don't really understand any of this, OP, but I would open an online bank account like Monzo or Starling and get them to send any post to your workplace.

Because she or her father could spend the money as they wish.

I think you really need to explain to him the importance of saving and take some of both of your money from the joint account.

I was gonna say this. Me and my DH have a decent solid marriage and I have no intention of leaving. (Don't know about him!) 😬 But yeah anyway, a few times in the past, the marriage has gone through rough patches, and I have wished I could get away, and would have welcomed a get away fund.

It's a bit smug to say 'I have never needed one!' I mean, lovely for you, but there's no need to look down your nose at people who DO have a getting away fund.

I have a savings account and joint account with Halifax. The savings only shows up on my app and login, not my partners.

I signed up to paperless so all statements etc are emailed. Nothing comes to the house. Mine isn't deliberately secret but banks have strong gdpr rules. Your partner will only be aware if he knows your log in or email passwords

open a Revolut account leave it on savings as it earns interest ?

I have my own bank account with several different saving “pots”attached to it. We never really discuss what’s in my account but if it ever comes up I only talk about what’s in my main account. I have been a single mum previously and whilst I have ZERO intention of splitting up I don’t like the thought of not having anything set aside
some of it is Inheritance from my Grandma and he said I have to spend it on myself- so far I have used it for dental treatment and a kitten but the rest is in an ISA
We have never had a joint account as he came into the marriage with bad credit so we have just always had it our own and pay a few bills each

I put it in the highest paying savings account or ISA that I can find, the money is paid in on payday like all the other standing orders and direct debits, so it just looks like another bill. If you are saving £500 a month, then make 2/3 smaller payments to monthly savers as they pay 6/7%

Does he gamble or have other addiction issues? Are you not in the uk because he’s not from here and you don’t feel safe or you have little autonomy?

If you are putting it in an envelope he or anyone else will not be aware of it and if you separate it would be difficult to track and split is the direction I think you are going…
if you put in an online ISA and opt out of paper you’d have to declare if seperation. Assuming you are married.

How about just dump you "DP" - they are not very dear if youre enquiring about a fund to run away from them.

Leave them in your rear view.

There aren’t any new or original places to hide cash in a house.

If you think you need one, you are in the wrong relationship

Missed the bit where her DH funded comprehensive wraparound childcare during this time- or do you think OP is obliged to provide this gratis?

Maybe you have never been caught up in a relationship that needed one. When you have DC responsibilities it is another thing, plus the DH handles all the monetary affaires, car and housing, you cannot judge,

Separate bank account.

Tip I've seen said on here. You can get cashback at some supermarkets and then it just looks like a shop you've done at Tesco or wherever. Pay the withdrawn cash into your new account at a post office branch. That saves any transfers showing up on your joint account statement. Is he the type who pores over bank statements?

If you’re not in the uk would a safety deposit box be an option?

So the op worked part time for years and mainly lived off her dp's salary and now thinks its ok to not consider her income as family money? Sounds like there are major relationships problems